• anal play and straight guys

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    Lovethekink [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm personally not a fan of anal play on me, hubby wanted to persuade me so I adopted the 'whatever you do to me, I'm going to do back to you' attitude and he went with it...

    It's been a good 12 months since he went anywhere near my bum (I just don't enjoy it) but I get turned on as hell by playing with his, be it fingers, toys or pegging and he loves it!

    Considering he only let me use fingers the first time as he wanted to do the same to me, he certainly learnt a thing or two about what he enjoys ;)

    He's certainly not gay, and by wearing a strap on I don't want to have a penis....
    He just enjoys the feeling it gives him and I enjoy the pleasure he gets out of it (and it's a change from my usual sub stance) Do what you enjoy and to hell with other people's opinions

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    I would love to explore anal play with the wife. Both ways.

    We tried it when we were younger (me to her) and, not knowing what we were doing, didn't do very well. I'm afraid that the past experience has made her relucant to be more adventerous nowadays.

    I must admit I never used to give my own anal pleasure much thought, but now I'm much more relaxed and open minded about it. I know that being curious about my wife massaging my prostate or pegging me with a strap-on doesn't change my sexual orientation. Maybe in time!

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    xxxPhoenix72 [sign in to see picture]
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    Pegging is an amazing sensation...... it doesn't have to be in a sub/dom kind of way, it's great when it's slow, deep and gentle too. It's an odd feeling, which I can't easily describe at this time of the morning! I found it quite emotional as well as sexual.

    Prostate massage is great and you may well find that, once you start down that road, you want more. It wasn't long ago that I was a little squeamish about an exploratory finger, now I can't get enough of being spanked, dildoed, plugged, pegged and now onto fisting!

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    Hi all, it's a shame anal play in straight men is such a taboo as most won't know what there missing, I'm a straight married man and I've been in to anal stimulation for years, recently I grew the confidence to bring it up with my OH, as she is also big into anal play she was more than happy to play, she often use dildos up my butt to milk my prostate, we do pegging on a regular basis and when I have time I have solo anal fun, my solo fun is mostly based around stretching which is more fun and sensitive than it sounds!
    Anal is great, guys try it!

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    @xxxPhoenix72 that sounds encouraging. Hopefully by exploring it myself I'll make her curious or be able to convince her to try something small on her again and work up that way.

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    xxxPhoenix72 [sign in to see picture]
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    It's definitely worthwhile spending some time getting to know your own body/limits before asking the OH to get busy down there. As I'm sure others have already said, it's impossible to use too much lube and start small!

    For my own peace of mind, before any anal play sessions, i like to use a douche, just to make sure I'm as clean as possible as I can't think of anything more off-putting than my OH being on the receiving end of...... I'll leave that to your imagination!

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    MrCollins [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow - I'm actually truly surprised to find that there are straight guys who would regard their bums being played with as an issue because it's "gay". That would never have crossed my mind (somewhat reinforced by the fact that the gay guys I've known didn't do anal!).

    Anyhoo, me and the other half aren't interested in anal at all, either for her, or for me. She doesn't like her bottom hole even being touched. It might be a taboo, it might be a bad experience, it might be... well, I don't really care because I don't have any urge to do it to her. I do have experience of anal with a previous GF, and yes, I know it can be enjoyable, but only if both want it. But I have no desire to do anything if it doesn't turn the OH on.

    Sticking with Boy on Girl anal for a moment, my experience is that some girls I want to do it to, and some girls I don't, I just don't have the urge or even get any pleasure out of fantasising about doing it. And, it turns out, the ones I wanted to do it to got a big kick out of it - it's one of their favourite things. But the ones I don't have any desire to, eg my OH, it usually turns out they don't want anything going near it!

    Same with watching porn for me, some (very few) girls I'm dying to see them do anal, but most, if it happens, I'm turned off and stop watching. In general, the idea of anal doesn't turn me on. BUT, and we talked a lot about it the other day, if my OH ever gets curious or aroused about the idea (her bottom), then give a shout, I'll join in, I'm open to the idea if it turns her on.

    Now, anal and me... The girl I did anal with years ago, REALLY wanted to do it to me. I was up for it, I'll give anything a go. But it really didn't do anything for me at all. It was uncomfortable, distracting and killed erections. She found the same as me, if something doesn't turn the recipient on, it loses the attraction (and we found plenty of other ways for her to "be in control" for a bit). She was still slightly fixated with the idea, though, and I got the impression that she thought I "ought" to learn how to find something arousing about it... I kinda feel that attitude is wrong about any stuff in a relationship. If you try something, and it doesn't turn you on, it doesn't turn you on. I was quite happy for her to continue playing with my bottom if she wanted, but that didn't seem to be enough.

    I am intrigued by anal and me - and now we've found toys, it's quite likely I'll experiment on my own again (that poor girl from 20 years ago... wouldn't it be terrible if I got into it now! LOL). But I have done this, on my own, ever since I can remember (mid 1970s at least), and it's never heightened anything for me.

    But the idea that some guys think it's "gay" - I'm sorry, I just don't get how they could think that, maybe I've been a bit naive... Although, incidentally, I would defend their right to feel like that, if it's how they feel. However, if I ever do meet someone who expresses that idea to, I'd love to help them understand that some people like their bottoms played with, some don't, and both types are ok.

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    adamlovesfinediningwinkwink [sign in to see picture]
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    Absolutely love it, yet don't treat myself half as much as I should. Have just bought a rather girthy dong to replace the one I had, and ordered a prostate massager to see how they feel. We have a strap-on for the wife to use but we haven't got around to that. As long as more people keep talking about it, the more people will be accepting of it.

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    really helpfull

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    think my oh wont as she thinks its dirty or she thinks its gay but enjoys me fingering her?

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    charliemichelle [sign in to see picture]
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    i want to try oh wont but wont push her

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    charliemichelle wrote:

    i want to try oh wont but wont push her

    Why dnt you try aome solo anal play try a small plug and plenty lube to start

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