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    Zerlina [sign in to see picture]
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    binky59 wrote:

    I met an old girlfriend from damn nearly thirty years ago recently. She was bisexual then and a lesbian now and she reckons all bisexuals eventually become homosexual. Its not the first time I've heard this said.

    I've heard it said too, and I think it's nonsense. I mean, I've also heard people say that all bisexuals eventually become straight! There's a lot of prejudice against bisexuals in the gay community, sadly, and you get people who simply don't believe that bisexuality exists, and reckon we're just closet cases. Yes, we exist, it's really not a big deal. Some people take quite a long time working out their orientation, especially if they're under social pressure about it. I've come across far more women than men who identify as bi, and I think that's because men are under more pressure to be "one thing or the other". Some people find that they spend most of their time in either the gay or the straight community, and that affects who they end up dating. There are also people who find that their orientation shifts over the course of their life, and while that's less common, it's still perfectly normal. I dithered for a while when I was first coming out. Random fact: people who are transitioning quite often find that the hormone changes change their orientation. A friend of mine who's a trans women was attracted only to men before she transitioned, and only to women since then. People are complex! I sometimes wonder whether hormonal treatments such as contraception can affect this sort of thing at all. They can certainly affect your libido, after all.

    I've heard people theorise that "we're all bisexual really", and the odd thing is that it's almost never bisexuals who say that, at least in my experience. I don't think everyone's really bisexual, but I do reckon there would be a lot more people identifying as bi if we lived in a lovely ideal society where none of this was stigmatised in the slightest. I think things are improving in this respect, though. Young people are apparently a lot less likely to worry about fixing a label on their orientation these days, which is great. My partner's straight, but very relaxed about it all. He's snogged a bloke or two back when he was a student, it wasn't for him, he knows where he is in that respect. He's a great LGBT ally, pushes my wheelchair at Pride with a nice rainbow ribbon on, and that's a relief, as my previous partner was bisexual but firmly closeted about it, and expected me to be closeted too.

    Gender identity is a different thing to sexual orientation, by the way. My being attracted to people regardless of their gender has nothing to do with how I dress or what colours I like. Some people like to fit in with certain stereotypes related to orientation, whether those are gay stereotypes or straight ones (there isn't much in the way of bi stereotypes), but the link is complex. Say you're a butch woman, for instance. You could be gay, straight or bi, you could be someone who has always felt intensely that butchness is the only thing that feels right for you, or you could find that it's more of a choice about how you present yourself, and you like where it fits into the lesbian community.

    I think there are a fair amount of people who are principally only attracted to one gender, but it's not entirely simple. You get straight women who appreciate other women, maybe even fancy them a bit, but don't want to sleep with them. Or perhaps they do like sex with other women on occasion, but it's a purely sexual thing and they're not interested in relationships with women. That's all fine, people do vary. Our society is always presenting women as sex objects, so it's not surprising that even straight women find themselves considering the sexual appeal of other women. Or you get people who are interested in relationships, but not interested in sex. I do know people who have romantic partners but are asexual, or near-asexual, but I'm trying to think whether any of them are more interested in sex with people of one specific gender.

    And of course some folks are non-binary, somewhere in between being a man and a woman in terms of their gender identity. All the non-binary folks I know are bi, and I think their partners tend to be as well, though possibly it's just that bisexuals are less likely to be transphobic about non-binary folks.

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    I'd consider myself straight as I have no real attraction to men, but every now and then I get a real burning desire to suck cock, currently going through one such spell!

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    Thank you Zerlina for the extensive input!

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    Totally agree with the theory behind the Kinsey scale and I think that sexual tendencies change (for most people) during their life. I am happy to label myself bisexual and,over the last 20 years or so (I am 43 now) I have definitely moved along the scale from narrow minded straight male to open minded, definitely bisexual male. I can't imagine that i will ever move further along the scale towards gay, but never say never!

    I love women and am very happy in my relationship (with a wonderful woman) and wouldn't want to change that. I don't think I could ever be in a relationship with another man as there's just too much about women I would miss.

    I also totally get the 'sexually attracted but not physically attracted' comment that has come up in this thread. I can appreciate a good looking guy, but that doesn't mean i want to go to bed with them. For me, the attraction of a guy is purely from the neck down PLUS a likeable personality

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    I went and did the test but couldn't draw a result......confusion hits me like a ton of bricks here. Back on point definitely straight I see feminine beauty however not in a sexual manor. must admit im not keen on labelling sexualities in all honesty have alot of friends with different preferences to myself who don't like been labelled. definitely an interesting read this one it's interesting seeing others opinions.

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    simplysexy wrote:

    I’m a lesbian, who has only ever been with other women and is only interested in women.

    I’m a firm believer in the Kinsey scale, which basically shows sexuality as a spectrum of different degrees of attraction. I think that is a far better way of thinking about sexuality than simply in strict categories of gay, bisexual, heterosexual.

    People have trouble thinking about my sexuality because I’m very secure with my use of sex toys; “why use a strap on when you could be with a real man?!” – that type of ignorance infuriates me, and it’s an attitude that has been used to invalidate my sexuality by men and lesbian/bisexual women.

    You aren't the odd one out at all, hopefully you don't feel like that anymore :)

    But why use a strap on etc? I don't mean to infuriate or offend, it's something I just don't understand.

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    ... Because they're fun to use?

    I'm sorry, it's not the in depth psychological analysis some people expect, but it's the truth. Strap on's are fun to use!

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    Just done the test thing, I scored a 1

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    Can anyone ever be 100% anything?

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    I'm not saying you think it matters or is impoartant, but I really don't think it matters or is important.

    Liking men or liking woman makes about as much difference as liking apple juice or liking orange juice. And sure maybe some people like Tropical juice. Or Grapefruit juice?

    When you're in the privacy of your own home, you should drink whatever juice you want.

    Dammit, I really want a glass of juice now. Good thing I didn't go with an ice-cream metaphore.

    Ah dammit...

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    IrishChris wrote:

    I'm not saying you think it matters or is impoartant, but I really don't think it matters or is important.

    Liking men or liking woman makes about as much difference as liking apple juice or liking orange juice. And sure maybe some people like Tropical juice. Or Grapefruit juice?

    When you're in the privacy of your own home, you should drink whatever juice you want.

    Dammit, I really want a glass of juice now. Good thing I didn't go with an ice-cream metaphore.

    Ah dammit...

    *Licks a cornetto at 11.11pm* Damn you....

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    Sorry for the double post :/

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    Dali256 wrote:

    Can anyone ever be 100% anything?

    Yes, I think you can. And I like all sorts of juices ;)!
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    I'd say I'm around a 2 I'm in a straight relationship but find women attractive sexually

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    By the Kinsey scale hubby is 0 and wifey is 2. But that's what we would have expected

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    It failed to match me even though I answered all the questions

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    I`m a 0 so 100% straight !

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    i am unsure myself about this myself.

    i consider myself 100 percent straight but have had dreams often inculding women and group sex although this wouldnt appeal to me irl i am still left ondering why ?

    I dont watch porn as it does nothing to me and i find lesbian porn a bit full on with the tongues amnd stuff it just puts me off

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    I am 100% comfortable with my sexuality but there is a BUT :-)

    I haven't had the urge to suck cock like a couple of the others on here but I have had recent thoughts about masturbating another guy. I wondered if this made me a little gay or bi.

    Well I got the opportunity at a swinging club recently when myself and OH were in a private box with glory holes. It was our first time so we were unsure at first what to do so we started by masturbating any that came through and then my OH started riding them after I said it would be ok. She then suggested I might try riding one but it didn't interest whatsoever.

    I didn't find it particularly stimulating and I guess I have now got it out of my system as I haven't had any more thoughts about it but we both had a lot of fun in there for an hour or so.

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    My sexuality has gone through several shifts over the years. I always tend to have one gender I prefer over the other but it switches back and forth.

    I had a period of five years where I would not have full sex with a man and felt very little attraction to men, currently I can't get enough and want to worship male bodies.

    I think both bisexuality and 'shifts in sexuality' are more common than reported.

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