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    Hello everyone!

    I’ve been reading a different thread today (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1190813-secretly-bisexual/) and a good amount of the comments over there mentioned something that got me thinking… are we ALL some % bi-curious???

    I know I am not. I am 100% straight, in fact, I would dare to say, I am 110% straight LOL!

    Please do not get me wrong, I am not a homophobe, I only ever once managed to have an earthshattering orgasm fully clothed and without even touching myself being alone in my office and it happened watching very convincing threesome gay (males) porn!

    I am also not a masculine type of woman, I prefer dressing up elegantly in everyday life too, I have nothing against skirts, dresses, make-up and whatever else us women torture ourselves with! I enjoy girlfriend times and silly girly things like given the choice in a sex toy clearly for me, I often go for the bright pink. But I never did get why breasts and vaginas would be attractive, and why some women say penises are ugly .

    I can watch women making out in porn, but does nothing to me (good or bad), I can notice if a woman is beautiful or not (granted, it is oh so subjective!), I just can’t tell if she’s attractive or not… I could never see myself with a woman, not even in a threesome, but I can very well fantasize about threesomes including another man (in all sorts of types and scenarios). I thrive much pleasure from nipple/breast play, I like receiving oral as much as most women, I prefer my orgasms internally from penetration however. And I absolutely need a penis involved for me to be completely satisfied with sex, substitutes are just never good enough LOL!

    Does this make me the odd one out???

    I know this thread will have no scientific statistical value whatsoever, but I would be very curious to know the opinion of straight, gay or bi-curious people too!

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    I had a few gay fumbles when younger,but I think that's a growing up thing, I now know I'm straight

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    I'm definitely not 100% straight, but I'm in a straight relationship. I don't know if I'd call myself bisexual, probably pansexual because gender is irrelevant to me when choosing a parter. I've had sex with both men and women, and loved it either way.

    I think I'd much rather have a relationship with a man, but if I loved a woman that wouldn't stop me wanting to be with her. If my OH grew a vagina tomorrow I'd still be with him and love him the same as always. :)

    In terms of sexual attraction though, I can get turned on by both men and women. I think it's because I love sex though, the human body in general is attractive because of what you can do with it! That might sound odd...

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    I'm

    straight 100 per cent have never fantasied about women at all porn does nothing for me either, so theres another oddity I have to fancy the man I fantasise about as well.

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    Not that I need my options reopened, mind you, as I am happy and satisfied in my relationship, but I do envy you Boogaloo for the way you're fine with whatever gender! You do certainly have way more options out there to have fun with, instead of us 100% straight or 100% gay people...

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    era wrote:

    Not that I need my options reopened, mind you, as I am happy and satisfied in my relationship, but I do envy you Boogaloo for the way you're fine with whatever gender! You do certainly have way more options out there to have fun with, instead of us 100% straight or 100% gay people...

    Haha :p Well, not so much. I'm in a comitted relationship with my male partner and hope to keep it that way for the rest of my life (n'aww), so as far as I'm concerned I don't need options anymore. But I can see what you're saying :)

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    Thank you all for your comments, and especially simplysexy, as I was indeed anxious to know if the same certainty about one’s sexual preferences toward one gender or another is common and beyond any doubt identifiable as 100% also in the LG community. Again, not because I think lesbian/gay people are different, but simply because of the stigma that unfortunately our society still generally puts on children growing up. Maybe children today are thought otherwise, but most I think are not, and our generation certainly was not raised by teaching to young people that one can be not attracted to the other gender! We just assume everybody is straight and this makes it more difficult to know whether you are or not indeed straight when growing up, I would assume. It’s so enlightening to just know and be ok with it!

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    Ok, so I googled the Kinsey scale (you learn something every day, haha). Me being 100% straight makes me a 0, simplysexy I deduce you're a 6. What's everybody else's number (or percentage)?

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    I think that makes me a 2 on the kinsey scale, I like men, I like women, but made to choose it would be men over women. :L

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    According to a Kinsey scale test online, I'm a solid 3, making me equally hereosexual and homosexual. I'm not sure though, I kind of don't see sexuality as a 'thing', you just love who you love right? Who knows!

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    My fault, I think it was my comment that got you thinking ( probably others too)

    in my own eyes a lot comes down to how you perceive yourself as well as others, at the end of the day the only thing that identifies you as a gender is your genitals.

    You as an individual are your own person. As a female I haven't always identified as a woman, I have been through several phases in my life where I feel predominantly masculine, I have regular bouts of cock envy, I have on occasion found women attractive sometimes in a sexual nature, I could possibly referred to as pan sexual as whilst I've been single I realised if I connected with a women I wouldn't feel any different about myself, I'm probably carrying androgynous personality traits where I can identify with both genders. I often fantasise about having a penis and being with both genders, the climax from these daydreams are really quiet incredible.

    But at the end of the day Id be just me. It's easy to overthink things like this and over analyse.

    I approach life without judgement towards others, my ex was a homophobe, any new person he met he would determine in his head an opinion of their gayness and whether he would engage in conversation with them. Me I accept everyone as their own individuality, sexuality isn't even considered nor does it phase me.

    I will have a nosey at this scale thing though.

    scale result is a 3 I identify with both homo and heterosexual

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    Sexuality is so confusing! My partner is a man and he says that he's just about 100% straight. He's thought about whether he's sexually attracted to men because everyone always thought that he was gay, but has never had any sort of attraction or inclination towards men. Usually when guys say they're 100% straight I'm a bit skeptical because of seeing sexuality as a fluid sort of scale and thinking they might just be a bit worried about homosexual feelings, but I really do believe that he has no desire towards men at all.

    I'm sort of the opposite, although I get very confused about sexual attraction. I don't really understand the important aspects of orientation, like whether it's important who you find attractive or what you enjoy sexually. I orgasm from heterosexual sex but I'm exclusively physically attracted to women. Physically I enjoy the feeling of sex with a man, but I feel no sexual desire for men, no lust about their appearance, etc. so that leaves me completely confused. I'd love to know what factors people think are important in orientation - the gender of who you want a relationship with / want to have sex with / want to objectify ?

    I found it really interesting reading the perspective of the original poster saying they're a woman totally not attracted to women, because I always sort of assumed that all women felt kind of how I do to some extent and were more physically attracted to other women even if they identify as straight. ....Perhaps that was a pretty stupid thing for me to think ;)

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    So I googled the online test and done the first result (I don’t know if it’s the same you’ve done Boo). It put me to 1 on the scale. Which is due to me not choosing "true" to the statement "I find the idea of having sex with another woman repulsive." I think this is a poor choice of words. I do not find it “repulsive”, it just gives me no sexual stimulus whatsoever. If I change my answer saying I do find it “repulsive”, I’m on 0… So I think the test I’ve done is pretty much a hit & miss. Maybe there are some better ones out there, but I will not search for them now.

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    Skitty wrote:

    Sexuality is so confusing! My partner is a man and he says that he's just about 100% straight. He's thought about whether he's sexually attracted to men because everyone always thought that he was gay, but has never had any sort of attraction or inclination towards men. Usually when guys say they're 100% straight I'm a bit skeptical because of seeing sexuality as a fluid sort of scale and thinking they might just be a bit worried about homosexual feelings, but I really do believe that he has no desire towards men at all.

    I'm sort of the opposite, although I get very confused about sexual attraction. I don't really understand the important aspects of orientation, like whether it's important who you find attractive or what you enjoy sexually. I orgasm from heterosexual sex but I'm exclusively physically attracted to women. Physically I enjoy the feeling of sex with a man, but I feel no sexual desire for men, no lust about their appearance, etc. so that leaves me completely confused. I'd love to know what factors people think are important in orientation - the gender of who you want a relationship with / want to have sex with / want to objectify ?

    I found it really interesting reading the perspective of the original poster saying they're a woman totally not attracted to women, because I always sort of assumed that all women felt kind of how I do to some extent and were more physically attracted to other women even if they identify as straight. ....Perhaps that was a pretty stupid thing for me to think ;)

    Wow, very interesting and confusing indeed!

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    simplysexy wrote:

    Era - I wouldn't put too much faith in online tests for sexuality. I think, reading up on each level of the scale, then seeing what sounds best fitted to how you feel. You know yourself better than a test, and I think sexuality is more complex than answering yes/no to a bunch of statements :)

    I absolutely agree (for sexuality or whatever else)! Just thought it would be fun given I have some time on my hands...

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    I'm a female in a straight relationship. I can say I'm 100% straight but I can fully appreciate an attractive woman. In fact I think I comment more openly about attractive women than I do attractive men, maybe I just think it's more acceptable to do so. But thought it was interesting to throw that out there.

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    i cant even place myelf on the scale! i dont know what proportion i am stright/gay. Im not straight or gay so just somewhere in the middle. its not important to me labelling sexuality or gender i know Im none of the extremes (straight/gay, boy/girl) Im omewhere in the middle so whats th point trying to label it, i dont feel the need ot justify my sexual preferences or "gender orientated behaviour" Im me and its awesome :)

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    Young and fun95 wrote:

    i cant even place myelf on the scale! i dont know what proportion i am stright/gay. Im not straight or gay so just somewhere in the middle. its not important to me labelling sexuality or gender i know Im none of the extremes (straight/gay, boy/girl) Im omewhere in the middle so whats th point trying to label it, i dont feel the need ot justify my sexual preferences or "gender orientated behaviour" Im me and its awesome :)

    +1 here

    this exactly.

    people get too hung up on gender sexuality and labels. We are who we are.

    It's just others who feel they have a right to label an individual they're the ones uncomfortable with themselves.

    There should only ever but one gender or sexuality - individual!

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    That scale test was interesting! I came out as a 2 - predominantly hetero but more than indicentaly homo. Seems about right to me. I whole heartedly agree with the idea that you fall in love with a person and the genital arangements don't really matter.

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    i just did the test, it gave me a three but th test is utter bullsh*t 10 questions to determine sexuality and one of the results is "either you answered a question wrong or you're weird" -_-

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