• Any tips on how to introduce my husband to anal

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    Louise 13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all I've been trying to persuade my husband to try anal play for some time now I'm very very fond of it myself and i want him to experience it to. I have played around there with my fingers but I can't seem to get it right or get him to relax :-/ any advice or tips ? Cheers guys

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    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm not into anal and neither is my OH but my best suggestion is to give him a blowjob, nice and slow get him really worked up then while giving him some intense head play, slip a finger in and gently circle round. If he like it he will come for you straight away.

    Worth a try?

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    Louise 13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely worth a try thanks :)

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    Audrianna87 [sign in to see picture]
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    You could maybe try sticking a vibrator against his bum while your giving him oral. Or maybe watch some porn with it involved and talk to him about it while you are watching together.

    Not great advice but hopfully helps a little.

    x

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    HappilyExperimenting [sign in to see picture]
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    If he can't relax that means he's nervous or tense. Make sure you use anal lube to play around that area - pressing a vibrator to the bit between his balls and anus can produce a stronger orgasm. Totally agree with Fun Louise about giving him oral and then inserting a finger during! Excellent advice!

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    fantasia fairy [sign in to see picture]
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    HappilyExperimenting wrote:

    If he can't relax that means he's nervous or tense. Make sure you use anal lube to play around that area - pressing a vibrator to the bit between his balls and anus can produce a stronger orgasm. Totally agree with Fun Louise about giving him oral and then inserting a finger during! Excellent advice!

    +1 LH sell some super slim butt plugs (like finger size) so maybe one of them? then get him to sit on it and then you straddle him and ride him that way. Your rocking will help the plug to push against his p-spot.

    I'm not sure really. I was abit like your guy about trying anal and i'm still on a slimline butt plug working out things i like and building up. Start small :)

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    Louise 13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheers guys getting him relaxed is the worse problem total understandable. il definitely start small it took me a very long time of gentle encouragement to really really enjoy it . Will definitely try oral to start ;-)

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    As a man I can tell you communication is the most important thing!

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    john69 [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife started by giving me oral, licking my balls and slowly down to my perineum. While doing that she gently lubed my anus and eventually let a finger slip in. That was a start of a wonderful journey into anal play. Now, years after this first experience we're rimming and fisting each other and we really enjoy it!

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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally, I just cannot get on with fingers for some reason unknown to me. This may be an issue for him too to relax.

    I find slipping in a slim plug for a while, then working up to a larger one and keeping it in and forgetting about it helps me massively to relax for play time.

    Also first and foremost - there may be other reasons that he is uncomfortable with anal play - the age old myth being 'it makes him gay' blah blah blah.

    Maybe that needs to be overcome too if it is an issue

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    tryeverythingonce69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Just Jenson wrote:

    Also first and foremost - there may be other reasons that he is uncomfortable with anal play - the age old myth being 'it makes him gay' blah blah blah.

    Maybe that needs to be overcome too if it is an issue

    +1

    It could be something you need to talk about together before getting right in there with a toy hun, maybe tell your OH how it feels for you and that you really want to pleasure him, let him know his P-spot would love a little loving and it'd feel great for him - just break down any negative preconceptions he might have about anal play in general :)

    My OH absolutely loves anal play now, one day whilst he was wanking I started licking around his balls and slowly went down his perineum and flicked my tongue near the rim and from his reaction (moaning louder, breathing heavily and telling me to carry on) I knew he loved it and carried on until he climaxed. Other times, whilst riding him, i've let my bullet slip down and rest on his perineum before reaching back and massaging his hole with a finger (not inserting it, just massage) -  OH said that opened him up and got him excited and ready for when I did finger him - perhaps give something like that a go.

    You mentioned you can't seem to get finger play right, my advice would be give your OH a massage first and get him relaxed; once I went straight for my OH's bum with a finger when he wasn't completely relaxed and he felt a burning sensation so we stopped. Times where I've slowly built everything up whether that's a full-body massage, rimming his hole with my finger/thumb/tongue and massaging the perineum BEFORE entering with a finger or toy, I've found it's much more pleasureable for my OH :)

    Also, lube is a must as always! LH do great anal lubes (they're thicker than standard lubes) which can help with relaxing your OH and helping to insert your fingers and toys. Just start slow, ALWAYS communicate whilst you're doing it to make sure he's comfortable - hope everything goes well :)

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    hornycuple [sign in to see picture]
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    my 1st bum fun was life changing in the sexual department. We have a fondness of latex & pvc outfits, especially elbow gloves, we have a pair each & with baby oil we stroke each other where it feels nice (after shaving of course). The slippery smoothness feels amazing (especially around the end of my toger!) So while i was focused on her 1 hand doing this her other made its way round the back to stroke oil round my hole, then in about 1 second she just fingered me to the hilt! My eyes shot open & i ejaculated instantly all over my self! it was like nothing id felt b4 & since then shes had all shapes n sizes slipped in ( at my request after a few wines) . i used to feel a bit embarrased because id go rock hard as she starts to oil my hole even tho i was nervus! now she gets off on reminding me it gets hard because deep down i like being penatrated. quite humiliating to agree with her i get turned on being fukced but hey what can u do? all i know is that ejaculating while being pegged is the most intense orgasm ever & needs to be tried by every man! tell him that! good look

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    Kimberleyking [sign in to see picture]
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    i have tried and failed anal play with my fiance as he just doesnt like it he gets too tense and says it feels like he needs the toilet i enjoy it akot though and want him to experience prostate massage however he just refuses

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