• Safewords

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    ChloeW96 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi guys!

    I posted a few weeks ago now starting off the 'Fantasies' thread as I was having a bit of worry which I needed to be put at ease. Firstly, this has been over come, which leads me to this thread!

    During play i need some sort of safe word so that i can tell my partner when i feel uncomfortable or when something hurts, when its getting too much, so that i don't have to break out of character.

    I suffer from anxiety and therefore if i broke out of character then i wouldn't be able to get back into it, which would compleatly ruin everything.

    If any of you could give me any hints or tips as to what you all use for safe words that would be great as I'm unsure of what to use!

    Thank you :)

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    Sometimes, I've founbd with nervous players, that using an object to make a noise for them (like a remote to control a cd player), can work better as they're less likely to calm-up.

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    john69 [sign in to see picture]
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    We're using colours as safe words, "green" for continue, "yellow" for be cautious but don't stop and "red" for stop.

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    Ok so oh has decided me may at some point in the future need a safeword - no idea why ;)

    Should I choose one for him or let him pick one ? I have my safeword but I cant remember which one of us picked it ?

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    lustyjoy [sign in to see picture]
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    john69 wrote:

    We're using colours as safe words, "green" for continue, "yellow" for be cautious but don't stop and "red" for stop.

    Exactly what we use for same reasons
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    Boogaloo [sign in to see picture]
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    Mine is 'pancakes', however I've never needed to use it ;)

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    MissNoir [sign in to see picture]
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    Mine is 'Banana', I'll use it when things get too much or I'm uncomfortable, when I'm in pain I say Stop as he'll know it means something's wrong, if you cannot speak, I suggest a taping system, if I have a gag/choked/or hands are tied behind me, if I tap twice very fast on his arm everything stops.

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    M-J [sign in to see picture]
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    Ours is pineapple. When picking your word make sure its not something like "stop" as it can be misconstrued.

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    redqueenwildboy [sign in to see picture]
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    We use a dog training clicker. Very cheap, and usually come with a wrist strap so there's no danger of dropping it! Audible over a lot of noise, attracts attention quickly, and can be used while the mouth is out of action.

    One click means "ease off a bit", and repeated clicks mean "stop". Useful for subs who may feel a little awkward about piping up, and feels a little "cooler" than shouting "Kangaroo!" during a scene.

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    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't do role play, or bondage but one of my x boyfriends liked it and had a set of cards like referee cards yellow for warning it's getting a bit much and red for stop. He said he had them because he liked to use a gag mask and still neede to convey when things were getting too much.

    Worth bearing in mind if you use a gag or mask.

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    Cuff Links [sign in to see picture]
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    We use a squeaky ball so it works with a gag. When it's squeaked, I stop everything and ask if I should stop (it's been squeaked by accident a couple times) and if so, I immediately untie/ungag my partner and ask if he needs a drink or anything.

    We also have a safeword that's only been used twice because limbs were getting stiff/uncomfortable. Ours is "Toba" in reference to the school trip to Lake Toba where we got to know each other.

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    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    FLÜGGÅӘNKб€ČHIŒßØLĮÊN

    someone will know what this is from.

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    Ink and Kink [sign in to see picture]
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    john69 wrote:

    We're using colours as safe words, "green" for continue, "yellow" for be cautious but don't stop and "red" for stop.

    +1 I use the traffic light system for safe words too :')
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    Naughty Miss K [sign in to see picture]
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    drurysl02 wrote:

    john69 wrote:

    We're using colours as safe words, "green" for continue, "yellow" for be cautious but don't stop and "red" for stop.

    +1 I use the traffic light system for safe words too :')

    I use this one too. I've played at parties, at this system was great with people I haven't played with before, as they couldn't read my signs as well. Yelling yellow, or amber, gives them chance to check I'm okay, make adjustments and carry on without breaking the scene.

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    FrozenAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    flaneur wrote:

    FLÜGGÅӘNKб€ČHIŒßØLĮÊN

    someone will know what this is from.

    haha, I loved that scene in RT it cracked me up.

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    greenlantern [sign in to see picture]
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    I've always used the name of the lady's hometown

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    I use butterfly never needed it but its something just in case

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    mysteron [sign in to see picture]
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    In a role play were impact play is going to be a part , particularly a discipline style punishment , we use the following system to help guage the pain created from the blows .

    Red - Stop

    Orange - Near to limit ease off

    Green OK /Try harder.

    For the Orange and Greens we also add a number on a scale of 1-10 ie soft to severe.

    For example a Green 6 if I was on the receiving end would be please try harder.

    But a Orange 6 from my OH would mean don't do it any harder.

    We have used this system sucessfully now on quite a few occasions.

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    mr sp [sign in to see picture]
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    How about, yes, no, ouch, mmmmmmmmm, more or stop.

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