• Secretly bisexual

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    Lord love length [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow some of you guys have thought about this . But I have to agree with the majority .

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    sexynurse09 [sign in to see picture]
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    I would tell her. It's hard after 10 years because she will inevitably wonder why you didn't tell her sooner and will probably have a lot of questions.
    I'm bisexual and made sure I told my guy at the very beginning. It's not something that can be changed so I wanted him to have the choice to stay with me or not. Luckily, he thought it was awesome :-)
    It's hard to say how your wife will be, especially after 10 years. Only one way to find out!
    I can only speak for myself when I say if my husband told me he likes guys too I'd be very happy. You never know - maybe your wife might have some attraction to ladies but didn't want to tell you?
    Just a thought.

    Best of luck and do let us know how it goes xx

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    Fun Louise [sign in to see picture]
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    You say you have slept with men in the past, is this while married? Does your wife know this about you?

    Think long and hard before broaching this with her, she might feel betrayed. Hopefully she will be understanding but caution needs to be excersized.

    Lif you have been married for 10 years do you really think that she has no idea that men turn you on?

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    OpenMindedAlice [sign in to see picture]
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    Since you're on here, can I assume you like toys?
    What about introducing the issue via some sex play with your wife?
    You could buy a strap on or a 2-person dildo that she wears inside herself and can then fuck you with, then you could play out your fantasies together without anyone cheating.

    You might also like to share some erotic fiction or porn if you both like it, and see what turns you both on.

    She may well want to get into a 3-way or even an orgy.

    You've had your secret for a decade, I wonder what she's been keeping quiet about? You could have SO much fun exploring together.

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    OpenMindedAlice wrote:

    Since you're on here, can I assume you like toys?
    What about introducing the issue via some sex play with your wife?
    You could buy a strap on or a 2-person dildo that she wears inside herself and can then fuck you with, then you could play out your fantasies together without anyone cheating.

    You might also like to share some erotic fiction or porn if you both like it, and see what turns you both on.

    She may well want to get into a 3-way or even an orgy.

    You've had your secret for a decade, I wonder what she's been keeping quiet about? You could have SO much fun exploring together.

    +1

    this so many times over.

    i was in a relationship for 14yr married 9of them. He was a virgin when we met, I was very happy but largely sexually unsatisfied as I love experiment and kinky things but he was dead against the first few things I wanted to try so stopped asking. And he basically controlled sex for years.

    i will honestly wholehearted say though I feel than no one is 100% anything. Not 100% straight or gay, you've found your balance work with it. She deserves to know who you truly are. I wish I'd been able to express myself properly I probably would of have still been married.

    Obviously introducing this so far into a relationship I think porn or role play with toys will help to unlock the conversation

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    Lord love length [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't have to tell her cos she knows me so well . But if I had to I hope she would understand and that it wouldn't change anything ..... Good luck

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    James80 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes. As far as my friends and family know I'm as straight as they come. Nobody knows I like to sit on a cock from time to time. But quite enjoy having my little secret

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