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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    I can't seem to make myself orgasm no matter what I try I just can't do it anymore.

    I don't know why.

    Even during sex, I used to do it and I can't!

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    sassykitten;) [sign in to see picture]
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    How long as it gone on?

    Stress, upset or hormones can cause this along with many other things

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    sassykitten;) wrote:

    How long as it gone on?

    Stress, upset or hormones can cause this along with many other things

    a month or so.

    Im not really under stress and im not hormonal as I dont have periods due to the coil

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    I had this issue a few months back and when I posted on here the general opinion was that it happens sometimes, often for no apparent reason. It seemed that the more I tried the worse it got so I just forgot about it for a while and then something seemed to almost 'kick start' me again and I was fine again.

    Very annoying at the time, I really wanted/needed to orgasm but just couldn't, actually thought there was something wrong with me for a while but the reassurances on here made me feel better. Still had no idea why I couldn't and then I could again :/

    I guess the only advice I can offer is to pass on what others said - just dont worry about it and it'll soon happen again - and it has ! xx

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Terri JJ wrote:

    I had this issue a few months back and when I posted on here the general opinion was that it happens sometimes, often for no apparent reason. It seemed that the more I tried the worse it got so I just forgot about it for a while and then something seemed to almost 'kick start' me again and I was fine again.

    Very annoying at the time, I really wanted/needed to orgasm but just couldn't, actually thought there was something wrong with me for a while but the reassurances on here made me feel better. Still had no idea why I couldn't and then I could again :/

    I guess the only advice I can offer is to pass on what others said - just dont worry about it and it'll soon happen again - and it has ! xx

    I can but only with hubby doing it.

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    Hey have you tried using toy s during foreplay ?

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    Hormones are aways changing, it's not just when you have periods =)

    You could be fighting an infection you're not aware of, or virus. And you can be stressed and not realise it.

    I've also found that people who get diabetes have trouble orgasming, so it might be a good idea to get a blood sugar test done. But it might be you're not eating enough, as food is important.

    Sleep patterns effect orgasm, if yours have changed this may be it.

    and many other factors.

    Worrying about not being able to orgasm is often the one thing that makes it harder to orgasm. Although if you do keep finding it hard to orasm I would suggest popping to your GP to talk about it.

    Many women go through a phase like this, so try not to worry too much about it.

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    Maybe its like erectile dysfunction, not always a known cause and something people just get sometimes

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    VirginAngel wrote:

    Maybe its like erectile dysfunction, not always a known cause and something people just get sometimes

    That would be a concern... But isn't pinkanimal a lady with a fou-fou?
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    My bad... Just saw "like erectile dysfunction" not "maybe its erectile dysfunction".

    Still any excuse to type fou-fou is always welcome.

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    I get this sometimes, usually when I've been overdoing it with the toys! Worrying about not being able to orgasm just puts even more pressure on yourself.
    If it goes on too long maybe a visit to the doctor might be in order. If you've always been able to orgasm before then it's probably not likely to be permanent, these things often sort themselves out.

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    If you have a coil that is stopping your periods it is using hormones to stop them. The Mirena for example uses the same hormones involved with the pill. The only coils that don't use or affect hormones are copper coils such as the Nova-T. x

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    Yeah thanks guys just frustrates me.

    Guess hubby will have to just please me lol

    And lol macspants

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    Cheers... Was worried I might have come across as flippant which wasn't my intention. From a guys perspective if you get to caught up in the concern it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

    Maybe make sure you are 100% relaxed maybe even a bit tipsy. Sorry my advice isn't more science based.

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    macspants wrote:

    Cheers... Was worried I might have come across as flippant which wasn't my intention. From a guys perspective if you get to caught up in the concern it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

    Maybe make sure you are 100% relaxed maybe even a bit tipsy. Sorry my advice isn't more science based.

    No lol you made me laugh

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    I had been sexually active for 3-4 years before I had my first orgasm. I finally realised that I was kind of holding in my orgasm and it was my fault. So I bought my first rabbit and I kept trying and trying until I finally let go of my first orgasm. I was on my own, and I realised whqt it was and how it felt. So I knew later on whilst having sex how to let go. although I can only really orgasm by having foreplay not actual intercourse. But receiving oral is the best for me to orgasm. Although it does take me a while.

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    Ink and Kink [sign in to see picture]
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    I had been sexually active for 3-4 years before I had my first orgasm. I finally realised that I was kind of holding in my orgasm and it was my fault. So I bought my first rabbit and I kept trying and trying until I finally let go of my first orgasm. I was on my own, and I realised whqt it was and how it felt. So I knew later on whilst having sex how to let go. although I can only really orgasm by having foreplay not actual intercourse. But receiving oral is the best for me to orgasm. Although it does take me a while.

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    Have you been overdoing it with a vibe?

    Too much direct contact and for prolonged sesions can desensitize the nerves.

    Or are you giving yourself a mental block?

    Hope it comes back soon.

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    Have you been able to since the op? Maybe it's subconscious stress that you may cause pain? Mostly though, the more you worry about it and try and force an orgasm the harder it will be, think about something else or watch porn, or even mastubate with hubby. It'll come back, just need to relax x

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    ShinySparkle wrote:

    Lay off the toys, sex and touching and cuddling and all things like this for a week. Then, without toys or any aids, have an extremely sensual time with your hubby. Works wonders. Believe me ;)

    I agree here time for intimacy . It also seems the stressed frustration that you can't come could also be contributing to it . Take brake sweety it'll come back

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