• Phimosis don't know what do.

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    I Wish [sign in to see picture]
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    I have this and didn't know tell last year which makes me feel an idiot as I'm 50 this year.
    I just thought it was normal.
    I've done some reading up but not not come across anything for my age.I feel to stupid to go see the gp.
    Also my wife doesn't like the idea of the head being out which I feel is not right.
    I've spent most of my sex life using condoms until 2 years ago because this is what she wanted.
    I do feel that I would benefit more from sorting the problem. I think I'm missing out but then the wife will be the problem.
    Sex is not that often anyway and I always feel it's a chore for her instead of enjoyment.
    Makes me depressed and she won't talk about sex.
    What to do?

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    Cuddlekins [sign in to see picture]
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    First of all sex should never ever be a chore, that's a problem that the two of you either need to sit down and talk about or write your wife a letter telling her your concerns.

    Second go see your GP you are not stupid at all your GP can help you that's there job and you should never ever worry about going to see them, they deal with all sorts of problems and people like you who have a genuine problem they prefer to see over people going in after tablets or fake sick notes etc. Your not wasting there time or yours it would put your mind at ease after seeing just what help if available for you.

    I wish you the best in both talking to your wife and seeing your GP.

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    It'd probably be best to just see a GP and get a better idea of your options and then discuss them with your wife. It's unfortunate that your wife isn't very enthusiastic about sex :(

    There are probably some other older people who have this who haven't talked about it online because it's probably not something many people are comfortable discussing.

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    Cuddlekins wrote:

    First of all sex should never ever be a chore, that's a problem that the two of you either need to sit down and talk about or write your wife a letter telling her your concerns.

    Second go see your GP you are not stupid at all your GP can help you that's there job and you should never ever worry about going to see them, they deal with all sorts of problems and people like you who have a genuine problem they prefer to see over people going in after tablets or fake sick notes etc. Your not wasting there time or yours it would put your mind at ease after seeing just what help if available for you.

    I wish you the best in both talking to your wife and seeing your GP.

    +1

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    i would go see your gp, esp if it causes redness, soreness or irritation, or even effects you peeing. So no, you are not stupid.

    As for sex this is a different issue, is your wife going through 'the change'?

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    Sorry I Wish. Had to look it up. As others have said, GP is your best course of action. Once you get over the initial consultation I'm sure you will be more at ease. Best of luck.

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    Hi, my son had this as a child and suffered from regular infections. He managed to avoid circumcision as our consultant tried a new alternative procedure at the time where they detatch the foreskin underneath and stitch the now detatched skin in the opposite direction which makes the foreskin looser. It healed quickly with no problems.

    Hope this helps :)

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    I Wish - you should go and see your GP about this. The foreskin should be able to be retracted for a number of reasons - comfort, hygiene. In the long term it can [rarely] cause serious problems. I'm a hospital doctor, but have worked as a GP before - I can guarantee you that (at this time of year especially) your GP would be happy to see a problem they can actually address and help with. It would probably be a quick look, demonstrate it can't be retracted and a referral to the hospital for a Urologist to have a look. Most phimosis are dealt with via a circumcision. It is entirely normal for a urologist to sort this kind of thing out (at any age) - their 'bread and butter' so to speak.

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    definitely go see your gp, whether your wife finds it visually appealing or not there are many problems associated with this, clearly you've managed to live your life fully without too much discomfort but after treatment you'll be amazed at what you've been missing out on, the head is the most sensitive part of the penis and yours has been covered all this time so would epectedly be more sensitve as it hasn't been desenstised, i imagine since your body is fully developed there wont be many options other than circumsicion but its much less of an ordeal for adults than babies, just a little trim.

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    I Wish [sign in to see picture]
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    Well finely got the bottle to go see gp waste of time.
    He had look a my bit's check my testicles said I was fine
    I asked about cream to help skin stretch and got ignored next please.
    Disappointed.

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    That seems a real shame..I would persist and ask for a second opinion and referral to get a urologist. The shear fact it is making you depressed...affects your ability to function in a normal way day to day...and sex wise will make it even worse.
    Ultimately if it gives you pain/ affects your ability to perform etc... A doc can not really afford to ignore the situation.
    My partner is also suffering a bit with a trapped foreskin..but it does seem to be getting a bit better for him( I guess getting a lot of practice lubes it up😉😄😀)
    I read that gentle stretching each day can help stretch it so is can retract correctly.
    Gl

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    Luscious Libby wrote:

    Hi, my son had this as a child and suffered from regular infections. He managed to avoid circumcision as our consultant tried a new alternative procedure at the time where they detatch the foreskin underneath and stitch the now detatched skin in the opposite direction which makes the foreskin looser. It healed quickly with no problems.

    Hope this helps :

    This sounds like a really viable treatment option for you. Please see your GP he/she would much rather try to help a person with a problem than people who just want a sick note. GP's see alsorts and I mean everything from warts and boils to testicular cancer. Be brave the GP will not judge you, but they should be able to help.

    Im not a Dr but I work in the health service and there is very little that can shock us staff wise. I have known several men in their 80s with this problem and they just were not aware, thinking it to be normal. (It would not be professional for me to tell them there was a problem, they have got this far in life, why upset them now).

    your wife needs to understand that it's a medical problem not something you have decided to change. If she had a problem with her breasts she would seek help. I'm not sure if at her time of life she is up for toys, but maybe a bullet, small and not intimidating but could be fun for you both.

    your wife needs to understand its a problem that needs addressing not a choice you have made.

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    naughty mum wrote:

    That seems a real shame..I would persist and ask for a second opinion and referral to get a urologist. The shear fact it is making you depressed...affects your ability to function in a normal way day to day...and sex wise will make it even worse.
    Ultimately if it gives you pain/ affects your ability to perform etc... A doc can not really afford to ignore the situation.
    My partner is also suffering a bit with a trapped foreskin..but it does seem to be getting a bit better for him( I guess getting a lot of practice lubes it up😉😄😀)
    I read that gentle stretching each day can help stretch it so is can retract correctly.
    Gl.

    Your GP has no right to ignore you. Ask to see another DR! Physical and mental health go hand in hand. Push the matter, it's your body and it might need some attention. Definitely ask for a referral, it might take a few weeks to get an appointment with a specialist but push for it.

    Get past embarrassment I would get annoyed at how you have been treated.

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    Go back and see someone else, I did and it has made a massive difference. Takes getting used to but after a few months everything is so much better.

    Don't give up and it is worth getting sorted out.

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