• Anyone like it really rough,...anyone?!

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    Melody Mason [sign in to see picture]
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    Hello beautiful people!

    SO! After meeting an amazing guy, who just does it for me on so many levels we have an amazing sex life and im unbelivably attracted to him (you know when they just have that scent?).

    Anyway this is pure chemistry, because he has told me he has little sexual experience at 28, far less than myself at 21. He had never used sex toys before me, or even cum with girl on top.

    So im finding it hard to bring up that I LOVE IT ROUGH!

    How do i casually bring it up?!

    ''oh hey fancy spanking me hard, pulling my hair and giving me the old pinch and scratch?!''

    Dont get me wrong he is amazing in bed, but I feel im supressing this side of me through fear of making him run a mile!

    Any advice guys and girls?

    xxx

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    SensualFire [sign in to see picture]
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    welcome to LH to start of with :)

    Ever just talked to him about it, and see how he feels. Men dont like feeling that they are powerless or that their male ego is being taken down a peg or two. Sooo talk to him and tell him how you like it, say that your willing to let him do things and vise versa...

    Go in with your sexy `come n fuck me big boy` out fit on and hooker heels. Add some toys to the mix,,and woohooo...Maybe...possibly

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    I get bitten and hair pulled yes lol.

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    john69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Welcome to LH, Melody.

    If I were you I would probably go the slow path. Put on nipple clamps, ask him to suck your nipples, then bite them, then pull your clamps. Tell him you love it, ask him to pull and bite harder.

    If he goes for it - ask him to stroke your buttocks, then sqeeze them, then slap them and so on.

    If you're lucky he'll go for it.

    Good luck, my friend.

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    Luv bunny [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Melody,

    welcome to LH!

    As someone who also wants to spice things up with my partner, but possibly scared him off, I'd try the slowly does it approach suggested by john69.

    I may have gone a bit too heavy-handed in my experience, as I bought a paddle and crop as well as some nipple clamps, but my hubby wasn't very keen. Not sure if it freaked him out or if it was too much too soon. The other possibility is that he's worried about hurting me.

    Bottom line, our sex life has remained more or less vanilla, which is fine though I would like to encourage a bit more rough play in the future so will have to maybe ease him into it gently.

    Good luck, and enjoy yourselves

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    MissM22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Just give him a little nibble on the neck or ear during sex and see how he reacts. Bite his lip when you kiss him and just move slowly :)

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    MissNoir [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with MissM22, bite his lips and see what he does. I adore rough sex, the rougher, the better ^_^ Bring it up in conversation, see if theres anything he wants to try/likes and same with you x

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    MissM22 [sign in to see picture]
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    Get him trained ;)

    You could always get drunk and just go for it. If he doesn't like it after. Just blame it on the drink ;)

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    Josephine2112 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd start out by talking to him telling him what you really like, you'll be surprised how many men enjoy it too. My partner was really vanilla with his exes, so i took him out his comfort zone and now there's no looking back for us.. :) xxx

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    jennietools [sign in to see picture]
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    the first time i had sex with the last guy i was with, he started off on top really slow and gentle which tbh was really boring so i shoved him off, got on all fours and told him fuck me like he meant it!

    it broke the ice and the sex was fab after that!!

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    jennietools [sign in to see picture]
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    also i told him that the reason for my hair being in a ponytail wasn't just to keep it out of my face.

    the next time we were in bed he produced a hair bobble from his bedside table and put my hair up for me!

    on a slightly different tangent he now calls it my blowjob bobble!!

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    kinkyman [sign in to see picture]
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    my advice is get a little drunk together , and bite his nipples , they're a very sensual part for both men and women , could always grab his back hard to the point where he notices the enjoyment the pain brings , dragging your nails down his back ! the drink will numb the pain ;-)

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    B-B [sign in to see picture]
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    Talk about it before. Ask him what his fantasy is. Then tell him yours. Who knows, you may have the same... This also opens the doors to talk more about sex. Tell him you want to be spanked and to pull your hair. Ask if he wants you to do it to him. Once you see how that goes, you can see if it is worth buying rough sex play things such as clamps and whips.

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    slinkykinky [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try bringing it up as part of a different conversation. As it's out this weekend, maybe spark up a conversation about 50 Shades and use that to ask if he would want to try anything like that?

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    Kitty_Blossom [sign in to see picture]
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    My partner used to be completely vanilla, but after talking more and communicating fantasies he decided to give things a go. It started slowly with nipples play and sensory deprivation. Now try keeping the candle wax, flogger and restraints away from him. They are now his toys that I get to share hehe xx

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    Gadget girl [sign in to see picture]
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    Take him to see 50 Shades of Grey then ask him if he fancies a bit of role play lol
    Tell him it's something you've fancied trying, that way he'll feel like it's something you're discovering together and hopefully won't be worried that it's something you already know you like and he's not 'doing it right'
    Maybe tell him you've heard that LH do a great 50 shades range and have a look together
    It'll go one way or the other
    Have fun! X

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    Grace1ess [sign in to see picture]
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    jennietools wrote:

    the first time i had sex with the last guy i was with, he started off on top really slow and gentle which tbh was really boring so i shoved him off, got on all fours and told him fuck me like he meant it!

    it broke the ice and the sex was fab after that!!

    This would 100% be the way I would want to be told lol

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    Steve4 [sign in to see picture]
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    I would be surprised if he ran a mile. More likely is that it will take him a while to get used to the idea, to let himself go without feeling embarrassed or worrying he's going to hurt you, and get to learn how hard you like it. You'll just need to be patient, reassure him about what he's doing and be really encouraging.

    Speaking here as the boyfriend of someone who likes to be fucked as hard as possible, from behind, but was shy about admitting it initially. Communication is the most important thing!

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    Melody Mason [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow thank you all!

    All your advice was a massive help, turned out that a nice little bit of his favourite tipple and some gentle encouragement worked a treat!

    Safe to say I may be buying that paddle sooner than expected ;)

    Thank you again guys and girls!

    Xxx

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    FrozenAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    I just told my OH, I tend not to mess around with this stuff, so before he even got with me it was a case of 'I like it hard, and I like it rough - do X,Y and Z"

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