• Contraception

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    LittleSwitchBitch [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey :)

    I was on the pill for a few months until I got pregnant, I then put the coil in ( mirena) it was in for a bit and due to kidney and bleeding issues it was removed and I got the bar in... This also did not agree with me, I bled constantly so u can imagine how annoyed I was, sex like affected as well as my body! Iron levels etc..

    Do I took it out.. Here my OH suggested we have another child and we did... I breastfed for a while and when I stopped I was prescribed the mini pill which completely screwed my head up! Headaches depression... I was basically a bitch to be around.. U decided finally I'd try the coil again... And same as before and this time sex was painful... I had enough..

    I asked my doc to refer me to see a gynae, who is a wonderful man, who listened to me and in July this yr I had tubal ligation done :) and it's been brilliant, I feel like myself for the first time in years!! Though since then, my periods r quite heavy and he now wants to do a thermal ablation which will remove a lot of the lining of my womb which I am happy to do... Its all done to getting to correct doc for u in my opinion.

    I hope for ur wife's sake the get sorted... I know what it feels like to be though the mills

    *hugs* x

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    sxe_couple21 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well we took advantage of the snow and Christmas-time and went to the walk-in GUM clinic near us this morning; they're great in there!

    Bascially after a quick chat about the options the doctor agreed that a non-hormonal solution was the best and that for most people the failure rate of other methods (barrier protection) is unacceptable.

    Thus, Mrs SXE has been schedule for a coil to be fitted later this month. Fingers crosses for no side-effects!

    Thanks for all the help.

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    hazyfantazy [sign in to see picture]
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    Glad you got it sorted outt at GUM.
    I've got the copper coil and have had it for around 2.5 years now. First 6 months my periods def got heavier and more painful, but overall having the coil has been worth it. I don't need any extra hormones floating around, so the copper coil was the perfect solution. Hope it works out for your wife too.

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    German sausage [sign in to see picture]
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    I do feel for women in this area, its almost no win or win for a while then things seem to change, my wife has been on the pill and like you guys its no eand of issues and also thinking of the risk of taking it to long. I have put my balls on the table so to speak and said she can come off the pill and i will have the 'snip' but after talking to the doc about it the risk to me is high due to a unreal amount of cancer in my family so i guess theres a link ? not sure so now looking into a new clamp thats coming and is for the male to have it put on his tubes so that sounds better, the other problem we found with some of the pills for women her sex drive just goes totaly :-/ good luck and try what you can as others have said

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    oneofthesedays [sign in to see picture]
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    Contraception is such a difficult thing to get right, glad you've got something sorted out :)

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    Sarahgee [sign in to see picture]
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    You CAN have the Nova-T copper coil even if you haven't had any kids. It's just mostly recommend for women who have given birth as their cervix has been dilated before. When they insert it it is inside a clear looking straw, they pass this straw through the cervix and deposit the coil into your womb. They then cut the copper wires down to size so that just a tiny bit is poking out the opening of the cervix.

    I had problems with hormonal contraceptives because i suffer from depression and anxiety, all the contraceptive pills made me a crazy mess, The depo jag was the same.so after I had my daughter I opted for the Nova-T . It was a life saver for me :) I would recommend it. Ask for a second opinion from the doctor. I have friends who have it who have never had children. Our surgery say it is just a recommendation but it is safe fore people who haven't had kids.

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    Sarahgee [sign in to see picture]
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    Meant to say it is comfortable, you don't know it is there and it lasts upto 5 years. I had mine in the full five years, no discomfort during sex. Its easy and painless to have put in and to be taken out.

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    AmyMay [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally I'd get the implant, my periods have stopped and my sex drive is through the roof!

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    Carbon shoveller wrote:

    I may be a bloke but I wholeheartedly agree with that. I hate to see my wife suffer in any way. Heavy painful periods are bad enough but the migraines and thrush outbreaks are a cruel blow.

    And that's without those awkward late days.

    And the PMS. I tend to get the sharp end of that!

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    AmyMay wrote:

    Personally I'd get the implant, my periods have stopped and my sex drive is through the roof!

    What implant? I could do with my OH sex drive going through the roof!😊

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    reecey86 wrote:

    Hi

    My O/H suffered from the same problem on Microgynon. She would always get I'll down there just before her period well the week before and into week after, she has stopped taking pill as we are now trying for a child but since she has stopped her sex drive has gone through the roof, her mood swings and short temper have gone almost completely and the cramping and feeling sick have gone as well.

    Although at the time we didn't know this was the problem. It is now very clear that the pill was the cause of this.

    Oh I don't know if it's a connection between being petite and that pill but O/H is petite down there as well and as I have mentioned very similar effects

    Agree.

    My wife only realised some of the adverse effects of the pill when she came off it. They were not too bad but she did have some mild mood swings and weight changes.

    Currently using mirena coil. Works but side effect is heavier periods though fortunately not painful.

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    SR36 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have the mirena coil and it's great- I've had either very light or no periods for the 3 years I've had it in (apart from a few months of settling).

    I also have experienced recurrent thrush and know how much of a bloody pain it is. I used to get it quite regularly, but this stopped for ages once I had the coil put in. Until quite recently that is, when I just couldn't shake it. After a long time of using Canesten, I realised that maybe the particular infection I had was resistant. So I did a bit of Internet research and did the following: 4 days and nights wearing a tampon (changed reasonably regularly) that had been soaked in diluted tea-tree oil (20 drops in 100ml pre-boiled water). Apparently the tea-tree oil breaks down the wall of the yeast cells but has been found to leave beneficial bacteria alone. Even though I had no symtoms after this, I thought it was a good idea to try and boost the good bacteria- so I bought some acidophilus-containing sugar free yogurt, and filled the applicators of tampons with it. If you bung these in the freezer then you end up with yogurt tampons which are easy to insert using the applicator in the normal way. It's a bit messy! I did this for 3 consecutive nights.

    Oh and for both the tea tree and the yogurt I got a cotton pad and wiped the outside areas (with good coverage- even a little past the sore bits and onto good skin).

    I'm leaving things be for a while now, but so far, so good!

    Maybe it's worth a try....

    Oh and if you're using lube when you do have sex, make sure it's not one that can make things worse! I've switched to this one now and it seems to be OK:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15118

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    AmyMay [sign in to see picture]
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    Pretty sure mines nexplanon

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    Being a guy - and a responsible one too, I hasten to add - I've always felt for the woman when it comes to contraception; they either seem to be a mix of hormonal napalm, or painful, almost medieval-looking, intrusive instruments of torture. The implant seems a better long-term contraception method, although my knowledge is limited as to its efficacy.

    Personally, I would have thought stopping things at the man's side would be easier and frankly, I think us males would like more of a choice than condoms or vasectomy. Stopping sperm production, or rendering them infertile in some way sounds easy on paper, but after doing some reading on the issue - after a conversation with my gf about the subject - it seems a bizarrely complicated affair, as it seems the most potentially effective way of approaching this is by introducing oestrogen to restrict sperm production, but not introducing so much as to lower the testosterone levels that control a man's sex drive.

    Getting past this hurdle would be the contraceptive Holy Grail, as potentially, there would be far fewer side effects for a male contraceptive and the days of women going through day after day of hormonal fluctuation, heavy periods and intense pain, all in the quest of not adding to our already bulging global population, would be a thing of the past.

    And given our population crisis, you'd think more would be put into research into this issue.

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    magicnumber69 wrote:

    Being a guy - and a responsible one too, I hasten to add - I've always felt for the woman when it comes to contraception; they either seem to be a mix of hormonal napalm, or painful, almost medieval-looking, intrusive instruments of torture. The implant seems a better long-term contraception method, although my knowledge is limited as to its efficacy.

    Personally, I would have thought stopping things at the man's side would be easier and frankly, I think us males would like more of a choice than condoms or vasectomy. Stopping sperm production, or rendering them infertile in some way sounds easy on paper, but after doing some reading on the issue - after a conversation with my gf about the subject - it seems a bizarrely complicated affair, as it seems the most potentially effective way of approaching this is by introducing oestrogen to restrict sperm production, but not introducing so much as to lower the testosterone levels that control a man's sex drive.

    Getting past this hurdle would be the contraceptive Holy Grail, as potentially, there would be far fewer side effects for a male contraceptive and the days of women going through day after day of hormonal fluctuation, heavy periods and intense pain, all in the quest of not adding to our already bulging global population, would be a thing of the past.

    And given our population crisis, you'd think more would be put into research into this issue.

    A lot of men cant even get a vasectomy! I find it really odd that we arent in a situation that we need more children to be born, yet vasectomy isnt an option for the majority. Its really quite sad that men can sleep with women, using condoms, and still risk the woman becoming pregnant and having no say as to whether they want to be a father, yet the nhs wont allow them to have a vasectomy! My husband is adament he never wants children (nor do i) but neither of us can opt for a permanent solution because we dont have children so in the doctors eyes we might change our minds!

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    Littlelots88 [sign in to see picture]
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    I've got the mirena and honestly it changed my life. I hadn't realised how many side effects I got from the pill until I stopped taking it. No libido and I got yeast infections a lot. Mirena changed all that. Insertion was quite frankly awful, and it took a good 6 months for everything to feel normal, but so worth it in the long run. And sex is wonderfully spontaneous as my body is in a much more natural rhythm and I'm not having to worry about contraception. Can't sell it enough.

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    A lot of men cant even get a vasectomy! I find it really odd that we arent in a situation that we need more children to be born, yet vasectomy isnt an option for the majority. Its really quite sad that men can sleep with women, using condoms, and still risk the woman becoming pregnant and having no say as to whether they want to be a father, yet the nhs wont allow them to have a vasectomy! My husband is adament he never wants children (nor do i) but neither of us can opt for a permanent solution because we dont have children so in the doctors eyes we might change our minds!

    Hi i find this very strange my husband had a vasectomy on the NHS no problems no questions. (we only have 1 child) don't get me started on other peoples opinions on this topic)

    with regard to as you don't already have children it maybe because you can have a vasectomy on the NHS but not a reversal.

    i would change your doctor. or go see him together and explain your no children thing together.

    Marie stopes clincs do vasectomies i think they cost about £300. x

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    saucey21 [sign in to see picture]
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    There is a Patch (like nicorette) not advertised by doctors as i believe quite expensive i got on really well with that where others have failed.

    but hubby has had vasectomy best thing ever for me.

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    annaceecee123 [sign in to see picture]
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    I got the implant though it gives me a lot of migraines which is quite annoying

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    Binxx [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm on the Mirena and it's great for me. My periods were heavy and a year on they are super light. Less pain than I used to get but it's takes a while for everything to balance out. Procedure to have it put in was pretty easy. Had it done with a local anaesthetic and make sure you see a specialist sexual health practitioner to have it put in as GPs don't tend to use a local and it will be painful plus they don't have as much training as it might dislodge. It's a great option but you need to make sure it's right for you. Lasts 5 years and I check each month it's in the right place (string check). So it has been a good solution for me. I would recommend it but depends on her body, my sister had one and it didn't agree with her but I don't think she have it enough time to settle. Best of luck!!!

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