• When was you frist time, anal?

    Kassandra Silverbullet [sign in to see picture]
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    I am an anal-Virgin, so i was wondering about when YOUR first time anal was, and some tips and tricks you might want to learn me?

    MissNoir [sign in to see picture]
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    This is something my boyfriend and I were talking about not so long ago, as bad as it sounds, I can't quite remember exactly when it was but he does; I remember more of how it felt. It was soon after we got together, it wasn't what it is now, I'd advise you use LOTS of lube, I'd recommend Tracey Cox SuperSex Anal lube, it's the best!

    I didn't find it sore, more of an unusual, full feeling, the main thing is to relax and take it slow! It gets better over time and with practice, you mkight feel funny afterwardsfor a while, maybe uncomfortable but that's normal. Have him ease himself into you rather than ram it in, be gentle. Hope you find it enjoyable! Good luck! x

    Floozy Suzy [sign in to see picture]
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    We were camping in a tent, about seven of us camped,( mostly his family) about 11 years ago. It was not the best. It has since improved enormously. I don't know how it happened, or why, but it did. Perhaps looking back, it shouldn't have!

    pinkyv [sign in to see picture]
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    First successful anal experience about two weeks ago...lots and lots of lube..totally relaxed...doggy style did not work for us...so experiment with different positions....2nd experience was on Sunday....the first time was great...2nd time was easier and amazing!.
    read through all the advice on these forums..it was invaluable to me....after years of failed painful attempts. Good luck !

    JM88 [sign in to see picture]
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    My first time was a few months ago, aboit 8 and a half years into the relationship.

    When we first met we were young and i had idealised hopes of being a virgin until i was married. That lasted 11 months. Last year oh bought up anal as an off the cuff suggestion and i joked that i wouldnt do it unless we were married so technically i could still be sort of a virgin!

    We got married in october and a few nights later tried anal and it was just like the first time we tried vaginal sex! Awkward, painful and unsuccessful! Tried a few more times and didnt have much luck, tbh the alcohol probably didnt help!

    Kept at it until finally we had one real success! No pain or discomfort. Now its a bit hit and miss. If we find the right angle then its fine, but if not then it can be a bit sore for a start.

    any advice would be to start slow. A finger first is ideal. Gradually build up in size, plenty of lube is a must! Dont expect too much the first time and expect it to be a bit uncomfortable.

    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    First time was was first girfriend 14 years ago - not knowing much about it except that lube was needed. Needless to say we didnt really get off the ground with it.

    First successful time was many years later with a girl I was seeing. It wasnt her first, so things were much more enjoyable.

    In terms of receiving, been playing this way for many many years, and first had fun with someone else about 12 years ago. was an amazing experience. Since then, have not found a partner willing to play this way.

    Wangler [sign in to see picture]
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    Both parties have to want it. If you are considering receiving for the first time I strongly suggest you get yourself a toy, a good thick lube and some alone-time. Read up on different prep methods. It takes time to become familiar with that part of your body and find out what works for you. Chances are this will take longer that your partner’s average erection lasts, so do your homework. If you feel comfortable exploring this together or letting your partner watch that’s great but you will need to be in complete control to begin with. Only once you have learnt to accept inanimate objects (slowly building up to adequate dimensions) should you attempt to take something with its own agenda. The experience is whatever you make it, so be patient and it will pay off (think of all the otherwise unused nerve endings that can take you higher than you’ve ever been before).

    This caution isn’t intended to killjoy, but first impressions are often lasting and who doesn’t want to look like a pro first time round?!

    LibraLover [sign in to see picture]
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    About 4 years ago, when we'd been together for about 2 years. We used lots of lube and it was surprisingly successful. We tried a few times again over the years but were only successful one other time until recently. I started using butt plugs in preparation which has really helped!

    Anonymous Lady [sign in to see picture]
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    My first time was an accident - he just slipped inside a bit and it became uncomfortable so we stopped.

    My first "real" time was with a partner who has a very small penis, and it felt very, very good. His size was just the right fit! He lubed me up good and went really, really slow. I don't think I'll even try it with my current partner because he's too big to go there :) But we will soon try anal with toys and see how it goes.

    Miss'G-x [sign in to see picture]
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    I can't remember the first time, and although I have done it we just can't seem to get there again, uncomfortable and sore for me unfortunatly!

    hotchocolateandcream [sign in to see picture]
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    half a year into my relationship with my girlfriend , when you are at just the stages of understanding what makes them feel good.We really wanted to try bum love but it jut wasnt happening because it was both our first experience. we had to get her relaxed and intune with receiving where no man had gone before :) we brought this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=278

    and it helped loosen her up and ready for the real thing. Foreplay for the bum, very much recomend this toy and with liquid silk lube : ) girls really do love bumfun i know my other half gets turned on by it as its naughty and special between the two of us. Maybe we only do this like twice a month but it brings us closer together. This is another one of our favourites


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    Boyfriend at the time did the whole communication thing, explained that he'd had really great experiences with anal and that he wanted to do it again, how intimate and special it was. We went slow, got it in, he got off, I didn't, it just hurt. Same thing when we tried a couple of weeks later. He tried to hide it, but his disappointment permeated his body language. Since he'd communicated so well (the forum would have been proud of him in that), I knew plenty about how deep his disappointment went.

    I told him that I might be able to orgasm if I played with myself but he just said that he didn't want to do something I wasn't enthustiastic about. His previous partner's enthusiasm had been a big part of what he enjoyed about anal and it wasn't the same without it. After that, he wouldn't try again or even talk about it any more. He'd just get quiet in the way he did when he thought about the woman he really wanted to be with.

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    May not be the perspective you are looking for because I'm a man, butt the first time was a few months back. Of course I am talking about her pegging me. Best thing you can do is not let your lust get the best of you when it comes to size. Start small and smooth and slow. Talking is a must and trusting is even more important. Good lube (you can find several threads on anal lube) and plenty of it. A lot of people are afraid of the substances back there, and if you are one of them, a good anal douche is a good idea but not necessary. Try to relax, being in the mood helps, cause if you are over thinking it or tense it will definitely spool the experienced both mentally and ohysically.

    Enjoy yourself, because if you can get past the taboo, you have found yourself a feeling like no other.

    MattB [sign in to see picture]
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    A few years ago, but I'd played with toys quite a bit first so it wasn't too uncomfortable.

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    My first time was a couple of years ago with an older woman, who was a lot more experienced than me. It all felt very naughty (especially as she was married-not something I'd do again.)

    I had previously paid her some anal attention with fingers and oral and she had found it pleasant. i was interested in trying it and she had before but wasn't a huge fan, but would give it another go this time with me. As some people have said previously on this thread used a lot of lube and it was quite good, I don't know if it was that I was doing something new that was the exciting bit or not, but that excitement got in the way a little, I was initially too rough (my inexperience) and it caused her more than a little discomfort, but she guided me through and took it slower which made it more pleasurable for both of us.

    Im still not sure if I like it though, it was good but wouldn't say it was great, the nervousness and excitement over shadowed it. i would like to try it again but I'm in no rush, which is good because my current partner isn't at all interested in it because of a painful previous experience.

    Hope this was too boring, it's one of my first posts on here.

    Jrok [sign in to see picture]
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    Not boring 1sttimejim. There is something that can be taken from every experience and every situation that will help someone. Also, I guarantee that someone has been where you are, and if I have learned anything on here, it is that they are more than willing to share and lend perspective. Keep it up.

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    When I was about 16 I just wanted to try it and so used a few fingers and went exploring, it was pleasurable enough to start using toys thereafter. I find that the pain is what makes it best for me - although I still use lube. I have also found it feels great with clitoral stimulation.
    I think it's best for some to do it on your own accord and explore yourself, but then again I have yet to have ""real"" anal sex because i'm a lesbian. Strap ons are as close as it has been for me.

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    I've had 3 partners I've had anal with, the first was about 16 years ago, then I had a FB who was anal mad! My OH was so anti anal when we got together it was a massive surprise when she suggested it about 3 years ago, she is now an anal queen and we have anal sex a lot more than vaginal sex, myself, I've always dabbled in anal play but over the last couple of years my OH pegs or uses toys on me on a regular basis. Anal is an important and massive part of our sexlife! My OH has a lot stronger orgasms from anal sex, It's never been better!
    Just don't rush it, took my OH a few months of gradual plugs up to just over my girth size till she felt comfortable with something large up her butt before she was prepared to try sex, this really helped as the sex was easier, she now wears a plug for about an hour before we have sex as it pre stretches her although we have had anal without any preparation but I wouldn't recommend this until you are a experienced with anal! She loves anal that much that she had kept stretching to much larger sizes as she just loves the feeling of having something really large up her butt! X
    And don't forget plenty of lube! X

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    My husband and I both watch porno that is just anal, as I have always had fantasys about doing it, but it is an on/off love affair. I love watching it probably more than doing it, but doing it turns me on, I love to think that I have a large gape down there. We've been together for years and I first suggested it when we first started seeing each other, so we've been at it on and off for over 20 years, with it more off than on, but a few years ago I let him exclusively do me up the bum for a whole year. He loves it, but Im a worry wort and its that that stops me, but my ultimate goal is to have him insert a very wide dildo. Will have to do homework and build up to that one!

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    When I was in my early teens I explored a good few things sexually by myself and one of those was putting a finger or 2 in my ass and right from the start i really enjoyed it. I continued to use fingers over the years untill a few years back when I got my first ever toy a slimlime butt plug and enjoyed it. I now have several toys and LOVE anal massively.

    As for tips and tricks. Start off using your finger(s) now and again to get a feel for the sensations of something going up there then look at getting a toy along with anal lube. Something like a slimline butt plug is great and what I started with although anaything listed as suitable for beginners will do of course.

    When trying things for the first time, make sure you're relaxed and take it slow, also get comfortable in going in a little to begin with, then try a bit more each time after that. You might not instantly get pleasure or enjoy it but if you stick with it over several attempts then that will come unless it really isn't for you.

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