• orgasm from oral sex cant from sex

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    lovethedirtbox [sign in to see picture]
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    My girlfriend can only orgasm from oral sex her whole life she has never had a orgasm from penetrative sex.
    She said shes cum close a few times but has never actually got there has anyone any tips on how i can make her explode from sex we have bin together only 10 weeks iv got her close but need to tip her over the edge any tips or advice will be lovely?

    Happy sex all :)

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Many women can't orgasm from penetrative sex, infact the vast majority can't. Use a small vibrator to give her clitoris attention during penetration.

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    blonde vixen13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Totally normal. A lot of women will not orgasam from vagibal stimulation alone. Try using a bucket vubrator on her clit while you have sex or use your fingers to stimulate her: or ask her to play with herself while you have sex. positions like doggy or taking her from behind while standing are good for this because she doesn't have to look as you while she does it and it takes away some of the embarasent some women feel when doing it

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    I'm one of those women who usually can't climax during penetration. In fact, I thought there was something seriously wrong with me until I've found my first vibrator and had my first clitoral orgasm.

    So, whenever I feel the need to go over the edge during lovemaking, I reach for my vibrator. I do enjoy sex with my partner very much. This way, he doesn't feel pressured to make me climax. And I don't feel "unsatisfied" in the end. Win- win for the both of us!

    It's nice you care about your partner and want to make her climax during penetration, but it just doesn't work for some women. Which doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex and the time you spend together. Give her plenty of oral satisfaction and maybe have a little vibrator close by just in case you need that extra nudge to get her over the edge :)

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    This is perfectly normal. I've been with a handful of women that were able to achieve orgasm through penetration alone but for the most part clitoral stimulation is required. If she is on top you can ask her to play with herself, suggesting that it would turn you on to see it as well. Some can be embaressed by doing so for a couple reasons ie perhaps they don't want you to think you are doing it for them or they see it as a solo activity. I remember the first woman who asked me if I minded and I was shocked she wanted my permission!

    Doggy is a good position as well as you can reach around and play with her clit at the same time and as Vixen said she doesn't have to look if it makes her feel uncomfrtable.

    If you want to introduce toys into your play then a vibrating cock ring such as http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14877 could also help giving her that extra stimulation while having sex.

    Good Luck!

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm the same too. I can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation at the same time.

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    Fitnessfreak [sign in to see picture]
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    You can try grinding your pubic bone more against her but would have to be on you on top positions if that dont work like above, clit play from behind or use a clit vibrator.

    Another toy that might help is the wevibes they lay on that area but I do find them a little bit of a obstruction.

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    I think the last statistic I saw was something along the lines of 70% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone.

    A bullet maybe, or a vibrating ring (depending on positions) could do the trick.

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    Puts hand up! I can't orgasm form penetration alone.

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    It's very common I think many women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm and what better way than oral

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    I've only ever managed it twice in my life so it's not uncommon at all. As stated above the statistics are actually really high for woman that can't orgasm through penetrive sex.

    The one thing that might help is if you get a g-spot toy and have her play with it and get to know her g-spot more herself. Once she knows how she likes it be stimulated it may help her to discover a position that might work for you during sex.

    It may take some time in trying a few different toys to find the one that works for her on her g-spot though so don't give up if the first one doesn't work. I initially bought a toy that had loads of positive reviews and when it didn't work for me I could have thought that that was that. Thankfuly I was enough informed to know to try a different style/shape toy. The next one I tried was brilliant and I now know I do have a g-spot and have even squirted a few times from it, having never done so in my life before.

    Now during sex I know the positions that will rub on it just the way I like, it does bring me closer but I do still prefer to have clitoral stimulation as I find the orgasms are stronger that way for me.

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    It's nice that you're trying to do this for her, but please don't get disheartened if she isn't able to. I'm 28 and I've never been able to. To be honest I don't expect I'll ever be able to, I'd be more surprised if I did!

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    I can only orgasm if I am on top but thats usually because my clitoris is rubbing against my hubby. I can orgasm from anal penetration but not vaginal penetration.
    Its perfectly normal so don't be too disheartened :)

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    Id love to make her orgasm from penetrative sex i make her orgasm over and over again by going down i love it she loves it iv bin blessed with a talented tounge but id love her to have a orgasm from penetrative sex aswell.
    Lastnight i went down after three climaxes one after another she couldnt handle anymore but each one took less time so maybe next time i try going down after two times ill go to pound town ;-) if that dont work then ill get the bullet out i ordered lastweek.
    Juicyj89 is it common to orgasm from anal sec for women??
    Thanks for all advice ill give them ago tonight.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH is the same, he desperately wants to make me orgasm through sex, I get so close, and he thinks that if he could carry on I would but when I get close things contract and it pushes him over the edge. He's even suggested wearing condoms so he can last longer. I really want to give it to him but I honestly don't think I can and I feel quite bad. Only 30% of women can but porn has made out we all can if it's done right. We can't. When he comes back of holiday I'm gonna try with a bullet, we got close with the we vibe 2 but he found it uncomfortable and took it out, would love the 4 but no pennies :(

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    The vast majority of women can't orgasm from penetration there's just not as many sensitive nerve endings as in the clitoris I myself have never orgasmed from just penetration alone I need clitoral stimulation too, I do feel satisfied and it does feel nice but not to the point of tipping me over the edge. Don't pressure yourself in trying to get a vaginal orgasm from your woman if you can get her to orgasm clitorally you're doing something right

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    lovethedirtbox [sign in to see picture]
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    Iv just ordered a cock ring and a gspot vibrator
    Cock ring to see if i can make her and the gspot for extra pleasure hehe

    It makes a man feel good when he can make his woman orgasm. Knowing she cant cum from sex takes the fun away for me a lil i love sliding john tommas in her she's got the most perfect vjj
    I will make her orgasm hehe

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    lovethedirtbox wrote:

    Iv just ordered a cock ring and a gspot vibrator
    Cock ring to see if i can make her and the gspot for extra pleasure hehe

    It makes a man feel good when he can make his woman orgasm. Knowing she cant cum from sex takes the fun away for me a lil i love sliding john tommas in her she's got the most perfect vjj
    I will make her orgasm hehe

    Just don't make her feel pressured because you'll take away all the fun from her, too. Or worse, make her start faking her orgasms. Good luck with your new toys :)

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    I wont lol.
    We love our sex life its a good mix of sex passion kink and making love we hardly use toys on each other just every now and again we both said we dont want toys to rule and take over
    Toys are just extra fun for solo or if were feeling kinky

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Just because she can't orgasm doesn't mean she isn't enjoying it. I feel bad that I can't orgasm for sex because my Oh wants me to and I feel like I disapoint him. 70% of women CANT orgasm from penetration. A cock ring may work but it's a compromise between thrusting and sitting the vibrator on her clit. Can't do both at the same time. I'd reccomended getting a bullet if you want her to orgasm while you're inside her.

    do you tell her you want her to orgasm for sex? I wouldn't tell her if I were you, personally, it makes you feel a little inadequate, being physically unable to do something your OH wants is so frustrating when you have no control over it at all

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