• Is he too big for me?

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm 19 and in the early stages of a relationship, Im a virgin so far and recently found out that my partner is 9 inches, which is huge! I'm scared it is going to hurt a lot, is there anything I can do to make it hurt less?

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Warm up with fingers and toys, use lots of lube. If you still have your hymen it would most likely hurt a bit no matter what. Is he girthy? Length really doesn't matter as long he is gentle with you

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    Omega2008 [sign in to see picture]
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    Most importantly be relaxed, worrying about his size will not help at all.

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    Anonymous Lady [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes, the most important thing is to be relaxed and let go of any fears. Long foreplay might help and of course, very gentle entry. It will probably hurt a bit, but if you're relaxed, you even might enjoy it :) Good luck!

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    I was nervous in general about the experience, he has been very calming and relaxed me a lot about it but still I am anxious, which I know will not help.
    As for his girth, I'm not sure exactly but i know he's pretty large in that way also.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Oh and this may sound like an awful thing to say, but, don't have high expectations, I think there are very few people in the world that will say their best time was their first time. I didn't have a hymen (childhood accident) so it didn't hurt, but it wasn't nice either, quite boring and unsatisfying. Didn't orgasm, didn't even come close, at all. Just see it as a gateway to learning more about yourself and the start of the journey to an incredible sex life.

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    Omega2008 [sign in to see picture]
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    Young and fun95 wrote:

    Oh and this may sound like an awful thing to say, but, don't have high expectations, I think there are very few people in the world that will say their best time was their first time. I didn't have a hymen (childhood accident) so it didn't hurt, but it wasn't nice either, quite boring and unsatisfying. Didn't orgasm, didn't even come close, at all. Just see it as a gateway to learning more about yourself and the start of the journey to an incredible sex life.

    Well said I think that goes for both sexes on their first time.

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    Anonymous Lady [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey - remember that the lady parts are "constructed" to withstand birth - so if a baby can get out of there, they can take a 9" penis as well.

    If you're nervous and don't feel you're quite ready yet, don't do it. Never do anything just because you're pressured into it or because everyone else is doing it.

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    It is my first time but not his, he has a fair bit more experience than me. I'm not expecting it to be amazing right away because I expect a little bit of pain at least but I'm hoping it will get better soon.
    I do feel ready for it, I'm not being pressured in anyway, he is very understanding and has never made me feel like it's something I have to do.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Just remember lots of foreplay, like loads, and loads of lube, and go slow

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    LilHorror [sign in to see picture]
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    I think if you are really worried you could warm up with some toys first, see what size you are comfy with first and work on things when you start sleeping with your partner :) Main thing though is to be relaxed and not worry to much. Like Anonymous Lady said the vagina is designed to strech so as long as you relax and and push yourself to much I am sure things will go fine :) x

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you for all the advice, certainly relaxes me a little more :)

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    SR36 [sign in to see picture]
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    I had a guy that size for my first time too, it only hurt a little bit and not for long, so as long as you go slow and try to relax, you should be fine :)

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    Just make sure you have lots of foreplay till you are really wet and relaxed. Just be honest with him and not right before the act. Just talk it through both agree that you will try penetration when you feel ready you can do the foreplay and get each other off anyway even if full penetration doesn't feel right.

    Just ask him to go slow and to let you guide him rather than just hammering away. Like people said womans bits are flexible and adaptable you just don't want him hammering away like you are a pornstar on your first time!

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    Stuburns [sign in to see picture]
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    I remember an ex girlfriend of mine. I was her second. We took our time to get used to each other. I took it very slow and eventually we had full intercourse. When I was walking her home that evening she said her legs felt like jelly and still felt like I was inside her. It certainly didn't put her off having another few goes 😊.
    Enjoy yourself

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    Ohh that's good to hear from someone who has been through the same thing! I'm looking forward to it, just hope the nerves die down soon

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    Happygolucky2 [sign in to see picture]
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    Im not worried at all about him being too rough the first time, he has always said if I'm not ready he will wait and if there's any point when I'm uncomfortable just tell him.
    Haha that's very good to know, hopefully soon we will be at that stage!

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    LilHorror wrote:

    I think if you are really worried you could warm up with some toys first, see what size you are comfy with first and work on things when you start sleeping with your partner :) Main thing though is to be relaxed and not worry to much. Like Anonymous Lady said the vagina is designed to strech so as long as you relax and and push yourself to much I am sure things will go fine :) x

    I meant to say, 'and don't push yourself to much' xx

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    MissNoir [sign in to see picture]
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    As it's your first time, you're bound to be nervous but as long as your both comfortable, relaxed & take things slow it will be fine. My boyfriend took my virginity, I was told it would hurt very much & bleeding would be for sure...there was no blood and it wasn't agony, because you haven't felt it before, it's an interesting feeling, a little uncomfortable but that's it. We didn't take it slow so I felt like he was still in there a while after but it's just the body getting used to it. It's different for all us girls & guys ^_^ Just think it's a new chapter to your life beginning, that will only get better as you two grow closer

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    Hi hun I know how u feel it is nerve racking I was for my first, I actually had some alcohol before hand but it wasnt planned just sorta happened, but all I can say really is dont expect much its not the fireworks it made out to b, you could bleed u could not I bled, but I bled more the second time...every1s different for me it didnt hurt at all.

    Sometimes it can take time to relax etc im still getting used to my new partner his a lot bigger than previous partners n for some reason I was really nervous with him, but we have taken our time n massages r great xx

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