• Moving on with anal

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    Holly Love [sign in to see picture]
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    We currently own http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31155 and http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30426 for anal play using lovehoneys anal lube i love having thrse used on me but struggle when we try to move on to B inserting me. We try doggy and with me on my back but it just won't go in but I can easily take the glass dildo.

    Can anybody recommend a good toy or teqnique to help us achieve our goal of anal sex.

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    Lovebirds_x [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try getting a larger plug/toy than the first one to use as an in between step? I personally find glass goes in a lot easier than other materials so, for example, I can't say that if I can take a 4 inch girth glass toy, I could take a 4 inch girth silicone toy/plug/penis. So maybe a girthier toy in a material other than glass could help you?

    Also are you as relaxed when it's him coming at you as when it is a toy? It could be you just need some deep breathing exercises to help you relax when it's 'the real thing'? Silly question perhaps but do you use more lube when it's him than when you use the glass (just going back to the logic of glass has way less friction and needs way less lube)?

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    try lying on your side, with your knees up to your chest so you are exposing youself for easier access, but also will be a more relaxing position.

    with legs up, you are tensing your legs and abs

    with doggy, you will also be tensing the same muscle group in that area.

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    Using a larger toy could help you relax and adjust to prepare for him. And of course, more lube! It's easy to feel at ease with a toy because it's an object you have complete control of. When your OH is inserting, it's different. Breathing, is key to relaxing. Take it slow and remember to lube up. Doggy tenses up your muscles, so it would be preferable to start from a position where you can basically just lay there. I like to start on my back with my partner holding my legs up. You could also try laying face down on the bed with your legs off the bed (so like an upside down L shape) and communicate with your partner how you are doing. Another option, which may be more difficult to do, is to sit on top so that you have complete control easing down on him. Anal can be difficult or painful to start, but finding out what works for you and practice will make it a great experience. Best of luck!

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    Further to my comments, get him to massage you there to relax you. I also find when using toys, vibrations help to relax too.

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    I remember reading some where on here that you should try bearing down a little (like you're doing a poop!) during insertion for anal. That's what I do and it certainly seems to help.

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    what is a good toy to start with to get her used of anal ???

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    padraigo13 wrote:

    what is a good toy to start with to get her used of anal ???

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/an-overview-of-anal-sex-toys/

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    I've always found doggy easiest over the side of the bed is good too.

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    padraigo13 wrote:

    what is a good toy to start with to get her used of anal ???

    Me and my OH bought the Lovehoney slimline basics butt plug, it's small and non-intimidating, which was a good starting toy for us. We also invested in some anal beads as well and these are good because you can chose how far you put them in and gradually increase the depth you go with them.
    But everyone is different - that's just what we used and it worked for us!

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    I guess moving up to alittle over 5 inches of girth is to big a jump. Would an inflatable help maybe or am I better of getting a dildo closer to his size?

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    Why not try some larger plugs or dildos? If there's quite a jump from your current toys up to your OH you may need to work your way up to him.

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    HL, my OH spent months working her way up to being able to insert a plug that was larger than my girth, until she was comfortable with taking the plug easily she would not consider anal sex, once she was ready anal sex was easier from the start, also you have to be completely relaxed. I think it took her able 4 or 5 plugs increasing in size till she was happy she had stretched enough, she loves it that much that she has kept going with the plug sizes and can no insert larger plugs and toys, I'm in to anal play and whilst im not up to her sizes I can see the addiction of anal play.

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    Holly Love [sign in to see picture]
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    Just ordered these 2 in the 2 for £15 deal http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8583 http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30703 those along with an existing dildo we have sould provide us with plenty to try out.

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    Holly Love wrote:

    Just ordered these 2 in the 2 for £15 deal http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8583 http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30703 those along with an existing dildo we have sould provide us with plenty to try out.

    They should be a good start, especially if they're about the same size as your OH, Forgot to add even now after years of anal my OH also wears her bigger plug for about an hour or two before we have sex, this way she is used to have something up there and she is pre-stretched, I believe this is how the porn actresses do it so they can get straight into their performance

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