• venturing into the world of pegging

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    mmm pie [sign in to see picture]
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    hi all, new here.. right,

    i could do with some advice on how to introduce my timid wife to pegging. iv never done it before but am no stranger to solo anal play and REALLY want to do this.

    i have got through some pretty big hurdles up til now in that she knows im into ladyboys and they turn me on and shes adjusted / become ok with the fact.. but asking her to wear a strap on is where i see this all falling apart

    so um, any help much appreciated! :D

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Honestly just explain that you'd really like it and ask if she would too, if she says no, drop the subject, it'll give her time to think, there's no way of convincing someone to do something they're not comfortable with. The more you push the more she'll push back, raise the subject and leave it there. I'm slowly working on me being bigender, personally and with OH, if I asked him to let me wear a packer and mens clothes and go out he'd freak, but slowly he's accepting it.

    let her know it's something you'd like and leave the rest to her

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Does she know you like anal play?

    if not don't start with pegging but light anal play, like using her finger or a butt plug on you, don't mention pegging until she's comfortable with that. Again if she says no to anal play, don't pester or try and convince her

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    to give a little more detail to the situation..

    a while back she mentioned she wanted a bullet vibrator, so a few days ago i bought 1 for her and at the same time thought id treat myself..

    anyway, she asked if i bought myself anything which i didnt answer and then said 'did you buy a dildo?' to which i admitted.. she did laugh. asked if it was for solo me time i said yes as she was uncomfortable with toys etc but she actually said she would to my amazement!!

    i think the program on tv about LH really helped with her becoming more open minded.. but she is still timid and to be more precise, i think the presenting her with a strap on is where it will all go wrong. idea is 1 thing / reality another.. and i think she thinks that i will become gay and leave her..

    sorry if im rambling but its nice to talk about this all finally :)

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    I think a good start would be introducing her to the forum. So she's used a dildo on you or has said she would?

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    no, she hasnt used one on me but did say she would. she asked how and i said like a scene in peep show.. well she knew what i meant, bit of a gasp.. but then came the questions, do you love me, not going to go off with other people.. with regards to that i need to reassure that im not suddenly going to become gay and leave her for someone with the tools to do the job so to speak!

    now, knowing her, i think she would be a little freaked out wearing a strap.. i wondered if it might be a good idea for her to 1st try it blind folded?

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    Just see how she goes with using the dildo in her hand first, if she doesn't like that, it's best not to mention a strap on. In regards to reassuring her, explain, or introduce her to the forum where she'll see, that anal stimulation for a man isn't anything to do with being gay, all men have a prostrate which is incredibly sensitive, that when you're having anal stimulation you're not imagining a man. Even showing her reviews for anal toys and how many are from couples or straight men. Also, who would be blindfolded? It's not a good idea for her to not see what she's doing in such a delicate area

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    ok, so after some more talking she now knows what arrived in the post this morning!

    iv also given her some links to have a read through.. for anyone else that may be interested (and i dont believe these are against rules, apologies if it is!) the links are..

    http://pegging101.com/approaching-her-about-pegging/

    http://pegging101.com/approaching-him-about-pegging/

    http://pegging101.com/is-he-gay/

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    I think introducing her to the forum would be a good shout. What she might think is taboo or quite a fringe kink is actualyl quite common. It does me good to come here and read people goign on about what they get up to like it isnt a big deal.

    if she reads a lot fo couples in long term, loving relationships are cracking on with it she might think she is missing out :p

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    mmm pie [sign in to see picture]
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    shes said she'll give it a go! she certainly has become more open minded over the years... couples really do need to talk more.. im so excited!!

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    Communication, so often overlooked and underrated - Have a "good" weekend

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    Sounds like your moving fast, but talking looks like its definiately doing the trick ... hope you guys have fun exploring!

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    I think you can already see signs that your wife is starting to broaden her sexual horizons and really it is an ever expanding sexual experience between couples. Some go down the road and others don't always progress as far for lots of reasons.

    I first met my wife 32 years ago. We have always had an amazing sex life with each other but it has continued to grow, even now. So we used to read and watch porn together as a young couple and I bought her her very first vibrator when she was about 18. I was very nervous about introducing it to her but did so and we had an amazing time. Over the years our sex life has grown. More sex toys than you can imagine, including very big ones, lots of dressing up. Then many years ago we moved into anal fun, which she had to persevere with but loves it now as do I. It was actually my wife who in some ways started it as she put a finger up me first, amazing, and this led onto anal sex with her but apart from the ocassional anal fingering of me it was still confined to anal sex with her.

    However I really started to get the desire to try anal on me so had a go with some of her toys and it was amazing and a very great sensation to be penetrated. She then started to finger my butt and one day whilst whilst looking at the LH site together in bed I just asked her if she fancied trying pegging me. She agreed. So we did. I really enjoyed it but she wasn't that keen, more from a practicality side of things than anything else, she just found the peg a bit awkward to wear. It hasn't though stopped her 'abuse' of me as apart from using various toys on me she has now moved onto actually fisting me, which is amazing and which she also loves, seeing how pleasurable it is but how she is able to dominate me and create the reactions she does, milking and making me ejaculate from it.

    So pegging wasn't for her but other forms of anal fun clearly are. So my point from my experience is;

    As others have suggested why not show her some of these posts. Start with a toy first rather than perhaps an actual peg. No it doesn't mean that you are or will turn gay since actually it is always an assumption that all gays have anal sex, they dont, just as not all hetero couples have anal. You are either wired that way or not in terms of your sexuality. I love anal sex with my wife and I love her doing me but I don't fancy blokes or even want to experiement there. It is actually because it is my wife whom I trust and love explicitly that we do any of this and it is highly likely that if I was with with a different woman none of this would take place. Start out slowly together and talk with each other even though it may be difficult to be open and honest about it. I think once your wife sees how much you enjoy it she will get a huge kick out of it as well. We do.

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    best night ever! went with the blindfold, not sure if it was more for my benefit or hers.. she never saw what she was putting in me

    she got quite into it when it was very obvious just how much i was enjoying it.

    goes to show that no matter how much you think you know someone, they can still surprise you :D

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    ;-)

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    Hi all I'm a newbee to the site and fairly new to
    Anal fun tonight me and the oh are going for me to be pegged. I've bought the strap on beginners kit so all being well things should go as planned. Any advice or tips (male/female) would be welcomed

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