• should i say anything ?

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    jambo [sign in to see picture]
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    It was the other day and I thought I was in the house on my own (me and the oh stay at her mums) well I was well horny and needed to relieve myself. So there i was lying on the bed watching some porn and the oh mum walks into the room ! ! She never said a word at the time and has never mentioned it ! ! Should I apologise or say nowt ! !

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    crazy horse [sign in to see picture]
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    If I were you, I'd say nothing. I certainly would not be apologising. She should not have just walked into the room without knocking at the very least. I presume you have told your oh though?

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    Absolutely you should tell your OH!!

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    jambo [sign in to see picture]
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    No not yet ! !

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    DreamOfTheEndless [sign in to see picture]
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    Might as well if it's bothering you. I'd keep it brief and to the point and don't hang around afterwards. Spare her any more blushes. Something along the lines of "Sorry about the other day. I'll make sure it doesn't happen again" and then exit, stage left and sharpish.

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    jambo wrote:

    No not yet ! !

    You have to tell her, but I wouldn't say any thing to the mum.

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    Why does he have to tell his OH? Doesn't that put her in a really awkward position? Unless mum starts acting odd, I think that would just add an extra and very unneeded layer of complication.

    Dream's short apology and quick exit seems the best approach. Either that or just let it be since that seems to be what mum is doing.

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    I wouldn't apologise to the mother but I do agree with those who say tell your OH. If it comes out at a later date and in a tense situation (say during an argument with her mam) she'll be mightily pissed off with you for keeping it from her and it could make your plight worse.

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    OUCH! Thank you ;) wrote:

    I wouldn't apologise to the mother but I do agree with those who say tell your OH. If it comes out at a later date and in a tense situation (say during an argument with her mam) she'll be mightily pissed off with you for keeping it from her and it could make your plight worse.

    This and I'd like to think that if my mum caught my oh having a wank that he would tell me straight away.

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    Reminds of the urban myth of the teenage boy who opens his eyes after an energic wank in his room to find his mums left a cup of tea and a biscuit on his bedside table😨

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    Mortimer wrote:

    Reminds of the urban myth of the teenage boy who opens his eyes after an energic wank in his room to find his mums left a cup of tea and a biscuit on his bedside table😨

    I did think I'd seen a porno that started just like the OP but I didn't want to say.

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    Personally I wouldn't mention the incident to either of them. If the mother hasn't mentioned it then it's probably because she's embarrassed or thinks you might be if she brings it up.
    She should have knocked but maybe she also thought she was the only one home. Don't see why you need to apologise to anyone, you haven't done anything wrong. Perhaps check that you really are alone at home next time :)

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    I don't think the apology is so much about admitting fault as recognising the situation and a way into smoothing over any possibly lingering and embarrassing feelings.

    But I'd be interested to see how this goes, however the OP deals with it.

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    DreamOfTheEndless [sign in to see picture]
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    There's always the nuclear option: a variant on the 'Dad, I'm gay/have got a girl pregnant etc' ruse.

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    I personally wouldn't apologise to your OHs mum, you're an adult and she should have knocked or something instead of entering the room unannounced.

    I agree that you should tell your OH just incase it comes out at a later date, she might wonder why you haven't told her otherwise, I doubt it will bother her too much it's not your fault her mum walked in lol.

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    If it's stuck on your mind tell your OH you're not really in the wrong, her mum will be just as embarresed as you and probably in the same dilemma. It's what happens when adults share a house, don't fret

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    crazy horse wrote:

    jambo wrote:

    No not yet ! !

    You have to tell her, but I wouldn't say any thing to the mum.

    Agreed

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    Tell your girlfriend - she will probably laugh!

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    I agree with those saying tell your o/h no need to say sorry there's nothing to be sorry for.

    You were doing what lot's of men do but letting your o/h know is best as the mother will at some point use it against you.

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    Cuddlekins wrote:

    I agree with those saying tell your o/h no need to say sorry there's nothing to be sorry for.

    You were doing what lot's of men do but letting your o/h know is best as the mother will at some point use it against you.

    absolutely mum's and daugthers can be evil to each other if their fighting and if it gets thrown out in the middle of a fight you end up losing all ways..tell your oh.

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