• cam to cam, cheating or not ?

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    The essence of this is that you've done something Before you've asked your partner about how they feel. I don't think that partners have to approve of everything that each other do (or else you'd essentially be the same people) but they have to know what those things are if they are in any way likely to effect the relationship.

    You've done something and are now seeking approval instead of seeking approval before you choose to do something. That is the difference.

    (Also, what's with all the 'I'd cut his balls off' chat? I understand it's meant in the same vein as 'I'd murder him' and that everyone recognises that but it is still a threat of sexual violence, which should be considered for the seriousness of its content before being used.)

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    Whilst I agree that it's reasonable for people to feel that they would be upset and/or angry at the thought of this (or any other) sort of cheating, the joking about domestic violence really isn't on.

    People are quick to criticise 'rape culture' as making sexual assault seem normal, ever thought that the lack of concern about domestic violence perpetrated against men might be due to something similar?

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    To be honest you are going to get a range of views on this.

    I think someone said early on it's cheating if they don't know about it and I would concur with this.

    So for example I don't think you can classify it as cheating when your partner is with you and actively participating . Yep been there and done that.

    Also when your partner says feel free to do that if I'm not in the mood or not around then again it's consensual.

    Personally for us webcaming is just a natural extention of porn. It's more interactive and slightly less proffessional and occasionally the giggles set in, like when someone asked us to do a bit of spanking, we had no whips or BDSM stuff so had to pop into the kitchen and fetch a spatcular to spank her arse with.

    I would find it strange to be in a relationship where you are not allowed to fancy anyone else, it just does not make sense to me that you can one day go from finding lots of people as attractive and sexy and the next day you suddenly suffer sexual blindness.

    For example if you were to have a sexual dream involving someone else, that is probably more intense than any webcam experience but yet out of your control. It would be nonesense to feel guilty about that.

    Even as a totally straight man, I can appreciate that certain gentlemen are attractive to the ladies, but it does not mean I'm going to go and jump in the sack with said males or females.

    I would much rather hear about my OH's sexual fantasies than demand she repress them or not have them.

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    MattB wrote:

    People are quick to criticise 'rape culture' as making sexual assault seem normal, ever thought that the lack of concern about domestic violence perpetrated against men might be due to something similar?

    I've thought this for a while, but I don't want to derail this thread with it.

    cam to cam and sexting are both cheating in my view. Porn is different it may qualify as cheating to some people but there is nothing reciprocal about it. It's window shopping at the end of the day.

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    flaneur wrote:

    MattB wrote:

    People are quick to criticise 'rape culture' as making sexual assault seem normal, ever thought that the lack of concern about domestic violence perpetrated against men might be due to something similar?

    I've thought this for a while, but I don't want to derail this thread with it.

    cam to cam and sexting are both cheating in my view. Porn is different it may qualify as cheating to some people but there is nothing reciprocal about it. It's window shopping at the end of the day.

    It's reciprocal, but not live.

    You get something in getting off, the actors get something as they get paid.

    Webcamming. Is the same both parties get off ( if it's any good).

    The rest is semantics.

    The cheating part is about not telling or not sharing to begin with.

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    Well my hubby would never ask me if he could do if because he would no I would get angry and throw things at him.
    So he would have to hide it from me so I would then view it as cheating.

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    blonde vixen13 wrote:

    Well my hubby would never ask me if he could do if because he would no I would get angry and throw things at him.
    So he would have to hide it from me so I would then view it as cheating.

    But would it not be better if he could ask without you getting angry, but still respect your answer which is that it would make you feel uncomfortable.

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