• cam to cam, cheating or not ?

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    kinkylittlesod [sign in to see picture]
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    whats your views?

    personally, i think its ok, i'd not be offended if my O/H was on them as long as it was not in order to go and meet up with someone one, as long as its for a bit of mutal self relief i think its ok.

    ive used them for chatting and to get off, the O/H is not always around when the urge takes over, so as for exitement i think its great, do i have any emotional attachment to the ladies ? no, and i dare say they don't to me, and are probably using the cam to cam for the same reasons as i am.

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    This varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.

    Things like this should be discussed with your partner beforehand so that everyone knows where they stand and no-one ends up feeling betrayed or deceived.

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    I'd cut off my mans testicles with a blunt knife if he was on a webcam with another woman. And I know he'd feel he same with me. We both have very strict ideas of what is acceptable, even fancying someone else isn't allowed, just thinking about someone in a sexual way. That said, we go to strip clubs together.

    if it's discussed and your OH is ok with it then that's fine, but just because you wouldn't be bothered if she did it, doesn't make it ok and if they don't know then it's cheating

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    Sorry, but to me it would feel like cheating. If you're in a committed relationship, engaging with someone purely for sexual purposes, then this has crossed a line, but that's just my opinion. However, if you are in an open relationship and both of you are totally aware of what's happening, then that is a different matter...

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    I view it as cheating, and the fact you have asked on here means you're not entirely happy with what you're doing.

    I think you should speak to her without saying you have already done it and see what she says.

    But me personally it would be no way.

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    I would say its less about whether they ctually know and more about whether you hide it.

    At the end of the day if you feel like you have to sneak around and hide it, you also must know deep down that its not ok.

    If you feel like you can be completely honest then it may be ok within the confines of your relationship (but still is probably worth asking to check)

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    best not to tell her then, i'll keep my nuts where there supposed to be lol

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    kinkylittlesod wrote:

    whats your views?

    personally, i think its ok, i'd not be offended if my O/H was on them as long as it was not in order to go and meet up with someone one, as long as its for a bit of mutal self relief i think its ok.

    ive used them for chatting and to get off, the O/H is not always around when the urge takes over, so as for exitement i think its great, do i have any emotional attachment to the ladies ? no, and i dare say they don't to me, and are probably using the cam to cam for the same reasons as i am.

    If you have to ask on here, then it's a pretty good sign that you should be asking her.

    kinkylittlesod wrote:

    best not to tell her then, i'll keep my nuts where there supposed to be lol

    Or best to stop doing it and betraying her trust?

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    kinkylittlesod wrote:

    best not to tell her then, i'll keep my nuts where there supposed to be lol

    The fact you've just said that shows that's it's cheating. Come clean with her and hope she's ok with it

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    MattB wrote:

    kinkylittlesod wrote:

    whats your views?

    personally, i think its ok, i'd not be offended if my O/H was on them as long as it was not in order to go and meet up with someone one, as long as its for a bit of mutal self relief i think its ok.

    ive used them for chatting and to get off, the O/H is not always around when the urge takes over, so as for exitement i think its great, do i have any emotional attachment to the ladies ? no, and i dare say they don't to me, and are probably using the cam to cam for the same reasons as i am.

    If you have to ask on here, then it's a pretty good sign that you should be asking her.

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    best not to tell her then, i'll keep my nuts where there supposed to be lol

    Or best to stop doing it and betraying her trust?

    +1

    I'd be another nut cracker I'm afraid.

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    Totally depends on the dynamics of your reltionship but my guess is that you know that your OH wont approve. Keep us posted if you do decide to tell her since it sounds that it may become intressting and god knows there is nothing good on the telly to be watching

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    In my opinion it's cheating and know my partner would see it as cheating also.

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    nah, wont tell her, there must be lots of women whove got off on looking at porn without telling there other halfs, is this a similar thing or miles apart ?

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    Porn is different, more about the act than the person and doesn't involve any interaction, you're doing something with someone else, a pother woman is seeing you orgasm, enjoying your penis, imagining sexual things about you. I'd be heart broken if you my OH did this. You clearly know she won't be happy so why do it, if I knew my OH would be unhappy about anything I wouldn't do it, isn't that what relationships are about?

    Also, if someone's OH doesn't like them watching porn so they do it secretly that could also be considered cheating. It's just about considering your OH and not doing anything for yourself that will hurt them

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    I personaly think looking at porn and doing cam stuff with other people is miles apart. As porn is just videos/movies/pictures of people having sex. Where as doing stuff on cam is completely differnts as it's an actual person.

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    Miles apart in my opinion. Planets apart even. Porn is a pre recorded, choreographed session designed to titillate a wide audience. It's unlikely you'll meet any of the participants, rendering it harmless (though I don't love my husband watching it).

    Cam to cam stuff is real time and despite the fact you say it's just for fun or release, I would see it as personal. You would be getting off specifically on what another woman was doing for you. There's also the possibility of hook-ups being arranged. All affairs start somewhere, whether it be a chatter by the drinks fountain at work, smiles over the counter at Starbucks or tossing off to some woman via webcam who happens to live a twenty minute drive away.

    Just my two pennies but if you were my OH I'd kill you for telling me you had done it or wanted to do it and if I found out you'd done it behind my back I'd kill you twice.

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    It sounds like you're trying to justify your actions, when really there are no excuses.

    What you're doing is cheating.

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    +1 to what young and fun has said. That's what I was trying to say but you put it much better then me :)

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    Young and fun95 wrote:

    Porn is different, more about the act than the person and doesn't involve any interaction, you're doing something with someone else, a pother woman is seeing you orgasm, enjoying your penis, imagining sexual things about you. I'd be heart broken if you my OH did this. You clearly know she won't be happy so why do it, if I knew my OH would be unhappy about anything I wouldn't do it, isn't that what relationships are about?

    +1 It is totally different to porn

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    Personally I think if you have to ask then it's not right. I'd be devastated if my OH did this.

    As people have already said, it is completely different to porn and the interaction with another person for something sexual like that is wrong when you have a partner.

    Some people may be ok with it, it depends on the relationship I guess.

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