• New things to do in bed

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    KPJoel [sign in to see picture]
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    Myself and partner are looking at new things to do in bed. Sex has become same old.

    Any suggestions?

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    SK1966 [sign in to see picture]
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    Bondage. Roll play. Sensual massage. These are all thimgs that work for us x

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    delilahxx [sign in to see picture]
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    You could take a look a the gifts and games, that could give you a few ideas of new stuff to try.

    Games are a good way of trying something different , as it can lead onto other exciting things :)

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    Mr&MrsSnaredrum [sign in to see picture]
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    Try some bondage. It's a lot of fun.

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    KPJoel [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheap&Easy wrote:

    Try sleeping, I LOVE IT!! ;)

    Ha ha thanks Cheap!

    Don't know whether to suggest 3sums / swinging etc?

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    naughty stacey [sign in to see picture]
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    If you open with "let's try a 3some or swinging" your partner is likely to think there is something wrong with them and their performance, more so if you start the conversation the way you did here. The default is it take things as a personal attack.

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    Ame [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try spanking if your lover fancies it too! I personally love it.

    naughty stacey: Sorry for the off-topic, but your avatar is just adorable!

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    delilahxx wrote:

    You could take a look a the gifts and games, that could give you a few ideas of new stuff to try.

    Games are a good way of trying something different , as it can lead onto other exciting things :)

    +1 Games are a great way to experiment :) x

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    diddles [sign in to see picture]
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    games or toys are a way to spice things up a little

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    KPJoel [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for all of the comments, i have bought some new toys, an outfit and a game to try!

    The only reservation I have about a 3sum is if she said yes, where would I look to find an interested party?

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    Games are always fun as there are lots of different things mixed up in a game to try.

    For 3somes - best thing is a swingers club. That way you both go, try something new (assuming) and there is no obligation to bring others into the equation. Just being in that environment or playing with each other in that environment can be a wonderful boost if you are both comfortable.

    My gf and I attend a club from time to time and dont always play with others - but always have a good time with each other enjoying the facilities - the place we visit has a spa and pool which we enjoy

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd forget the threesome for now. Enjoy experimenting with your new toys and game, then perhaps one quiet evening, ask her about her fantasies. These may not include a third party. Not everyone would be comfortable sharing a much loved partner. Being on the swinging scene as a single lady, I have seen numerous disasters that has ended marriages.

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    FrumCouple [sign in to see picture]
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    +1

    I don't think bringing others in is a way to "spice up" a relationship. It should only be brought in as part of a relationship that is already going strong and steady and both sides are interested in adding it.

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    I also want to second all the recommendations for games, we used to be a very vanilla couple and buying a bored game helped us get lots of new ideas, try new things and talk more about our fantasies.

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    El terriblo [sign in to see picture]
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    I must also addthat bondage would be a nice step in the right direction, however might I add not to 'jump into the deep end' too soon, I suggest sutble playing such as handcuffs( fluffy ones for her, or him, unless you enjoy a little pain)

    I think the bored game idea works for those who want to use such apparatus, for the modern gamer couples out there I suggest pretending to play while your other half is then sneaking either a wet finger or even some lips and let your body do the rest if you know where I am going with this?

    Spicing things up helps a lot though and whenever you want to try new thigns remember to talk and if the daily life is too hectic to put aside any time, then make the time to not only hav some 'quality time' but to talk about new thigs you both want to try and also its nice to talk for a little while or even hours after the act is done, just laying there in eachothers company makes all the difference :)

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    I quite like playing angry birds on my phone in bed.

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    Yes man [sign in to see picture]
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    How about pumping, pussy clit or nipples or all three if your adventurous! My OH was very sceptical about pumping until I took the gamble and bought her first pussy pump, she tried it loved it and now does it nearly everytime we have sex, she especially loves to pump her clit which nakes it huge and extremely sensitive, she has the best orgasms this way!

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    FrumCouple wrote:

    +1

    I don't think bringing others in is a way to "spice up" a relationship. It should only be brought in as part of a relationship that is already going strong and steady and both sides are interested in adding it.

    I think by adding a third person, you introduce a very real risk of planting some seeds of doubt that could grow over time. Fantasising about a threesome together is a lot of fun on the other hand, but I think for a healthy relationship, it's one of the things that should remain a fantasy. But that's just my opinion. :)

    OP - have you tried a completely new position? Some new sexy lingerie, or a nurse/schoolgirl/secretary uniform?

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    naughty stacey wrote:

    If you open with "let's try a 3some or swinging" your partner is likely to think there is something wrong with them and their performance, more so if you start the conversation the way you did here. The default is it take things as a personal attack.

    Have to agree, that is a subject that requires some tact rather than a size 12 boot

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    rogerthechorister [sign in to see picture]
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    OK. Youve done "cock in cunt" - and I assume in all the main positions - having checked out the Kama Sutra and the Perfumed Garden?

    You've tried oral sex in all forms, and anilingus?

    Youve tried anal sex - with fingers and cocks or tools?

    Oh and you've done the panoply of toys?

    If so, then fetish territory. Personally I'd avoid "swinging" as it needs both of you to be very confident on yourselves and very loyal to your partners not to be enticed away.

    Where to start?

    Games, which prescribe your roles or actions?

    Porn?

    Bondage, BDSM, CP, power exchange. The website "Fetlife"

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