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    sunseasex [sign in to see picture]
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    Just seen a very hot and muscular young man doing the garden next door. I was absolutely horny as hell, so out came the toys and i had a superb orgasm watching him. Sholud i feel guilty or not and should i tell my partner? I think it will turn him on but should i risk it?

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    I'd only tell him if you're absolutely sure he'll find it a turn on. You know him best and if you think there's a risk of him being jealous or feeling hurt by this then it might be best to keep it to yourself.
    I know that if I found out that my husband had been masturbating while watching a pretty young woman in the garden next door I'd be hurt and very upset but that's me, everyone's different so go with your gut feeling .

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    delilahxx [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree with Wildflower, if you have any doubt about mentioning it then I wouldn't say a word.

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    DreamOfTheEndless [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't either. It'd upset me to think of my wife masturbating over a younger, fitter man than me. Watching a woman would be different. I understand that there's things there that I can't offer but her watching a newer model? I think that would upset me.

    Did he finish the garden, do you know or is he coming back? ;)

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    I wouldn't want my husband to tell me if he did something like this and I wouldn't tell him if I did it. It hurts my feelings when i catch him masturbating over the perfection of porn stars, which is daft seeing as though they're generally American and a million miles away so it's never going to come to anything (gah, I hate dropping puns :-} ).

    But an actual flesh and blood body just over the fence would really grind my gears as it would bring the object of his desire into the realms of possibility. I don't have the best body image in the world (because I don't have the best body I could have) and this would make me anxious and would be a harsh kick to my self-esteem.

    That said though, a relative of mine had the hots for one of the chaps doing her roof a while back and she actually phone sexed her parner while watching this strapping young buck do his thang in combat shorts and a tan. Her partner knew this guy was her visual focus and he was fine with it and what's more, she knew he would be.

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    No don't tell keep it a nice fantasy.

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    I've come into this discussion a good three months late but thought I'd share my thoughts on the matter.... Particularly as I'm clearly in a different school of thought to most.

    I would personally rather my wife told me she had masturbated while watching or thinking about another man. I would find that a real turn on that she could be so up front and sexually open. After all we are all human and can be attracted to people other than our spouses. So yes I'd rather she shared it with me so that I could make that fantasy a shared turn on and something we could talk about under the covers.

    I guess it's down to the couple involved but for me it's a no brainer... Mind you - by now you may have already told him. I'd be interested to hear of any developments! X

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    DreamOfTheEndless [sign in to see picture]
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    That's easy for you to say; look at your stomach.

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    sunseasex wrote:

    Just seen a very hot and muscular young man doing the garden next door. I was absolutely horny as hell, so out came the toys and i had a superb orgasm watching him. Sholud i feel guilty or not and should i tell my partner? I think it will turn him on but should i risk it?

    personally I wouldn't say - enjoy the fantasty we all fantasise even during sex sometimes its not as though you jumped on him you just dreamed about him.

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    I wouldnt tell him, sounds hot but he could see it as your thoughts could lead to cheating. We can never block out our thoughts for others but you have gone a little further. I'm not sure I would feel guilty or anything like that.

    Without knowing oh its hard to call.

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    As this was 3 months ago, I was wondering if you told him in the end or not sunseasex?

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    delilahxx wrote:

    As this was 3 months ago, I was wondering if you told him in the end or not sunseasex?

    Ha I didnt notice the time frame on this

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    delilahxx [sign in to see picture]
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    Lol, it's easily done :)

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    The anticipation is killing us... and she may not notice this post and we will never know!

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    I'd love to know what happened!

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    And there's not even a way of asking her!

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    Personally I'd love my OH to tell me what she masterbated over but she is very shy when it comes to telling me her fantasies so even for me to think of this is a big turn on.
    Sorry I hope this helps. X

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