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    LovePaPa [sign in to see picture]
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    I am trying to find ways to kick mine and the wife's sex life up a notch. Just looking for fun suggestions. I have items on my wish list that I think may do the trick but I also like hearing ideas from pros. We are open to anything we can do with each other, but not open to adding outside people.

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey and welcome.

    Ok. First question is what have you tried?

    or anything you would like to?

    maybe a bit of tying up and spanking?

    anal?

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Welcome to the forum, there's loads of different things you can try. Have you used toys before? Had anal?-you or her? Double penetration? Restraints? Candles? Whips? Even a cock ring can be an incredible addition.

    Theres nothing more fun and eye opening than discussing with your OH what you'd both like though

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    LovePaPa [sign in to see picture]
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    We have talked about it quite a bit and seems to get her going is mostly rough sex. I am thinking of some BDSM but my experience with that is extremely limited.

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    AnnaDee123 [sign in to see picture]
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    Openly ask her about her fantasies, tell her about yours and discuss what you'd be comfortable experiencing. See what you can make happen.
    Introduce toys or a bit of light restraint and teasing with a tickler, your mouth and hands is amazing foreplay.
    Take pictures, record while having fun - can be a huge turn on.

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    ok she wants rough?

    first step for that would be hair pulling. Hubby loves to do this and I love it also.

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    scarab9 [sign in to see picture]
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    yep, first step is talk. Sexting is good for that, start asking about fantasies, tell some of yours, find things in common.

    If she' safter rough sex you may need to ask or experiment to narrow that down. You don't want to go wailing in with kidney punches when she means a light pat on the bum ;-) (seriously I knew someone who liked being punching in the kidneys...I know!)

    Taking a firm handful of hair (as mentioned above) to take control and cause some pulling on the scalp, play with her nipples a bit harder, pin her down or tie her up. Try some spanking - one thing there is would she want a few slaps while you're having sex, or does she like the more 'structured' session where you put her over your knee and concentrate on the spanking alone or with some other sensations (Basically without penetration).

    It'll take a while but if she's as enthusiastic to try as you are then you've both got a great time ahead. Just keep the communication open.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    That's always better without toys. Maybe some restraints. But just be dominant. Pull her hair, choke her, grab her, throw her over, hold her down, put her in awkward positions, it's all about attitude

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi, welcome to the forums :)

    I wouldn't go straight in with anal, choking etc just yet, you don't want to have a bad experience and put her or yourself off it all together, just take things very slowly. As Cheap&Easy said, have a safeword which will call things off if things get uncomfortable.

    Have you see this offer? http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/special-offers/3077/

    I would maybe go for some of these beginner items -

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21800 - I have this and it has a padded satin side that can be a good introduction to spanking, once things progress and you are both comfortable with the paddle you can use the leather side, and use the satin side for rubbing and soothing the spanked area, it feels lovely!

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20343 - these are a nice introduction to restraints and are silky soft and non-intimidating, once you are comfortable using these you can progress to cuffs and bondage rope.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19810 - this is a very good position strap, we have it, and it helps with having rough sex but you're still in total control of penetration. It helps give super deep penetration and is totally comfortable.

    I hope that helps :)

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    LovePaPa [sign in to see picture]
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    Any other fun ideas we could try aside from rough? Any good experiences you all have had?

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    LibraLover [sign in to see picture]
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    The deal MrsMcX posted is great. We just got (in the post today!) this flogger http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15815 which I think is great and highly recommed as it can also be used for tickling

    The paddle http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21800

    and this collar http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15811

    But we already have quite a few restraints, and they are all great! So getting some restraints would be a good idea

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    duckandbunny79 [sign in to see picture]
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    LovePaPa wrote:

    I am trying to find ways to kick mine and the wife's sex life up a notch. Just looking for fun suggestions. I have items on my wish list that I think may do the trick but I also like hearing ideas from pros. We are open to anything we can do with each other, but not open to adding outside people.

    Really depends on what you like.

    But I would always suggest something along the lines of a slow sexual play. Both get dressed up in the sexiest outfit that the OH prefers.

    Then send a good 5 minutes kissing and stroking each other. No touching of boobs, pussy or cock. Then very slowly remove one article of clothing at a time. When that clothing is removed kiss, tease and carress the new exposed skin. But when you get down to removing the underwear, keep away from those naughty areas. Try to be creative about making the other gasp and sigh.

    If you are enjoying this you could look at stopping before climax, but that maybe more for those who enjoy denial scenarios. The good thing about denial is that the next day you are both still gagging for it. But it's not for everyone taking it from one day to the next and I certainly would not advise it if the next day you can't start again, due to other commitments. Because it could leave one or both of you very disappointed.

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    LovePaPa [sign in to see picture]
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    I love all of the info you guys are giving me. This is great. I am definitely going to try some of these in the bedroom. Please keep rolling in the ideas.

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    FrumCouple [sign in to see picture]
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    Great idea for a couple looking for ideas. Get an adult board game or card game. Even if you don't end up liking the actual game the cards can give you many different and varied ideas to try so you can figure out what you like and what you'd be interested in exploring more.

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