• Hubby refuses to get kinky, sooo frustrating!

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    Cowboy81 [sign in to see picture]
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    OP TOPIC:

    I would say that if you have told him you want to be spanked and he is uncomfortable, I would have a none sexual convesation around why he is uncomfortable. It took a long time for MRS and I to figure out our drives, likes, dislikes - many of those went agaisnt assumptions. As an example I enjoy rough sex now because she did but I did not at first. Part of it was because I had the idea that I did not want to like it because "what is wrong with me if I get off on hurting someone I love". Another issue was what if I actually hurt her?! Yet another peice was the insecurity of it not being romantic enough (and not lasting long enough) and thus I would not actually please her. All in the end (no pun intended) we grew through it but it took conversation and small steps.

    I hope that helps

    ~CB

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/forum-rules/

    Please read the forum rules QuoJo - and everybody else drop it before this gets even more out of hand then it has already.

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    rogerthechorister wrote:

    Anyway, to get back to the topic of the unkinky male other half - I suggest tying him down with a pillow under his arse and his balls in the air and wanking him very slowly. If you can keep it slow enough he'll be begging to do anything you want by the time he does come. And if he breaks his promise, next time don't stop immediately he's had enough. That should get him ready to punish you a bit the time after that...

    So, essentially, manipulating him into doing something that perhaps just doesn't turn him on? Can't help but feel if it was a guy on here talking about something his female OH didn't want to do, the suggestion of manipulating her into it would be seen - quite correctly imo - as a violation.

    We don't all have the same turn-ons and kinks - some people don't get turned on at all by domination: I think it's pretty disrespectful to keep pushing something.

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    dkink [sign in to see picture]
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    +1 Englishrose. Been kinky most of my life but still not into domination, i can fully understand someone who is not that kinky being turned off by it. Plenty more ways you can have fun with a partner. I recon dam few of us fully realise all of our fantasy's but if you get try at least some of them...

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    DavidB1986 wrote:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/forum-rules/

    Please read the forum rules QuoJo - and everybody else drop it before this gets even more out of hand then it has already.

    +1

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    DavidB1986 wrote:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/forum-rules/

    Please read the forum rules QuoJo - and everybody else drop it before this gets even more out of hand then it has already.

    I'm really trying to but I'm itching to keep it going. Be the bigger man, be the bigger man!! Good night :)

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