• first time anal

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    jayandrach [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Lovehoney family,
    My wife an I have just started introducing a bit of anal play which so far has been rubbing the outside and a bit of rimming me on her. However the other night she was rubbing me and said about me having her stick a vibrator in me and I said yes if she wanted to I would be willing to try this (I say you have to try everything at least once) was met with her amazement as she thought I was going to say no.

    However this will be a very first for both of us so was wondering if you have any tips on toys or lube as we have normal lube but seen anal lube and was wondering if this was just a gimmick and is really the same stuff in a different bottle.

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    Fitnessfreak [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife has toughed me there not deep but it does make me cum faster, I would start with her finger unless you have done that already.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Anal lube is a bit thicker, I have this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13084 which works great, toy wise, I'm using this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11595 and this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=29336 to work the OH into anal, try using a finger to reach the prostrate too, OH hasn't gotten to prostrate massages yet though as they're too girthy

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi jayandrach – the most important thing to remember is to take it extremely slowly, use lots of lube and stop immediately if anything hurts or is uncomfortable. Try to relax as much as you can. It is always best to start with a beginners butt plug, small dildo or a finger - my Husband uses a glove when he does this so that afterwards you just turn it inside out and you have no worries about mess etc. We use these:-

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=10680

    You could also try a beginners butt plug like this one:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21767

    Or a beginners anal probe like this one:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2041

    It may take a couple of sessions before you are able to penetrate fully - just take as long as you need and build up very slowly. Just get used to playing with your fingers for a couple of sessions and enjoy those sensations before you try again - making sure you use lots of lube - this is essential. I personally use Sliquid Sassy or Lovehoney’s own Anal Lube for everything as they don’t contain any chemical nasties, glycerin or parabens and are slightly thicker than normal lube and long lasting, but there are lots of anal lubes on LH to choose from.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28339

    Here is a Lovehoney guide on how to find the perfect lube:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/buyers-guide/choosing-personal-lubricant/

    I have also added a couple of Lovehoney Guide links which I think will be helpful:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/an-overview-of-anal-sex-toys/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/anal-sex-toys-beginners-guide/

    I hope this all helps :) xx

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    PhilD [sign in to see picture]
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    Our preferred lube is the Maximus linked above, and it can obviously used anywhere 😉

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    Stuburns [sign in to see picture]
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    My advice other than lube is to keep a strong hold on that vibrator. Things can quickly dissapear. That's why butt plugs are shaped the way they are so they can't go to far. Plenty of butt plugs on this site to help you experiment and at great low prices. Always best to be safe.

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    Fitnessfreak [sign in to see picture]
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    Stuburns wrote:

    My advice other than lube is to keep a strong hold on that vibrator. Things can quickly dissapear. That's why butt plugs are shaped the way they are so they can't go to far. Plenty of butt plugs on this site to help you experiment and at great low prices. Always best to be safe.

    Oh haha that would be a embarrassing trip to a&e

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    jayandrach [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you all so much for your quick replies especially to Scorpius for giving all the links to products and guides.

    Young and fun I had the 50 shades vibrating butt plug on my wish list when it was up for testing however unfortunately I wasn't lucky to get it.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd certainly recomend buying it, the gently slope is brilliant for working your way up

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    nodrog [sign in to see picture]
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    good on you for saying yes it allways seems to be the guy doing anal to the girl

    when most guys dont know what they are missing

    enjoy

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    Petrichor [sign in to see picture]
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    For beginners I would probably recommend cupid's itty bitty butt plug (added advantage - it also comes in black!) http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16479 over the tracy cox one for the extra 0.5in girth (still only 3.5 total) and because it's so short - the ring makes it incredibly easy to use, especially if you don't really know what you're doing. It doesn't have an option for a vibrator though, where you can put a bullet in the tracy cox ones.

    If you wanted to try something with beads, I'd highly recommend the Adrien Lastic beaded butt-plug, because it's shorter than most beads, the biggest one is 3.5" same as the cupid's plug, and you could get both on the 2-for-£15 deal. (There's also another Adrien Lastic plug that seems to be a similar shape to ones designed for prostate stimulation, not having one I can't comment on whether it works).

    For something that vibrates, is small, and includes anal beads I think the bionic bullet beaded anal wand would be a good choice http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=23981 , you could use as much or as little as you like, you can change the bullet in it if you wanted to try a different one, and while it SAYS the circumference is 4", in reality that's only the largest bead which I couldn't fit due to length, the rest of it is much smaller. For me that made it disappointing - I thought that most of the beads were 4" and the last one was even bigger, but for a beginner it would be good.

    One thing I'd recommend is not moving up too quickly from the smaller measurements, I jumped from 3.5-4.9 as it was labelled "medium". Mediums vary extremely, (some are bigger than other brand's large!) and I found 1.5" extra girth can make too much difference.

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    Petrichor [sign in to see picture]
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    Forgot to say - I always just use normal lube for anal play, but I go very slowly, e.g. one bead in and out a couple of times a minute, so it doesn't dry out. I prefer it because it feels slicker to me than the thicker lubes like the maximus, but for anything involving much thrusting you might want a thicker one that won't dry out so fast - some people like silicone for this reason, if you choose that make sure you're not using it with silicone toys as it can damage them.

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    pink69 [sign in to see picture]
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    i do reverse cowgirl with my husband and then with a lubed finger it just slips in whilst gentley rocking on his cock , makes it so much more intense for him .

    I also have a strap on to use on him which he loves (i put a towel underneath so i don't get sticky sheets)

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    HornyGeekGirl [sign in to see picture]
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    lube, lube, and more lube. And take it slow, if it hurts stop and try again later....or with something smaller.

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=4463

    We use this it is very slender the size of you little finger in diameter. There are many great lubes but we use Sliquid silver.

    Good luck and enjoy.

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    Hezzah [sign in to see picture]
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    Gentle giant wrote:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=4463

    We use this it is very slender the size of you little finger in diameter. There are many great lubes but we use Sliquid silver.

    Good luck and enjoy.

    Personally i highly recommend something like this. my OH got one for use on me, and i have NEVER looked back. utter bliss.

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    kc. [sign in to see picture]
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    Anal is amazing whether giving or receiving. I started on the wife years ago and we both loved it. Funnily enough it was her who actually did me digitally first and that made me go for her. Yep I loved it but it wasn't until now, some fifteen plus years later that she has really started to go for it and go for it big time. It is amazing what you can accomodate after a little practice. She can even fist me now past her wrist but you might need to build up to that.

    Start out small, work your way up, use plenty of lube as everyone says. We have used and use a variety of lubes and they all seem to do the trick . Glass dildos are great as well such as

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17187 but I can now accomodate this beauty

    but don't be too afraid of size as you progress. There are almost two points. One the entry and then as you go a bit further another restriction point cauased I think by the pelvic bone. You can and will get past it over time and if that is what you want.

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    dirty_boy [sign in to see picture]
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    As recommended in numerous posts above, our lube of choice for anal is Maximus.

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13084

    My OH prefers a finger to warm her up rather than a toy (she mostly leaves the toys for me!).

    You are embarking on an amazing experience, and it's something that initially my OH was against, but something that she has instigated fairly recently and it has added a new dimension to our love making.

    Enjoy and welcome to the Privaleged Club :)

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