• Dominating?

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    Richy [sign in to see picture]
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    My missus has enjoyed being handcuffed and basic tieing up....not done much else although she enjoys me holding her hands down when I do her from behind etc

    so where do I take this next...I saw this and put it on my wish list...any other suggestions?

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26537

    maybe a paddle ?? Any other suggestions, not sure she wants hard dominating quite yet...but you never know!

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    PurringTiger [sign in to see picture]
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    I would say that your first foray should be something that's not too overpowering or scary. You can always build up to the more extreme stuff later. Personally I'd suggest some of the Lovehoney Tease Me range or the Fifty Shades if you prefer those colours.

    A kit like these :-

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25727

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26083

    or some of the range in separates is available in the 3 for £30 at the moment, such as :-

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21800

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21798 (this is gorgeous and a complete blackout)

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21801

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26079 (comes with a freebie atm)

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26078 (also come with a freebie atm)

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    Dominating is not so much what you've got, but how you use it to make the other person feel dominated. You might both want to take 10 minutes to get "in the zone", you to be dominating, she to be dominated.

    Having said that, we have a ridiculous amount of kit, but this one probable gets most use, seeing it is just there under the bed the whole time

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19809

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    Sum Sub wrote:

    Dominating is not so much what you've got, but how you use it to make the other person feel dominated. You might both want to take 10 minutes to get "in the zone", you to be dominating, she to be dominated.

    Having said that, we have a ridiculous amount of kit, but this one probable gets most use, seeing it is just there under the bed the whole time

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19809

    I love this being at the mercy of Mr C gets me in the mood. Works a treat as a sub and a blindfold also heightens the senstations of not knowing what is coming

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Things like this need a lot of discussion, ask her what she wants. Do you spank her? If not a paddle is probably not the way to go, you don't know she'll like it. Would she like nipple clamps? Being spread out? The fifty shades of grey hard restraints kit is awesome and comfortable.

    But as I said, bondage is something that requires a lot of comfort and trust, you need to talk about it and understand what you both want and your limits, look through lovehoney together and see if anything strikes her fancy. Make sure you have a safe word whenever you're restraining someone just in case.

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    Twilightgirl123 [sign in to see picture]
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    I would certainly take it slow unless she's asks to speed things up or says that she would like to try more extreme things. Starting with small things like a blindfold and silky restraints is a good idea but if she feels okay with it get a paddle or whip. Just talk to her about it and you're right. You never know. You might find there's new things that you'd both like to try.

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    bmac [sign in to see picture]
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    The key to domination is trust and increasing in small increments. If you just run in and pull a gimp mask over her head and strap her face down to the bed she's probably going to get put off.

    Have a couple of sessions a week, and each time add a new twist to it. So if you've only pinned her hands down so far get some cuffs, then try cuffs and a blindfold, move up to an under bed restraint http://www.passionbay.com/bondage-18/restraints/sex-mischief-bed-bondage-restraint-kit.html

    Keep watching how she responds and if she doesn't like something take a step back. As she gets comfortable you can move on to a ball gag and some gentle spanking/whipping/flogging. The restriant you linked is quite confing so it might freak her out as a first try, but definitely once she's getting into the swing of it that or a restraint bar are a great toy!

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