• I want to sleep with another woman 4 my hubby 4 his birthday...where do I find her???? HELP

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi every1...not been on here 4 a while as been busy having my most recent baby (now 6months), although we have still got the same out of control sex drive as ever before, that I can assure u has not changed & never will!!!
    My hubby & I r very active & adventurous & our biggest past time is sex & lots of it!!!
    We strive to please & pleasure each other every spare minute & opportunity we get! It's his birthday in September & I've set my mind on making 1 of his fantasies a reality...sleeping with another woman whilst he watches...then, when she leaves I reep the rewards from how turned on he will be!!!
    The only thing is, how do I pull this off as a complete surprise for him & where do I find her???
    Has any1 done anything like this before?? All advice & suggestions welcomed! Thanks in advance xxx

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    Hi!
    I know i will never do that because it is not for me. But if i'll ever decide to give it a try i'd go with escort lady. I think it would be so much easier than find someone by myself. I mean - she is used to most sex stuff (you can find someone exactly for what you want), it's her job, no emotions, no friendhip stuff, no fear.
    So yeah id go for that. Hope it helps. :)

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    MarshaMallow [sign in to see picture]
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    I second Dota, I'd definitely go with an escort on this. I know people with their friendships in tatters because they chose someone close to home and it backfired horribly. Adultwork is a really easy to use escort site, and you can search women local to you by specific criteria.

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi ladies, thanks for ur suggestions, I will definitely be taking them on board, I have already started looking at a couple of agencies!! A friend had never entered my head, not a chance would I!!! If I were single & looking for a one nightstand with a man I would never sleep with a male friend of mine...so same rules apply...friendship means too much!!! Please keep other suggestions flowing ppl, but thinking this may b my best way forward?! Thanks again :) xxx

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi ladies, thanks for ur suggestions, I will definitely be taking them on board, I have already started looking at a couple of agencies!! A friend had never entered my head, not a chance would I!!! If I were single & looking for a one nightstand with a man I would never sleep with a male friend of mine...so same rules apply...friendship means too much!!! Please keep other suggestions flowing ppl, but thinking this may b my best way forward?! Thanks again :) xxx

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    I'd agree with the above, I know myself and the OH have discussed similar and 3some with another woman, came very close with someone we knew but now we look back and are grateful we didn't as we'd hat that awkwardness. I'd definitely go with the escort option,

    Not sure on the agency thing, as in Ireland they're all a bit bogey, but there is a site if you google escort England, would be on of the first up, this is more direct with the escort and would have reviews and verifications.

    Failing this there is Fabswingers, you could give this a try... But I think with the escort you can dictate what you want and don't want and there's no uncomfortableness if and when it's over. Hope this helps and he's a lucky guy. Enjoy.

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    vivastreet has a lot of adverts. I am not sure if its reliable though. x

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    Hi misshighmaintainancev.69,

    Thanks for being active in the forum. Just a quick reminder that the forum rules ask that text speak is not used on the forum, and also that the Lovehoney forum is not used for hook ups or dating, although I am sure you are just looking for advice and not to meet up with anybody through this post!

    On a separate note are you sure that surprising your husband with this is the best way forward? Even if you use an escort, bringing somebody else into the relationship can stir up a lot of emotions, it is always best to communicate with a partner before taking such a big step. Fantasy and reality are very different things. Perhaps this is something that is better off not being a surprise: you can still say to him that you have a very special treat in mind and then tell him and ask how he feels about it. That way, he can look forward to it, too! It would be a shame to take away the anticipation for it if it really is something that he has been wanting to do.

    Best of luck.

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm certainly not looking to meet some random person on here to hook up with & sleep with for my husbands treat...I asked for people's opinions & advice on my plans that's all!
    The surprise idea will be staying I'm afraid...he will be expecting something special as I'm always doing things like that for special occasions, he loves the surprise element within our sex life...planned to the book is boring for us, takes the spark out of it & it just wouldn't be the same! I know my man inside out & he does me too!!! We know each others every last fantasy however weird or wild or however simple or mild...we have discussed each at length & we fully know & respect each others boundaries, which fantasies we would ever live out as a reality & which ones we just dirty talk about & fantasise together over!!
    His preference during every discussion about this particular fantasy of his has ALWAYS been "one day I surprise his by screwing another woman right under his nose" this has never faltered during discussion & so I know what I'm doing there, his fantasy is not just that I have sex with her but that I surprise him with it do if I told him I wouldn't be fullfilling the full fantasy & the whole thing would be a waste of time for both of us! I'm not 1 bit worried about that side of it all, my query was merely how do I find "her" ?? Trust me, if you knew my man like I do, that wouldn't even have entered your head, he certainly would NOT be shocked or upset by this surprise birthday treat...he will be VERY PLEASENTLY surprised! Thanks anyway :)

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    People are just pointing something out to you, there's no need to take offence.

    Time and time again on these forums we've seen people in a similar situation to yourself and things don't work out as well as you think it will in your situation. It's all fine and well people having fantasies, but sometimes fantasies are better left that way because seeing something in reality is something entirely different.

    Have you thought of maybe arranging for you and your husband to meet with a women to do this before his birthday, to sort of test the waters before you dive in. This way you can discuss things together and go through all of the emotions together. Then maybe surprise him for his birthday, book a hotel for the two of you, but have her waiting in the room.

    I really think you should at least involve him in things first before adding someone else into the mix, and then surprise him after that.

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I've not taken offence Hun I was answering her question...I know my man & we've lived out lots of fantasies previous to this & ones that are a lot more outrageous too & we've not been effected yet! I know what he wants, & what he could not take! Thank u very much for your input but again, the surprise element will be staying, he doesn't need to meet another woman, whoever I use is for me, not him, so I'm not quite sure how that would make a difference? Maybe I'm just missing the point & if I am I apologise x

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    MrsMcX wrote:

    People are just pointing something out to you, there's no need to take offence.

    Time and time again on these forums we've seen people in a similar situation to yourself and things don't work out as well as you think it will in your situation. It's all fine and well people having fantasies, but sometimes fantasies are better left that way because seeing something in reality is something entirely different.

    Have you thought of maybe arranging for you and your husband to meet with a women to do this before his birthday, to sort of test the waters before you dive in. This way you can discuss things together and go through all of the emotions together. Then maybe surprise him for his birthday, book a hotel for the two of you, but have her waiting in the room.

    I really think you should at least involve him in things first before adding someone else into the mix, and then surprise him after that.

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    We are only here to help and offer friendly advice as you asked for it initially with your questions.

    You have to do what you think is best as you know your partner more than us. What ever you choose to do I hope it works out and goes as planned. As MrsMcX said we have seen it 100 times over and it doesn't always go to plan so it was just a friendly message to be sure you have thought it through in every way possible. In my opinion it is a very big thing to do without him knowing but if that is what he wants then great! I just wonder if he would like to know what the 'other person' looks like beforehand so he can be excited and there is more of a build-up and also ensure he is attracted to her to meet his full expectation.

    You could introduce them on his birthday as his birthday gift, but then plan the threesome some time after when he least expects it. Then he knows it may happen but he doesn't know when!

    Maybe Google or Fetlife could help you find the answers you are looking for.

    Lovehoney - Cazz

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    I think it's just that you clearly have a very comfortable relationship, many of us here feel we have a good knowledge of our OH but have to check everything over to them, you get many inexperienced (even the experienced ones mess up sometimes too) people over excited because their boyfriend said he'd like a threesome so they find a guy/girl to turn up to their house and just freak the guy out and pressure him and it just breaks the relationship. That's why people are being wary. You clearly have a strong relationship and know what's important here, if you know he'll be comfortable it just being thrown on him then you know. Deffinately go with a checked and safe escort though, means spending a lot but you don't want to catch anything or have any problems.

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi again every1...just wanted to say thanks to EVERYONE who has replied so far to this thread ALL of your advice has been taken on board but please DO NOT feel offended if I choose not to take that particular advice...if I took everyone's advice & used it I wouldn't get anywhere as its all so different!!
    I wasn't taking offense at all to the people who offered advice that I wouldn't use, I was merely responding & pointed that out to them so that other people wishing to join the chat got a clearer picture of the advice that I was after!!
    So, just to clear a few things up, the surprise element of this is his clear choice & so that is what he will get...as stated previously, we know each other inside out & have done things like this alot before, we never step over the boundaries & so it works & we are super strong!!
    He is adamant that he does not need to be attracted to her, she is for me, I must be attracted to her, he gets the pleasure out of seeing me have sex with her & get off on her, he wants to get off on that, not on her!! I think people maybe getting a little mixed up with this as a threesome, it certainly is not!! He does not want to sleep with her, he wants me to, if he wanted to sleep with another woman then this would be a complete different kettle of fish & yes I would be involving him in the planning & he would be able to enjoy the process of choosing the one for him!!
    Hope this helps settle a few things up?? Keep the advice coming please but I am definitely in the mind of an escort...it's safe, its cleaner, & she experienced in this field so should get the best out of the whole experience!
    Yes it will be more costly but I could never put a price on our/my sexual health or on our marriage & fantastic sex life so a high price I am prepared to pay for this fantastic one off experience with my beautiful, amazing, sexy hubby :)
    Thanks again everyone :) x

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    If he has consistently said he wants to catch you in the act, so to speak, I guess you are quite correct in making it a surprise for him. I would echo what has been said before, though, that fantasy is different to reality! It's an idea my partner finds hot too, but when we talked about it outside the bedroom we figured neither of us would want it to come true as jealousy/awkwardness/general reality would spoil the fantasy. It is possible to 'catch' someone with it being pre planned, plus that way it will be playful not shocked lol.

    Random I know, but the cost would get me! I mean getting a baby sitter, hiring the escort (with presumably a huge premium for the actual sex) then potentially even a hotel room...I'd never ever spend that amount of money without consulting my OH. Not to mention that the escort might not quite have the porn star esque acting ability that would be necessary.

    It's an awesome idea, I just don't know that it would work exactly as you want it to!

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    If he has consistently said he wants to catch you in the act, so to speak, I guess you are quite correct in making it a surprise for him.

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    I read that as a guy and think 'What a great excuse!'.

    "What the hell's going on here?!"

    "Oh, you're home early. Eh...she's for you!"

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi, thanks for your input, much appreciated! I hear you, & yes there would be a big risk of jealousy if I were sleeping with another man but not a woman! To be honest it would be the same the other way round too, if he wanted to explore with another man I KNOW (not think) that I would be fine with that as a one off experience but I could not see him with another woman! We have discussed it outside of the bedroom too...lots & it is definitely something he wants & not just dreams about & I am happy for it to become a reality for him! He does lots of things sexually to please & satisfy me too! As for the cost, as it's a one off it wouldn't be an issue! Our only vice with 7 kids between us is sex & everything to do with it, it's the only thing we do spend our cash on!! We don't go out more than a handful of times a year, we don't drink, smoke or take drugs & don't indulge in designer clothes or anything extravagent at all so it wouldn't be a problem!
    In all honesty, I wouldn't want pornstar actress, that's not my type, curvatious, natural, clean & horny is fine :) x

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    My partner and I have a somewhat similar fantasy. (We have not acted upon it...for reasons pointed out above. I would want to ensure it is definitely not going to effect our relationship and unfortunately it is impossible to know for sure because sometimes we can think we desperately want something, only to feel different during.)

    But anyway, I am sure you took on board that point as others have made it, so I am going to talk about finding the woman, or more specifically say I agree with everyones opinions that an escort should be used.

    With an escort, it is a simple transaction. You know what you get and know what the deal is. With some random woman who meet on a site, you have less control and another persons feelings to consider. I have noticed that there are not a large supply of women queueing up to be somebody elses fantasy. Yeah, many women may have the fantasy of being in a threesome or being with another woman, but more often than not it is a couple (like you) looking for that single female.

    The reasons I picked up on, with regards to why there are not that many single females interested in being the third wheel are as follows: Being the single female is not as comfortable. You have been invited into a relationship, with its own dynamics that you are not entirely privy too. You are afraid to do something that starts an arguement You are outnumbered in this equation and often treated as a sex toy for their benefit (The single females pleasure, comfort and satisfaction is often not considered as it should be, she is merely there to satisfy THE COUPLES urges and desires and to stick to their rules) If jealously or problems break out afterwards, she gets the blame, or the attacks.What does she get out of it at the end of the day? She knows she is walking away from this, probably not speaking to you again after spending a LOT of her time getting to know you and feel comfortable around you.

    Those are the complaints I hear generally from the few women who actually consider all the above and still enjoy being the single female in a threesome. Yes, there are some women, but the choice is limited because as you can see from above, this third wheel is often on the back foot, bowing down to the couples demands, being used as a sex toy and then thrown in the gutter afterwards. These people are human and have feelings and want things, but in the excitement of the couples "we are gunna have a threesome...squeak" attitude, her comfort and pleasure is often overlooked.

    So....this is why I suggest an escort. Could you find a non-escort woman who is interested? Possibly, but it will be a long, hard look, a lot of time spent and a lot of consideration on all parts. It is also highly possible she could bail if made to feel uncomfortable or loses her interest. So....yeah....escort I think is your best bet.

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    misshighmaintainancev.69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks fluff bags... Very very good point, so...my mind is now set; next question is has any1 got first hand experience/knowledge of good reputable sights for outcalls in Leicester?? I need to get hunting, his birthday is in less than 8 weeks :)

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