• Bit of help plz

    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi I recently discoverd I like to be spanked and was wondering a bit about bondage can anyone recommend any products to get to surprise the hubby thanks xxx

    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd recommend getting one of everything.

    A flogger, a paddle, a crop, a cane, and anything else you care to think of.

    Remember, smaller surface area = bigger pain/redder mark/longer lasting for any given amount of effort.

    Maybe also mix it up with some blindfoldedness, so you can't see the spanking coming.

    Also, don't forget he could always use his hand.

    The kitchen usually has lots of spanking resources - spoons/spatulas/pans(!)

    Also, intersperse spanking with tickling/massage to heighten the senses.

    FrozenAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    ^ I'd go with Subs one of everything plan haha variety and all of that!

    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi there, here are a few ideas for the bondage department. This is quite a highly reviewed game, which could help you experiment with this:


    I would suggest this for an ideal first paddle – it is on offer at the moment in the ‘3 for £30 Bondage deal’, which also has the LH Tease Me crop and LH Tease Me wrist restraints in there too.



    You may also want to consider this for a starter flogger – its not at mean as it looks, and its more about how you use it – as with the paddle, build up slowly!


    You could then maybe introduce a blindfold for some added spice, and later some cuffs. The Tracey Cox Beginners Bondage Kit is really nice and non-threatening and comes with one of the best blindfolds I have found.


    Also check out Lovehoney’s ‘Bondage Guide for Beginners’ to get some other ideas:


    Play safe and have fun! xxx

    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi thanks so much I have underbed restraints but he was cuffed not me lol didn't think it was somthing I would like but have discover I so do these are fantastic ideas so I know where my next wage is going lol thanks again I love this site xxx

    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Welome to the forums!

    I see Scorpius has gave you some fantastic advice and I would totally agree with what she has reccomended, I just wanted to pop by and say hello :)

    Hope you find something that you like, someone is always around to help if you need it :)

    Kate2305 [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH is not very confident in asking for something he would like to try, but I generally have an idea of what he is thinking of. We have experimented and learnt a lot of things about ourservelves and what we enjoy.

    Recently I bought a flogger as a suprise. I didn't know for definate whether he would like it but I thought I would give it a go. I bought http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15815 and http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21803 to add to the fun. The satin restraints are great as the texture is silky smooth and long enough that I could tie him up to almost anything!

    I took things slow, tied him up and blindfolded him and ran the flogger over his body before beginning to hit him with it. Within minutes he was begging me to be hitting hit harder than I thought he would :)

    The key is to start anything new slowly and build up to it to see what you both enjoy and feel comfortable with.

    He definately likes me to be in charge and I imagine my next purchase may well be a gag.

    Happy discovering a new world with your hubby :)

    weenikki86 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks again havea game just see if it will let us explore a bit more thanks again the advice in this fourm is amazing xx


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    Me and my partner have this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26537 and we both love it! It's so much fun! :)

    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    for a paddle a really recommend this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19807 its great to start off with the fur side, then buld up to a spank with the leather side.

    Some soft restraints like these http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=25727 are sensual as well as kinky.

    Seaside Secret [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi and welcome!

    I'd highly recommend a flogger. Me and the wife have always been into bondage but are just starting to explore new things and I cannot recommend this highly enough.

    It's soft yet sharp which makes it fantastic for beginners as (like I did) if you swing it a little bit too hard you don't hurt that much more.

    I hope you find what you are looking for here.


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