• fast ejaculate

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    jack123456 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hai,I have a problem regarding my ejaculation..when masturbate I only take 2minute or below to cum.my question is this normal or not..what about you all..how long do you take to cum when masturbate...
    If,I were to have sex with woman do I cum more faster..
    For your information i`m still a virgin..
    Please help

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    Seaside Secret [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Jack,

    I wouldn't worry it's always faster where you are doing it yourself. Like you if I really want to I can make myself cum within a couple of minutes depending on various circumstances.

    However, it shouldn't affect you in bed and if you want my advice, never take your first "performance" to heart because you are going to be so nervous etc it will probably make you cum quicker. But don't worry it does her better the more you practice.

    Thanks

    Matt

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    Audrianna87 [sign in to see picture]
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    As seasise Secret has said i wouldn't worry about this, there are plenty of things to take into account as to being fast and vice versa. Anticipation, nervs, practice, how horny you are. I wouldn't worry.

    Audrianna x

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    jack123456 [sign in to see picture]
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    Will this also will happen if i were to have a sex with women..and i think that my glan is over sensitive..if doing with lubricant,just simple stimulation already bring me to the edge..i am afraid i can`t penetrate my gf during sex..
    any advice
    ;-):O

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you ever mastubated using a condom? They take some sensation away which would help you last longer

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    First thing first: YES, it is completely normal and quite common. Tracey Cox is your gal for this, here's some links to read/watch:

    http://www.traceycox.com/blog/2014/06/26/ask-tracey-cox-come-in-under-a-minute/

    http://www.traceycox.com/blog/2014/06/19/ask-tracey-cox-should-i-tell-her-i-come-too-fast/

    http://www.traceycox.com/blog/2014/06/05/ask-tracey-cox-stop-coming-too-fast/

    http://www.traceycox.com/blog/2014/05/22/ask-tracey-cox-how-to-last-longer-in-bed/

    Just remember, the average intercourse time can be as low as two minutes! This is in line with my own experiences, however I rarely have intercourse so my sensitivity to a vagina is UP and the missus prefers "no messing around" - i.e. once I'm in it's straight to fast pumping... not a good combo for lasting very long

    Anyway, give those Q&As a read and watch the vids. Know that it isn't a problem, isn't abnormal, and is workable. I'm working on my peaking/edging to see how it goes.

    Good luck!

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    Eager-2-Please [sign in to see picture]
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    Er... don't know how to make the links clicky-clicky, sorry.

    I'm new here.

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    There is nothing wrong with you at all! The average for a man is between 2 and 5 minutes and manyyyyy men could make themselves cum in under a minute if they so desired. You are totally normal in that regard.

    Nearly every single man I know has also had an experience where he had an orgasm faster than he wanted during sex. This is especially so for younger males and inexperienced males, because nerves and the new sensations of being with a woman can cause this. It happens to so many men it would be considered normal.

    Over time, many men learn to develop control over when they cum. I recommend doing some research into this, but you can even practise it now. You can find lots of information about pelvic floor exercises and how to delay orgasm online. Like anything, it just takes practise.

    You could also try practising using a sex toy. It is a unique sensation, different from your hand, but also different from being inside a woman. Practising with new sensations will help you mentally prepare for new sensations with a woman.

    Most women know and understand that men cum quicker (on average) than we do and the majority of us do not mind, so long as you don't just roll over and go to sleep. You can make a woman orgasm with fingers, tongue, sex toys etc and understand that penetration is not the be all and end all. We enjoy having sex (and by having sex, I also mean kissing, touching, licking etc) for the full experience and you should not worry about how long you take.

    I recommend speaking to your girlfriend in future and telling her you are new to sex. If she cares about you, she will not care at all if you do cum fast. She will just want to enjoy a sexual, intimate experience with you. If you do find that you cum faster than you want to, you could ask her to help you with some of the techniques for holding back longer.

    Try not to worry. You are 100% normal.

    Oh and by the way, there are even some women who LIKE it when men cum as fast as possible. Never let something be a weakness, never let it get you down. Just be who you are and find someone who loves you for who you are.

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    jack123456 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks fluffbags,your reply did make me feel assured,thanks a lot!!!!!
    I always thought it was because of my masturbation habit..for your information i always masturbate 4 to 5 time a day..LOL..embarrassed..easy to get hard when look at the sexy girls..

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    jack123456 [sign in to see picture]
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    I already tried that before once young and fun95...
    It feel weird because using condom while masturbate and it quite uncomfortable
    because the condom make a tight grip at the edge of my penis..
    while typing this make me feel shy..Lol:-*
    but yes,the time for me to cum take longer than usual..

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    Morthius [sign in to see picture]
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    As i understand kegel excersises for men can also help you in lasting longer. Even if it wouldn't it's a good thing to do anyway since having good pelvic floor muscles is not just for women.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    jack123456 wrote:

    I already tried that before once young and fun95...
    It feel weird because using condom while masturbate and it quite uncomfortable
    because the condom make a tight grip at the edge of my penis..
    while typing this make me feel shy..Lol:-*
    but yes,the time for me to cum take longer than usual..

    Condoms should never feel uncomfortable or tight, just check tutorials on line that you're putting it on right, there's a knack to it, you should roll it on, then up to your glans then down again, makes it loser and gives you room to keep growing, it's something you should get used to as you should always use a condom for sex, and there's nothing worse for a girl than when a guy can't use one properly. Don't be shy, everyone's been through similar things, I only lost my virginity a year ago, wish I'd have been here first for advice! Lol

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah, condoms come in all different sizes and "fits" so you should experiment a little, to find a brand and a size that works well for you. One that fits comfortably. If you experiment with this (and putting them on) it will save a lot of fiddling around or discomfort etc, when the time comes with a woman.

    Just like experimenting with sex toys and stuff, to get used to different sensations.

    Good luck!

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    naughty mum [sign in to see picture]
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    No one seems to have mentioned the delay sprays for you. I thought I had it posted on this our your other thread, but it has vanished.
    So in the essentials for men section there are several products in a spray designed to help you last longer. Eg.
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27146
    There are several there which cover a wide range of prices, but some also in an offer atm
    Worth trying to help you extend the time you have before popping😉😀

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    Delboy1991 [sign in to see picture]
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    I was just going to say what naughty mum
    Said. Is defiantly look at getting some
    Delay sprays. Plus full of reviews so I'm
    Sure u can find something suitable to help. & good
    Luck x

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    Dali256 [sign in to see picture]
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    Dont get too caught up with thinking that most men are like porn starts and are pumping away for hours at a time, we arent! It varies greatly.

    A few minutes can be perfectly normal and theres plenty of ways to make yourself last longer when you want to. Your first few times will of course be very quick, if you last 2 minutes on your first time then youll be doing really well!

    With a condom on it will take away a fair ammount of sensation and allow you to last longer, theres special condoms to help and take away even more sensation too.

    The most important thing is to not worry about it. Being able to bang away for hours isnt going to make you a great lover. Spending time on foreplay and paying lots of attention to your lady or man friend will mae them never want to leave your bed, theres a lot more to sex than the hockey cokey (in out and shake it all about)

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