Question for bisexual members

Firecracker wrote:

Jimbo J wrote:

Seza, I honestly think that only you can say what yor sexuality is.

I don't believe sexuality is as simple and digital as Gay, Straight or Bi, I have found my sexuality at least to be fluid and dynamic, there have been periods when I've only wanted to be with women and vise versa.

I see myself as being attracted to people not sexes, sometimes there male sometimes female. I was curious enough when I was in my late teens to start experimenting with both sexes and enjoyed sex with both sexes, though I'm now engaged I still see my sexuality as bi, because I'm still attracted to some guys.

As for you being curious, if you feel the need to experiment and you feel confident enough then you can try it and see if you like women as much as men, but only you can make such a call.

I am very similar to Jimbo J, my sexuality is determined by the person not their sex but emotionally I have only ever been drawn to men, maybe it is a security thing the feeling of safety and support I get from men and not women .... who knows

thank you firecracker xx

Straight lines as gay, straight and bi are inaccurate at best. I don't really believe in labelling people as anything for their sexuality, however the Kinsey scale is quite accurate in that it goes by degrees: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

But I still think it's about as useful as the BMI index is for determining someone's ideal weight :)

thanks dave.......hope your ok?

thanks dave.......hope your ok?

Hm? I'm fine :) Having an ok day! And yourself?

oh im doing away just fine dave,thanks x

Good to hear :D

Hehe this is very off topic, my apologies to everyone else in this thread :P

I myself fancy men and women but I couldn't go out with a girl.

My honest reason why is because I would miss the cock too much! x

i dont think i could go out with a girl long term but i would love to have sex with one now and again,i find myself drawn to women just as much as i am to men.

I've had bi experiences as part of 3-somes but never been with a woman 1 on 1 and don't think I'd want to.  Like Danni, I know I'd miss cock too much lol.

I find women attractive but wouldn't want a relationship with one.

im attracted to both men and women but with women it's sex only...i've only ever had straight relationships and it's gonna stay that way.

I find myself sexually attracted to both men and women, but when it comes to relationships I only want men.  I have never had sex with a woman, though I have kissed a couple of women.  I told my current bf straight away when we met because I wanted to make it absolutley clear that it wasn't a joke.  My ex thought I was joking for ages but I thought he knew I meant it.  When he realised I really was bi he didn't speak to me for ages.

My current fella is fine with it as long as I don't run off with a woman, as he puts it lol.  In fact its brilliant!  He lets me borrow his porn and we can have lengthy discussions regarding sexy women together :)

xx

sexynurse09 wrote:

I find myself sexually attracted to both men and women, but when it comes to relationships I only want men.  I have never had sex with a woman, though I have kissed a couple of women.  I told my current bf straight away when we met because I wanted to make it absolutley clear that it wasn't a joke.  My ex thought I was joking for ages but I thought he knew I meant it.  When he realised I really was bi he didn't speak to me for ages.

My current fella is fine with it as long as I don't run off with a woman, as he puts it lol.  In fact its brilliant!  He lets me borrow his porn and we can have lengthy discussions regarding sexy women together :)

xx

Lol I know where you're coming from with the joke angle...There's long been a running "joke" among my friends about me being gay but then I had a relationship with a woman and somehow my friends didn't take that seriously! You can't win!

KittyPurry wrote:

sexynurse09 wrote:

I find myself sexually attracted to both men and women, but when it comes to relationships I only want men.  I have never had sex with a woman, though I have kissed a couple of women.  I told my current bf straight away when we met because I wanted to make it absolutley clear that it wasn't a joke.  My ex thought I was joking for ages but I thought he knew I meant it.  When he realised I really was bi he didn't speak to me for ages.

My current fella is fine with it as long as I don't run off with a woman, as he puts it lol.  In fact its brilliant!  He lets me borrow his porn and we can have lengthy discussions regarding sexy women together :)

xx

Lol I know where you're coming from with the joke angle...There's long been a running "joke" among my friends about me being gay but then I had a relationship with a woman and somehow my friends didn't take that seriously! You can't win!

Awww!   You can't win, you're right.  Sod your friends, you do what makes you happy KP!

xx

KittyPurry wrote:

sexynurse09 wrote:

I find myself sexually attracted to both men and women, but when it comes to relationships I only want men.  I have never had sex with a woman, though I have kissed a couple of women.  I told my current bf straight away when we met because I wanted to make it absolutley clear that it wasn't a joke.  My ex thought I was joking for ages but I thought he knew I meant it.  When he realised I really was bi he didn't speak to me for ages.

My current fella is fine with it as long as I don't run off with a woman, as he puts it lol.  In fact its brilliant!  He lets me borrow his porn and we can have lengthy discussions regarding sexy women together :)

xx

Lol I know where you're coming from with the joke angle...There's long been a running "joke" among my friends about me being gay but then I had a relationship with a woman and somehow my friends didn't take that seriously! You can't win!

i find that alot of people seem to think gay people only want to be friends with other gay people. maybe it was easier for them to think you were joking rather that accept it and think about the fact they might lose a friend

i know it seems an odd kind of logic, but thats the way most peoples mind works. x

See, the funniest thing about when I go out with my friends. They always end up bringing strangers along with them, like their work collegues, or people they half know, and I don't know them at all. So when we starting mucking about (because me and 2 of my friends are bi, we usually fool about and pretend to kiss eachother and talk about the hot woman with the endless legs etc) the "associates" really have no idea that we are bi! Lol! They either freak out and leave early, or they get involved with us thinking its all a joke, until they come up to one of my friends and say "that friend of yours is really fun! Is she always like that?" "well, she is bisexual, and we do always fool around like this" The expression on their faces is always such a picture! "uh, but, I thought you were all just having a laugh! OMG OMG! I let her feel my breasts! She was coming on to me the whole time!!"

haha! I just never get bored with it! Young straight girls just never seem to understand that just because your playing around like that and even though you dont let things go too far, they still cringe at the thought of being felt up by someone who has a different sexual preference! Even though they would be fine with it if you were straight!

Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

See, the funniest thing about when I go out with my friends. They always end up bringing strangers along with them, like their work collegues, or people they half know, and I don't know them at all. So when we starting mucking about (because me and 2 of my friends are bi, we usually fool about and pretend to kiss eachother and talk about the hot woman with the endless legs etc) the "associates" really have no idea that we are bi! Lol! They either freak out and leave early, or they get involved with us thinking its all a joke, until they come up to one of my friends and say "that friend of yours is really fun! Is she always like that?" "well, she is bisexual, and we do always fool around like this" The expression on their faces is always such a picture! "uh, but, I thought you were all just having a laugh! OMG OMG! I let her feel my breasts! She was coming on to me the whole time!!"

haha! I just never get bored with it! Young straight girls just never seem to understand that just because your playing around like that and even though you dont let things go too far, they still cringe at the thought of being felt up by someone who has a different sexual preference! Even though they would be fine with it if you were straight!

Lol...I laugh because this has happened to me too!  It's hilarious/tragic how narrow minded some people can be - just because I'm bi doesn't change anything about the fact that you were cupping my breasts!  

The people that really annoy me are the play-gays...by that I mean the girls that flirt with me in front of guys for attention and then as soon as the guys are gone they get all weird and push you away.  Part of me thinks "shut up and enjoy it while it happens" but mostly I hate it because I don't know if I'm coming or going and I don't like feeling used.

I've got a gay friend and she has a similar problem - two of our other friends got drunk and were grinding on and kissing her.  The next day they were all flirty with the gay girl but behind her back they were saying how they felt uncomfortable with the whole thing and that they didn't like being come-on to by a lesbian - THEY STARTED IT!!!

xxKPxx

I completely agree Kitty. Its a nightmare! A lot of the time when that happens to me I feel like "the only gay in the village" kind of thing!

why is getting a come-on by a lesbian any different than getting a come-on by a bloke? if you dont fancy them then you dont fancy them, no matter what their sex!! i think its their hang-ups about their own sexuality that does it. x

poppy904 wrote:

why is getting a come-on by a lesbian any different than getting a come-on by a bloke? if you dont fancy them then you dont fancy them, no matter what their sex!! i think its their hang-ups about their own sexuality that does it. x

EXACTLY!  Another hilarious slice of homophobic nonsense is when guys freak out if they find out another guy is gay...they assume this means the gay guy will not only fancy them but will not be able to control himself and will try and jump them!  The ignorance and egotism of this is just unbelievable!

xxKPxx