• Watching porn with your partner

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    ToastButt [sign in to see picture]
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    The OH and I have decided we might give this a go, even though she's not into porn when she's alone and cringes at the site of nudity when it happens in films/TV. The weird thing is, she's the one suggesting it, it's not something I've ever brought up as a fantasy or anything.

    I have my doubts over this being a good idea, though it could also be a great idea and end up being pretty hot. What's your experience been?

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    Frankie21 [sign in to see picture]
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    I would never watch porn on my own....perhaps because of some old, puritanical notions that it's a bit sad to watch porn solo?

    I do enjoy watching it with hubby but he certainly gets a lot more out of it than I do. This isn't unexpected - my experience of men is that they're stimulated visually. Most of my stimulation goes on in my head.

    I'm usually the one that suggests watching porn - hubby is a gent and I think he's careful to make sure that I'm not feeling sidelined by his desire to watch porn. Thinking of having a bit of a porn watching session tonight with a subscription to kink. Hmmmmmm.

    Also, our tastes differ a little. Hubby humours me so we watch a lot of female submission but I think he'd much prefer to watch some girl on girl wrestling like stuff. This leaves me cold unfortunately.

    So, to surmise, yes watching porn can be very enjoyable together - bow down and find a suitable way to thank her for being eager to watch it with you. Also, be gentlemanly and talk about what's doing it for you. You may be lucky and have similar tastes, if not find a way to share nicely!

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    Don_Don [sign in to see picture]
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    If she suggested it then I reckon secretly she's dying to watch it..... well that's how mine was and claims "she never watches it on her own" ... haha yer right she doesn't

    let her choose the first few and ask what she enjoys and doesn't like.

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    I think you should view this with a positive light. Many of the threads here on LH are about communication and trying do things you think your OH may like. With this in mind she is trying . Relax enjoy and thank here for suggesting it. Good luck.

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    Suggest go to your local adult store and pick a film to watch. Maybe if she gets a choice in picking you wont have the horrible moment when you think the film you chose is "too much" for her. Porn is great enjoyed together the best of look to you!

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    I agree with BYD, What about trying something slightly lighter to begin with, more of a porn film rather than online porn that is just sex and not much else.

    I haven't really ever managed to sit through porn, just not my cup of tea, but managed watching a porn film once and it was ok when i stopped overanalysing it and overthinking it.

    I think the trick is just to both be aware you can stop it if either of you feels uncomfortable at any point?

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    Vivid entertainment do some great parodies thats what me and my partner started off with may have to get them imported as most dvds in the uk are r18 and there isnt much choice. CD universe have a great selected just be careful if they put the price on the envolope or you will incur import fees.

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    I think with couples watching porn, everyone is different and every couple is different. I decided I wanted to watch some porn with my husband, and we had decided on some x-art porn because it is more focussed on "making love" than having sex and shooting all over some willing big buzzomed lady's face. I would really recommend some x-art porn to begin with. There's plenty of it around online. It turned out that it wasn't really our "thing". I don't even know why, but it wasn't that great.

    I do think it's something couples should try out though, I'm always one for trying something and then if I don't like it or it doesn't work we move onto something else.

    Good luck :)

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    I think what I've found with my partner is that it's a turn on just to see what they're being turned on by, whether it's what they want in real life or not. I agree with Frankie though that it's so much of a bigger thing for guys to be stimulated visually. If she wants to try it I'd suggest the same, ask her what she wants to watch. If she has no idea and really doesn't watch it on her own, pick out something a little softer perhaps male and female.

    Personally, I don't watch it that often but do a little. When with my partner I like showing him things that turn me on and seeing if that's what they do to him. Something like James Deen I've found is a big hit with women, not found any other common ones with females.

    Hope you two have a good night!!!

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    We watched a little together on Friday evening. I asked my wife what she would like to what. She seemed to enjoy her choice of large gentlemen of an African persuasion until my son burst in. We were like a couple of naughty children caught doing something we shouldn't of been. All added to the excitement.

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    Gentle giant wrote:

    We watched a little together on Friday evening. I asked my wife what she would like to what. She seemed to enjoy her choice of large gentlemen of an African persuasion until my son burst in. We were like a couple of naughty children caught doing something we shouldn't of been. All added to the excitement.

    Haha this made me giggle. I don't know how I'd feel about watching porn with the OH. I watch it on my own sometimes, tends to be female submission or porn a la James Deen, but I'd like to think I'd be up for it with the OH.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    I love porn, I feel dirty when I watch it on my own though and not in the good way! Love watching with my partner but he's not really into it that much so it doesn't happen very often which makes it even more exciting

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    Oddly, my new partner and I are having the very same conversation and although we are both agreed that we would happily watch it we're struggling to decide on 'how' to watch it. We've both agreed that non-explicit stuff isn't a suitable turn-on.

    I suggested a DVD, but my partner pointed out that watching the same one over and over is going to get a bit boring. She suggested some of the channels on the TV might be worth a go, even to the point of buying a subscription.

    So we've been looking into that and not getting very far because we can't find out much about the content on such channels without having to have a subscription in the first place.

    Anyone got any experience of them, and are they worth a go?

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    We use internet porn sites, we're not into the full story or build up just the fun stuff, although that means using a laptop for most people which might not be as good as TV but you can have it in different rooms, we have a projector which the laptop plugs into so we get life sized porn

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    VorTechS [sign in to see picture]
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    Young and fun95 wrote:

    We use internet porn sites, we're not into the full story or build up just the fun stuff, although that means using a laptop for most people which might not be as good as TV but you can have it in different rooms, we have a projector which the laptop plugs into so we get life sized porn

    We have decided that we'll try one of the films from TVXFlix just to see how they pan out, but ultimately that your method Y&F could be the way forward!

    Certainly sounds like we could have some fun doing the research for the best site to use! ;)

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    My wife and I over the years have watched a lot of porn both together and also whilst alone. Going back 30 plus years we also used to buy porn mags etc and read them together. As time has gone by the avaialbility of hardcore porn has become readily avaialble. We have always enjoyed porn together as well. It is has made our sex life more open with each other and has added some great spice and ideas to it.

    As long as the two of you are comfortable with it both whee togerther or apart I don't think that it does any harm. I don't mind my wife watching it when I am not about since it is really used as just a visual masturbatory aid, in the same way that I have used it.

    I have bought numerous DVD's over the years so have quite a collection. I also browse the internet although my wife doesn't. We don't really sit down and watch it as you a movie but just go to the bits that we find stimulating.

    I would say though that currently we are not really watching it very much, the ocassional use of it when the other half is not about. I think that the main reason for this is that over time it all becomes a little tame and ordinary.

    Maybe we will have to revisit some DVDs.

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    Me and my partner watch porn but never together im willing but my b/f isnt to keen on watching it with me for some reason

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    lisa77 wrote:

    Me and my partner watch porn but never together im willing but my b/f isnt to keen on watching it with me for some reason

    Hi Lisa, he is worried that what he likes to watch you may find extreme. This is a wonderful way to break down barriers and up the communication. Reassure him that there is nothing that he could show you that would put you off him. Tell him that is turning you on and you want to see what he likes to watch. I doubt very much that it will be anything to extreme, it's just he is just embarrassed. By pushing his comfort zone you might just find it quite stimulating. Enjoy.

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    Young and fun95 wrote:

    We use internet porn sites, we're not into the full story or build up just the fun stuff, although that means using a laptop for most people which might not be as good as TV but you can have it in different rooms, we have a projector which the laptop plugs into so we get life sized porn

    Life sized, "drools" and not porn either, lucky you having this, what's the picture quality like?

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    @ gentle giant thanks for the advice

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