On Top

Hi Guys

This might seem a little...odd.

My partner likes me on top, but i never know what to *do*.

How do i stimulate him as much as he stimulates me when he's on top? What makes it better for both parties? TBH, it feelpretty good, but i think the problem is hat i spend too much time thinking about how i should move/where i should move to fully get immersed in the action.

So...tips please?

Ta

Probably best to ask a girl, or experiment until it comes naturally, but I imagine some combination of thrusting or rolling your hips?

It'll be interesting seeing what people describe, I love having a girl on top but it seems hard to describe something that's relatively instinctive.

Welcome to the forums btw, stick around and I'm sure lots of people will be able to help out xxx

Hi Fee.fairy! Welcome to the OA...

hmmm...well I love to be on top (no surprise there then) and tbh as jacob says, it can be a bit difficult to describe something that came as naturally as breathing to me, but I'll give it a go!

I would say that you should start off with the basics, I love to climb on top of a guy and slowly slide him inside me. then I like to grind my hips in a circular motion, slowly at first and then building up speed. If you get this right, it is amazing for both Gspot and clit stimulation. You guy will love the slow tease, and also the fact that he can see everything that is going on, and have a great view of your boobs! Then I like to lean forward and nibble/suck on his neck, whilst breathing nice and heavy in his ear. this always feels amazing!

When you are both fully worked up, i love to put my hands against the wall/headboard and slide his cock in and out, then gradually thrust harder and faster until you both come together.

My favourite position, and one I would deff recommend is reverse cowgirl...basically sitting on top but with your back to him. this is great for both partners, especially for the guy as  he gets to see your ass bouncing around on his cock. if you have any toys then u cud also use a vibe on your clit or play with his balls (depending on how you feel about this).

I hope that helps a bit. Just play around and see what feels best. The most important thing to remember is that you shouldn't put too much pressure on yourself! sex should be fun, and experimenting and learning with your partner is the most fulfilling aspect. Talk to him, and he may be able to tell you more about what he likes and does not like. I am also positive that no matter how you feel you are doing, your guy would not complain...just having you on top of him is no doubt enough to make his day! I'm sure some more OA members will have some different advice, so good luck and have fun!!

xxx

Thankyou!

He enjoys whatever i do when i'm on top - he has wandering hands, so its all good, but i feel like i'm denying either myself or him the full benefit because i'm thinking about it too much...if that makes sense. I've done the rocking, and the leaning over him and thrusting, and that goes down very well. I'll try the circling thing next time!

Ta

Reverse cow girl does amazing things to my head - it's heartily recommended!

 Glad you approve Jake...

xxx

Unless you have thighs of steel you'll never emulate the porno gals hat squat & bounce for hours.

Straddle your fella & rest on your kness, give lots of eye contact, gently dig your nails into his chest &/or pull his chest hair.  Just rock forwards & back gently, try lifting slighty from your knees occasionally.  If you arch your back the sensation completely changes. Grind down onto him, a great feling. We love this postion & it feels very intimate & close.   Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact!!!

If you swing that way, you have the option to slip your fella out & into your ass.  This is such a turn on when done out of the blue.  Enjoy!!

also just thought id add if u use cock rings, try a rabbit one and go ontop it feels soooooooo good! also when u slideing urself up and down on him try tightning up each time u go down, getting tighter and tighter he will love that.

Stockings & Suspenders look & feel ammazing when on top.  Grapping the straps always adds to the experience.

Thanks for the recommendations. I'll give them all a go, especially the stockings and suspenders :)

 I wanted to add that I also find it hard to know what to 'do' when on top, so you're not the only one!  I've picked up some advice here as well ta.

Ive been married for 24 years and although i just love being on top = and therby 'in charge' somewhat....I find it difficult to let go and enjoy it, sure there have been MANY enjoyable sessions in that time - but never 'quite' achieved it.

I love the reverse cowgirl position - and it gives more scope for moving around etc.

But - FINALLY a week ago - yehaa.......stupendous is the only word....put it this way....I made more of a wet patch than he EVER has...and it was him who has to sleep in it. At first he was embarrased as this has never happened before, cos Ive never let it....but something just clicked and whoosh.

I still giggle when I think about it.

RELAX, RELAX  and enjoy....there is not right or wrong way - if it feels good, go with it.

N40

its also good  to finger the ass and suck on the nipples whilst she is riding ur cock which only intesifies the orgasm for the woman and allows her to grind her clit to her satisfaction

kiltedman wrote:

its also good  to finger the ass and suck on the nipples whilst she is riding ur cock which only intesifies the orgasm for the woman and allows her to grind her clit to her satisfaction

Might wanna ease into the ass thing though, no need to give her a shock all of a sudden when she's on top!

of course its a slow process but when started its a great thing

It sucks, the last time the OH did that to me, it felt uncomfortable, as he jumped in too soon, but the time before, it felt divine, i was really disappointed :(

u gotta tickle it first with lube then enter the finger in the ass

He did, but i think we were both just a tad too horny,and eager,lol

You could always try a sexy cow girl outfit & go with that theme.  Cowgirl boots, stetson, tassle gauntlets & a cap gun belt.  (I'd leave the spurs alone, you might scratch the laminate!)  Yee-hah! 

If only Calamity Jane got that dirty!!!

Mucky Duck wrote:

You could always try a sexy cow girl outfit & go with that theme.  Cowgirl boots, stetson, tassle gauntlets & a cap gun belt.  (I'd leave the spurs alone, you might scratch the laminate!)  Yee-hah! 

If only Calamity Jane got that dirty!!!

Oh my Mucky you obviously dont know Am Dram then.....squeaky clean on the stage....but by the hell - the end of run parties are something to believe!!

Funnily enough the first show I took part in was Calamity Jane...