Having a Threesome

Its gonna take a lot of work on our relationship before I even consider it though!

xx

Stick it in that pigeon hole at the back of your mind, the relationship comes first, esp with Mel junior!!

TB

When we discussed it the other night, I eplained what I've said on this thread and he said he's happy to wait, so it is at the back of my mind

xxx

redapple wrote:

in a fantasy yes I would love either fmm or ffm but in reality ... it ain't never gonna happen ....

OH wouldn't and I am too insecure with my own body .... oh well, sometimes it's better in the mind than in reality ....

The brain is the biggest sex organ, would the reality live up to the fantasy, depends upon ones powers of imagination l half suspect!!

Tallboy

tallboy247 wrote:

redapple wrote:

in a fantasy yes I would love either fmm or ffm but in reality ... it ain't never gonna happen ....

OH wouldn't and I am too insecure with my own body .... oh well, sometimes it's better in the mind than in reality ....

The brain is the biggest sex organ, would the reality live up to the fantasy, depends upon ones powers of imagination l half suspect!!

Tallboy

If you took the plunge and it was a disappointment, then that would ruin that fantasy forever probably.  But I still think nothing ventured.....................    You can easily get a new fantasy I suppose.

if you ask yourself "do i feel comfy having a 3some" usuallly the answer is no

the thing people dont realise is you have a lot at stake and fantasies really arent always what they are made out to be hehe

LKS xxxx

lil_known_secret wrote:

if you ask yourself "do i feel comfy having a 3some" usuallly the answer is no

the thing people dont realise is you have a lot at stake and fantasies really arent always what they are made out to be hehe

LKS xxxx

Quite right LKS !!!

Tallboy

Right, send for sexybeast he's been into threesomes, ended up with partners swapping as l recall, but he's definately been there!!! Beware eh.

TB

Idlemaster - sorry, for some reason I can't quote your post, but there's quite a few separate swinging parties on a fortnightly or monthly basis in Dubai.  Probably the easiest way to get an invite is to put your profile on Adult Friend Finder: you'll probably need to pony up a month's subscription (it's a buyer's market...) but if you make a bit of effort with your profile and put a pic or two up, I'm sure at least one of the organisers will contact you.  Failing that, you should still be able to find another couple or individual to try the whole threesome thing with.

One of the things that has struck me, though, from my experience in the swinging/3some scene, is how many couples say that they are totally into it - but when you actually meet or get talking, it becomes very clear that one side is only doing it because their OH wants to.  The OH, of course, chooses to ignore that - but it can be quite sad to see.   It's not enough for your partner to agree to do it - it needs to blow both of your minds, otherwise you really could be putting your relationship at risk, not in a sexual way, necessarily, but if any sort of jealousy and paranoia creeps in.  You need to be very secure in yourself and your relationship.  I'm not trying to put anyone off - it works fabulously for me and the OH, but we do seem to be hard-wired a bit strangely, and it probably helps that we had both had several open relationships previously - but it's not necessarily for everyone, and sometimes a fantasy should remain a fantasy.  Be careful out there, y'all...

I think 3somes is the one aspect of sexuality that is truely homosexualy friendly. The easiest way to get all parties involved interested and to enjoy it, is to ensure that theyre all going to like the 3rd member.

With my partner and I, we have a couple of rules when thinking about it.

First and most important rule is, to draw a line between it just being sex and it actually meaning something. When having sex with my partner its all about the love and enjoying things because theyre being done with him. When we invite another guy into the bedroom, its all about the sex. This prevents the jealousy side of things from festering after the event.

Second rule: Pick someone you both find attractive and would genuinely want to take home with you had you met them as a single person in the pub. After a few years of experimenting with 3somes, we've found it helps to meet them first in a neutral location to ensure that you find them both physically and personally attractive. Sex for us helps if you can have a good conversation first then take them home and bind them to the bed...

Third rule: make sure you're sharing the attention, it can be all too easy to spend more time with the new guy than with your life partner. Theres always the temptation to explore things (and indeed I believe 3somes can be a welcome release to a long term relationship - allowing you to experiment with other things in order to learn new things that can be put to practice with your partner)

Fourth Rule: Never do it with someone that only finds one of you attractive or obviously fancies one of you more than the other, ignoring this rule quickly leads to jealousy.

Fifth Rule: Never do it if your relationship is already on rocky ground. You need to be secure in yourself, how you feel about your partner and how they feel about you. It is all too common in the gay community for a 3some to end up with a broken relationship and the other 2 getting together instead. This obviously not being the aim of 3some.

now this is a fascinating subject for me. i had invited my then boyfriend and his cousin and their mate who was on navy leave to see my new flat (was just 18-oh the novelty!) we drank loads of beer. i had just had a tattoo done and i was bending over showing it my bf and was suddenly aware of more than 2 hands on my lower back. to say i was pissed i remember it quite well. was a bit cocks galore though would have been nice to even out the ratio. cocks everywhere lol

it must have been weird having sex with your cousin and his girlfriend and his mate though! ha ha

theres more to this but youll have to wait to know the rest!

x

And you look so demure Princess, behind those shades obviously lurks a smouldering sexpot eh !!

TB

You know what they say about the quiet ones TB....

Having been one myself Naughty indeed l do, luckily those days are long gone for me !!!

TB

Whereas me....Im still the quiet one...

Time yet aplenty Naughty, what time 1,000m ???

TB

tallboy247 wrote:

And you look so demure Princess, behind those shades obviously lurks a smouldering sexpot eh !!

TB

i look demure? thats a compliment ill happily accept!

x

Yes appearances can be deceptive though can they not Princess!!!

TB

Weve thought about it even had a bit of fun with a friend but that was purely the whiskey doing the work. But like you never really known how to go about it. Perhaps in the future we might think about it again.

Roxy1990 wrote:

Weve thought about it even had a bit of fun with a friend but that was purely the whiskey doing the work. But like you never really known how to go about it. Perhaps in the future we might think about it again.

I'm sure you will think of it again Roxy, and maybe before even the week is out !!!

TB