Having a Threesome

me and my boyfriend have recently been interested by the thought of a threesome either with a girl or a guy (we'd proberly try both) but we're not sure how to go about it as we think we'd prefer it with someone we know but its not something you can just mention to friends. Has anyone ever had a threesome and how did you get to do it?

It might be a plan to post an ad on Gumtree.com and see what response you get. There are lots of people looking for similar things and I'm trying to get some girl on girl action myself at the moment :-) Obviously it wouldn't be someone that you know, but of course you could meet up first and get to know them, and it would be good to know that they have the same thing on their mind as you do.

I've had lusty thoughts about some of my friends before and I have no idea how to approach them. I also think it would probably be the end of your friendship sooner or later.

Good luck - let me know how it works out!

you could also just go into your gay village..me and my ex gf did that to try and find someone for a threesome and it worked out quite well.

I love the idea of a threesome but talking about it with my partner we don't know how much it messes with your head etc. What if he treats the other girl differently will that freak me out? Etc so I think it is important to discuss these things first before you jump in although we will definitely give it a try soon and I think it's best if it's with someone you don't know etc.

I had a 3-some but to be honest it wasn't very good. It just felt 'odd' and so I booted the extra guy out of bed and went back to my fella at the time (the other guy was a friend of his who fancied me). I had been offered another later with another guy but although I did like the guy on offer I didn't want to ask him or do anything because he was a virgin and a good friend. It leaves... tension or awkwardness... after.

Another partner suggested getting a girl in with us but he was a cheating pig it turn out and just wanted to sleep around so I've not thought or done anything about it since - it does mess your head up a bit and the jealousy issue can be a problem. The other people I talked to both male and female thought 3 somes they had were over-rated.

If there is any doubt don't bother, if there is no doubt then go for it and good luck!

I think it is always best if the couple of the 3sum don't know the 3rd party. This way no feelings can be hurt. When I worked as an Escort I saw a few married couples. I always had a talk with the wife 1st to make sure she was happy with everything. Had some great fun. I also completed other 3sum's with other Escort ladies and had a great time. Good clean fun as long as everythng is ironed out before hand otherwise it could bite ya on the bum ;-) x

i would love 2 have a 3sum! just the thought of it turns me on!!!

Well hello honey !!!!

I've had a threesome before with two men. One was my boyfriend, and the other was his friend - it wasn't planned though, it just kind of happened one night. It was GREAT, but I don't think I would ever approach someone (being a friend) to join you. You have to be careful that it doesn't make your friendship strange or uncomfortable. I would suggest that you try finding someone on the internet - no strings attached.

i love the thought of a threesome with another girl but i'd never do it unless i was single. I think it would mess things up too much. Unless you specifically enjoy seeing your boyfriend/girlfriend having sex with other people i think too much could go wrong. I agree with others though that a friend could be too much hassle, i think sex kittens gumtree idea was the best one or other similar sites. Goofd luck, keep us updated :D

if i was single then i would have a threesome without a doubt, as i,ve got a good relationship and a healthy sex life thier is no way i would want to mess things up,as pleasure seeker said it just happened one night and these thing,s do happen ,like flirtybabe said sex kittens gumtree idea and other sites ,good luck.

Just do what we did to fulfill our fantasies - go to a swinging club! You'll probably feel a bit embarrassed on your first visit, but the atmosphere of the clubs we've been to is so relaxed and friendly that you'll soon lose your inhibitions. Make sure you go to a couples night though, you'll be able to make up a 3some (or a 4some) quite easily. And, it DOESN'T hurt your relationship, in fact we are closer since we started swinging; there's no temptation for either to have an affair. We love swinging!

but you cant say that it doesnt hurt your relationship cuz your relationship isnt the same as everyone elses! your personalities arent the same as everyone elses! everyone is different arent they? i know for a fact it would do irreperable damage to my relationship, not because im overly jealous or that we have a weak relationship cuz we dont at all but if i saw my man sticking his cock in someone else i wouldnt be able to look at him the same way again. I love him being all mine and i know he feels the same about me. I'm glad its worked for you but im sure theres plenty of people out there (and even on here) that could say the exact opposite of what youve just said, people have had their previously strong relationship ruined by this type of thing so you cant go around guaranteeing that its not going to harm someones relationship and that their partner definately wont cheat.

Agree flirty, everyone is different, but most of the swingers we know find they are closer because they can share in having pure sexual pleasure with others without the emotional baggage that usually goes with sex. We both actually get turned on by watching the other one with another person, usually close enough to touch, which is why we are "open" swingers, rather than "closed" ones who go off with their lover to a private playroom as a pair.
We are still very much in love after several years, and don't see swinging as a threat to that. We've both been married before and had several affairs during our marriages (as did both our exes too) which led to all sorts of trouble and unhappiness. Now we can have sex with others without guilt. We don't think it's natural to expect someone just to have sex with one person for ever, but if it work for you both then that's great.

I am really keen on a 3 some - and my OH is getting around to the idea...the thought (for a guy naturally) is a huge huge erotic and horny thought - but not sure how to set it up at all - especially living in Dubai. Sigh... so I would love for it to be with one of OH girlfriends who pops in for dinner and then this leads to a 3 some - but i understand the dangers of the friendship breaking up and emotions getting in the way - but in a perfect world - to be able to occasionally have a totally no strings, no jealousy 3 some relationship with a friend - wow...awesome - know what i mean - you dont do it every time you see her - you do it on occasion - asay 3 times a year or when the situation demands - that would be my ultimate...

idlemaster, i here you brother

but i think you would have a better chance of it happening in dubai than anywhere else, most people are there for a period of 2/4 years, so what better chance of not seeing them again

Masoncal - true....so Im on the lookout....

Ahem....been there and done that, but not in the swinging sense.  The fella knows all about it and it was in my past so no reason why i cant tell.

First time was with a married couple and i was a little bit tipsy and suggested it. Well, i had suggested it a few time and the female (my mate) wasnt into it.  Then one night she said yes!  WOW.  I know both of them so it wasnt a problem to get to know them.  It was more of a girl thing than the hubby asking.  Worked out fine in the end, but only happened once.  She realised that it wasnt for her...me....well onto my next one.

This time with 2 guys.  I knew them both and they knew each other and it started out as a joke first.  Then got a bit serious.  We used to go out drinking and the jokes between them went along the lines of "wouldnt it be great if?"  So one nightI said yeah go on then.....they both didnt know what to do or say!!  So it pretty much took control....oh yeah baby!!

I still talk and see each and everyone involved and there has never been any animosity between us. 

Now the thought of swinging...........................

JJxx

I'd never have a threesome when in a relationship involving a third party addition, it always ends in crap, puts alot of strain on the relaitonship about 90 odd % of the time.

Although, if i was a single gal, and if i had more confidence within myself, then i'd say hell yeah ^_^

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i really like to try a 3 (or more!) some.....i get really turned on by thinking about my OH pleasuring other people in front on me and him seeing me in action on other guys/gals.

just been sat here thinking about it, and i think its something to do with me wanting to show him that i can be attractive and sexually sucessful with other people.....

maybe thats a strange reason?!?!

i think he'd be up for it, but i'm not sure how you'd go about finding a decent swinging club? a friend said that you mainly get older people at them, but OH loves older women so shouldnt be an issue!

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