A good plug for couple playtime?

Hello.

I am quite new on the area of playing around with anal toys. The other day I got a new lovely shipping from LH, and among the toys was the Tracey Cox beginner's kit. Tried it a couple of times now, and have to say that the quality and feel is great. But I have noticed that it do have a big tendency to slide out, especially during some anal and vaginal action teamed. Could you guys give me some tips on a good plug to use, if you'd like to be able to use it together with vaginal penetration, and do not wish the plug to slide out or for the base to "be in the way" (which might just be a fear of mine, I have actually not tried it with a partner). Not too big either, as I am a beginner.

 The problem with anal toys is that the sphincters have a tendency to push things out if they aren't shaped right.  In order for an anal toy to stay in, it needs to have

• some kind of wide flange at the base to prevent it from going all the way in,
• a narrow neck for the sphincter to close around, and
• an abruptly widening part at the end so that it's too wide to just slide out the sphincter.

Here is an example, I haven't tried it yet but it's on its way in the post to me.  :)

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=12125

 Or you might like this one if you can get it before they run out:

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13310

is it common now for a man to want anal pleasure? i want my wife to pleasure me with a strap on but dont no wether we should do it or not once i suggest it theres no goin back!

I think it has probably always been common! There's absolutely nothing wrong with men enjoying anal play and it's probably been going on throughout history. :) Have you done anal play before? If you have, is your wife aware that you enjoy it?

Are you worried about how your wife might react to the idea of strap-on play?

It's very common,. Bikerboi22, you have the p-spot (prostate stimulation) and the area in general is littered with nerve endings, so anal pleasure can feel fantastic. You could always look into exploring some anal play solo, either alone or with a plug, then when you feel more confident, approach your wife about the idea. Go in gentle though, and ask if it's something she's ever fancied doing, as it might be a bit of a surprise to her if this is the first time you've articulated such desires. That said though, try to remember that like I said, it's totally normal and completely understandable as to why there'd be an appeal.

As for plugs, i have a few... tried the Liquorice Dip ones and like them but find they come out easily. (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=3539). my personal favourite, that sees a LOT of action between the mr and I is the "Pure Medium Vibrating Butt Plug" (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14675)

it does vibrate but if you dont want to you dont have to use that setting - though personally i get a lot out of it as it seems to relax my anus to allow for easier, deeper, more comfortable penetration by my partner subsequently. I dont find it too big, fingers are enough to warm me up for it, but if you want, there is a 'small' size equivalent available too.

Dont forget to use the lube though! ;)

Mm, good advice. Yes, lube all the way - I really like this one http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373

Lubyanka wrote:

 The problem with anal toys is that the sphincters have a tendency to push things out if they aren't shaped right.  In order for an anal toy to stay in, it needs to have

• some kind of wide flange at the base to prevent it from going all the way in,
• a narrow neck for the sphincter to close around, and
• an abruptly widening part at the end so that it's too wide to just slide out the sphincter.

Here is an example, I haven't tried it yet but it's on its way in the post to me.  :)

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=12125

And  a sufficiently long neck to allow yer bum muscles to let it all in and yet still close around the end of the neck before the flange!!!

TB

As depicted on the above hyperlink !!!

TB

I really enjoy the LELO Bob, wrote a review of it here: http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com/2009/07/lelo-bob-toy-review-gentlemans-buttplug.html :)

Would love to have the chance to use it with a partner!

evey wrote:

Mm, good advice. Yes, lube all the way - I really like this one http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11373

That's also my lube of choice! However I am assuming tiara_0319 will already have some bum-friendly lube as the Tracey Cox beginner's kit contains some. Tiara, when you do run out, I'd certainly recommend Sassy as a good anal lube :)

I wish I had a bum friendly partner!

Ah, I was more answering Bikerboi22's post. But still, I'd recommend Sassy to anyone.