aaarrrrgggghhh so angry and upset :(

i posted back at the start of may about my man and our long distance relationship, and how hard it was, we split up, was trying to sort it out, then he slept with his next door neighbour in the middle of us trying to sort it out between us.

it was awful not being with him, i missed him so much, so 4 weeks ago we decided to get back together, i trusted that his neighbour had got the hint he was with me, and it was all going great. saw him for 2 weekends in a row, which is good, cos normally we dont get a lot of time together, he was making a big effort.

he left saturday to go home, didnt get my good morning text monday morning like he always does when hes getting ready for work, i just knew something was up straight away.

i left it, didnt want to seem like a nutty woman, just text him that evening saying hope your day at work has been ok etc, he said yeah just got a lot on at the minute.

i knew something was wrong, cos normally as we are long distance we spend a lot of time texting, usually over 100 times a day, so i just knew something was up.

on tuesday i get the phone call :(

sorry but i think we want different things, i dont think i want to be in a relationship, i just want casual with people and no commitment :((((((

just gutted

have text a bit over the last couple of days, he says its what he wants and thinks we should cut contact cos im only going to get hurt

then today my friend said to me do you think theres someone else? and i thought no, not already, she said have you checked POF? thats where we originally met.

so i did. online today. im so upset with him, why did he get back with me and give me that hope?? and hes already looking for someone else just want to cry

*hugs*

He isnt worth the effort hun, you deserve someone a million times better than this asshole. xxxxxxxxx

I don't really know what to say - anything I say may sound inappropriate.. 

But if you need to cry - just do it. Then get up, do something you really like and imagine your soul mate is still waiting for you and they may even be closer this time... 

I know the feeling, Ive had 2 gf's and they've bothed cheated on me </3 its the worst feeling in the world. Cause you blame yourself more than them :(

Honestly the only way ive manage to deal with it is to turn that sadness into anger, I hate those girls, i really despise them!

Talking to people always helps x

 do not even given him the satisfaction of being bothered/upset. its making me angry thinking about what he's done. just pretend to him youre not arsed at all, get out and have loads of fun

hmph!! men!!!!!!

 Huge hugs to you, I have been in a situtiaon very simmilar guy's like that don't deserve a relationship! From experience I can say thing's get easier and as much as it hurts now there is always a bright side to look forward to.

fistinglover69 wrote:

hmph!! men!!!!!!

  I assure you that we are not all as bad people as this guy... assuming you wish to even call him a man.

Ork wrote:

fistinglover69 wrote:

hmph!! men!!!!!!

 

  I assure you that we are not all as bad people as this guy... assuming you wish to even call him a man.

 not ALL, but still...

Hug from me dear. Shout and cry in private and then put on your very best face and dress to show the world that you are strong and that you will be fine

 *hugs* he obviously wasnt worth it, i have had a lot of these and I am so happy that I now have someone that treats me right and loves me as much as I love him! Chin up! xx

 What a bloody knob for giving you false hope!!!!! 

Massive cuddles to you babe! 

I will say that 80% of the men on POF only want sex and 80% of the woman want relationships(i know this from guy friends and gfs who tell me their intentions and experiences) So i think the fact him being on POF is for the reasons of sex and not actually a relationship you however got strung along and hurt in the process of this guy being indecisive and thats truly crap for you!

I would say delete him- you will only drive yourself nuts thinking about him and that will lead to a txt or a call to him which will give him the idea that he can just pick you up and put u down when he decides! 

Be strong babe, this guy is not your time, effort or tears xxxx

thanks, i know ive only been with him since last october, but we fell for each other straight away, just clicked, love being in each others company, and it was great up until 2 months ago, and then has all just gone wrong from there :(((

:(, need to get him off your mind hun xx stick around on the forums and get involved with chat , from being cheated on in the past i know that it sucks, but having people to talk to really pulled me out of the depression, focusing on other stuff, like what they were doing at work, and how their life was, it lets you forget about the crap situation your in and helps you move on xx

I have to agree with Wee Steve. I had a close friend whos wife cheated and did the same to him, Unfortunately it hit him so hard and it took him ages to realise that he had to get on with his life. When he finally got his head together and got himself living a normal life he met a lovely lady who would move heaven and earth for him and they are until this day, still so happy together. (Ironic thing is that as soon as it appeared he was getting on with life his ex very quickly got gealous and wanted to get back together!)

Be strong lovely lady. You deserve and will undoubtedly find better xxxx

ToyingAround wrote:

 I'm so sorry for what has happened hun. I know exactly how you feel. 

I'm going to try and not repeat everything what has already been said, but keep your chin up and remember it's his loss not yours!

I think what hurts the most is that (some) guys cannot be upfront and decent, they have to jerk you around. Like breaking the truth alone isn't going to hurt enough, they have to give you a few kicks on the way down. I know exactly how you feel. 

I've just broke up with someone who is clearly a self centred, selfish pig, who had no consideration for me and my needs, it was all about him. Thankfully I summed up the courage to delete his number and everything, and this morning summed up even more courage to change my number, so he can't get back in touch because its now a dead number and although his texts will still be sent to that number, he won't know that I won't get them as it's a dead number. I have some great friends who are supporting me and making me (slowly) realise I am 10x the person he will ever be and he didn't deserve me or appreciate me.

I some what laugh now because I know I am a good person, too caring probably. It wasn't my fault, it's his and if he continues to act like he is now, he will never keep anyone. Same goes to your ex, if he has treated you like this, it isn't you personally as to why he has done this to you, he will do it to anyone regardless and he will do it to the next person and the next.

Keep smiling!! xxxx

Oh toying around was this the guy you asked about on a previous thread 'Help fix us?' x x x

WeeSteve wrote:

Honestly the only way ive manage to deal with it is to turn that sadness into anger, I hate those girls, i really despise them!

Everyone's different, but I don't see how turning sadness into anger can help? Dispising someone is never a good thing, especailly those who don't deserve to be though about. The way I see it, "Living well is the best revenge".

MissBBW, I appreciate it's obviously upsetting, but at least now you have some closure. He's showed his true colours, and so there is no more wondering, and you can make the most of moving on.

ShaftMaster wrote:

WeeSteve wrote:

Honestly the only way ive manage to deal with it is to turn that sadness into anger, I hate those girls, i really despise them!

Everyone's different, but I don't see how turning sadness into anger can help? Dispising someone is never a good thing, especailly those who don't deserve to be though about. The way I see it, "Living well is the best revenge".

Im not saying its the most healthy thing to do, but im a kind person by nature, so a few weeks after my first gf cheated on me, she phoned me up cose she was upset about somthing and didnt know who to talk to... I cant just sit there and do nothing, i have to help ppl if they ask me. So despite being complete heart broken i sat there and listen to her problems... Every mintue i spent talking to her i felt worse. So the only way i can stop myself from being nice to people is to hate them, to be angry at them.

I tend to avoid men from POF, 90% of them are only after an easy lay.  There are a few men out there who like to play games, avoid them like the plague.

I wouldn't even bother staying in touch with him, he obv has no care for you otherwise he wouldn't have texted.  Texting is a cowards way out

He is right, staying in contact will only hurt you, cut ties.  Maybe one day when you are over all this, you could be friends but until now, you want him, he wants easy sex..................it will never work out

On a (possible) side note, what is POF???

 I was wondering that too!