Tattoo ideas to symbolize never forgetting a loss.

For those of you that have already read my previous threads, me and my oh found out early last week that we were blessed to be expecting our first baby, but no sooner were we blessed, our angel was cruely taken away from us, with me at just 5 weeks pregnant, and I miscarried on 01/02/12.

I already have tattoos, all of which have meanings and are symbolic to me- either of my personality or events in the journey of my life so far. I would like to get another done, perhaps on my shoulder as it is one of the only few places I have left. Nothing too big, but tasteful to commemorate this significant time in my life and to never forget- not to mourn but to be remembered of such a miracle. (I already have a tattoo on each ankle, one on my lower back, one small one on my left hip, and a small one on my right wrist.)

 I have done a bit of research but all that pops up is stars- of which I have already that were done as a cover up on my ankle so these in particular don't any longer have a meaning and are quite big. I have read also suggestions about angels or wings. Footprints too, which I have considered, but my baby was never born nor developed enough for feet to symbolize them, so I find this somewhat irrelevant. I have even looked at different flowers and thier meanings, but still raw at what has happened, I am swaying towards the magnolia which symbolizes cruelty, greif and jealousy as right now this is all I am feeling, as it was such a cruel act, no matter how inevietable it was, I'm stricken with grief and now I envy anyone whom I see pregnant or with young babies. A natural feeling so soon after I know, but I want something to symbolize never forgetting them, that I can tell my hopefully further children about, that I can look back with happiness that we were lucky enough to be blessed with such a miracle in the first instance.

rb

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Any ideas would be greatly appreciated and considered.

A friend of mine miscarried quite late in her pregnancy and had a tiny footprint tattooed on her foot to symbolise her son was with her every step of her journey through life. Simple but poignant.

So sorry to hear of your loss xx

Really sorry to hear about your loss RB.

I miscarried some years ago, i know how emotional it can be. I would say give it a few days, weeks before you decide what to have done, as your feelings may change and i hope in a way they do, so you are able to move on without such sad /jealous thoughts. I think its a wonderful idea to have a tattoo. Maybe in a few weeks time you will be able to choose a tattoo that represents the wonderful little life that was growing inside you and remember that in a nice way. I wish you all the best hunni xx

I quite like the snowdrop flowers, they look nice and they symbolize consolation, new beginnings and hope and can also represent death.

Hi Ronnie, I had a tattoo done last year to symbolize our family and of course that includes the baby we lost back in 2003. We chose a design of butterflies and originally I was going to have a star added to represent little one but I was lucky to find a tattoo artist who redesigned it for us and included a smaller butterfly with it's wings closed instead. She said she thought it was fitting that that baby had never had the chance to 'open it's wings' and although we would never have thought of it ourselves it instantly seemed perfect to us too. I have requested you on chat if you would like to talk.

Take care xx

yes I have accepted you on chat blue sapphire. thank u.

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So sorry to hear about your loss RB.

The only flower i can think of is the Cherry Blossom. In China it means love and the feminine principle, and in Japan is said to show the transcience of life, in that it blooms only for a short time!

Hope this helps a little. XxX

that sounds lovely catnip. i have looked at cherry blossom tattos and although lovely, they all seem very big. i only want a small one though, not a full on tattoo. alot of the cherry blossom ones ive seen, go right across or around the body. they do look lovely though.

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Just go for a small one hun! You can have as many or as few as you like.

What ever you choose you will love! Take care Blossom! XxX

 Hi Ronnie-baby. I am so sorry for your loss. I think the tattoo is a wonderful idea. I would just suggest giving yourself a little time before you decide on the design. It will be easier to choose the  design that is the most meaningful to you after a little time to develop the raw emotions that you are going through now. My tattoo has personal meaning for me and part of it's meaning is from a celtic rune of protection. I love the design but the meaning and reasons behind it are so much more important to me. Every time I catch sight of it, it makes me stop and celebrate its meaning to me.

thank you honeytongue.

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 Really sorry to hear about your loss :( a friend of mine recently went through this and she now wears the pregnancy and infant loss ribbon where-ever she goes. 

http://winecountrymom.blogs.santarosamom.com/files/2010/10/pregnancy-loss-ribbon.jpg

Something like this might be a good design, it raises awareness too.

Love and hugs,

ClareB xx

 Ronnie, I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss.

The tattoo sounds like a gorgeous idea, but I would definitely echo what others have said and say wait a little while. If you're leaning towards the magnolia, when the pain fades the tattoo will just serve as a reminder of how cruel the loss was, rather than reminding you of the miracle, as you so rightly put it, that preceded it. 

If you like the idea of the cherry blossom, what about getting a small blossom just behind your ear or something? I've seen tattoos before placed there and they look really pretty. 

Or maybe get a design incorporating snowdrops that follows the curve of your collarbone, over your heart?

Take care of yourself, sweetie. We'll all be here for you whenever you need us.

I am so sorry for your loss x

big hugs hun...

a friend has 2 tiny angel wings in memory of her little angel x

I'm sorry to hear about your loss xx

But tbh I wouldn't think about gaining a tattoo in memory just yet.  Let yourself morn and move on, once you are in a clearer space, then gain one. 

My bessie mate MC'd, 5 months later she fell preg again and carried through.  Once her baby was born, she had a tattoo done with her baby's name, wrapped around a dove.  The dove representing the loss of her baby from the miscarriage.

I think that is a much nicer idea for a tattoo IMO

Sorry to hear about your loss, it's a very sad thing to lose a baby no matter how far along you were in your pregnancy.

However, it happened so recently and everything is still going to be raw for a while. Consider letting yourself heal before you decide to get a tattoo.

I work as a midwife and have lots of contact with women who have sadly lost their babies and I read a book about pregnancy loss which had a lovely quote in it about a rainbow.

A rainbow symbolises love and hope, it does not mean that the storm hasn't happened and that you aren't still grieving, but that something beautiful can occur even after this sadness.

Keep strong and take care xx

I'm sorry for your loss. *Hugs*

I like the idea of a snow drop flower, or parhaps a single tear drop, or small rainbow (a section rather that the full arch) or a heart

http://www.tattmight.com/albums/userpics/1/25/butterfly_tattoo_rainbow_butterfly.jpg

I'm so sorry for your loss ronnie

A  little blue forget-me-not flower symbolises true love, hope, remembrance, and memories.

Take care xx

 Hiya, i lost my little boy when i was almost 4 months pregnant. My other children didn't want him to have a proper name so they made one up, i now have it tatooed on my finger, i also got a blue star on my wrist for him x 

aww how lovely, I had one done this afternoon, I tried to get one with an open mind and not one full of the hurt and anger I feel, so I got a japanese cherry blossom flower inside a teardrop, with some petals falling off- 5 to be exact to symbolise my 5 weeks pregnancy, falling outside the teardrop along my spine.

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