RANT ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I understand how peeved you must be Kev, but I agree with A_A, you have to be the bigger man. By all means vent your anger here, we're sympathetic and we care. Your daughter however shouldn't be faced by the dilemma of her parents feuding in front of her. 

He shouldn't have been disrespectful to you & if it was within earshot of your daughter he was out of line on many levels but you will gain more respect from your daughter by being assertive but polite as A_A suggests.

As for him marrying your ex - he'll find out in his own time, if she's evil & he's an arsehole they're probably well matched.

In the meantime you've got to be the best dad you can be for your little girl. Maybe you could arrange to pick her up rather than have her dropped off so you get your full time with her?

Good luck with it x

KinkyKev wrote:

Is bloody annoyed.  My ex wife's partner should have dropped my little girl off to me at 11am and it's now 1140 and there is still no sign.  Not a happy bunny and getting more and more frustrated.  After the last time he told me to "F*** OFF" I am getting to the point where I am going to explode when he gets here and tell him:

a) exactly what he is letting himself in for marrying her - evil woman

b) that I can't stand being anywhere near him as he's an arsehole

c) if he EVER tells me to "F*** OFF" again when I am calling regarding MY little girl I will personally make his life a living hell.

I am NOT in a good mood.

Too go tottally against what others will reccomend here's what people would do where I come from "kick his ******* ***" or maybe just have a polite word with a lawyer you probably wont get anything oout of it but if you have a right too see her for so many hours or whatever you may be able too kick up a crap storm in court about the fact the guys taking the piss and delivering her so many hours late 5 minutes ok but 40 is taking the piss.

Kev agree with the others you need to keep your cool.

She might be evil and he is an arsehole so you are better than them. Dont interfer in their relationship, sounds like they deserve each other, and it could make things worse for your daughter. She is the important one in this and you need to be there for her as a constant and reliable parent. As she gets older she will be able to judge for herself which of her parents did what was best for her.

xGGx

Thanks for the advice everyone, very much appreciated, and thanks for letting me rant about it here.  It just really worries me that she is spending time with him and I'm not there.  I don't want him getting close to her.  I know she is bound to be as she is living with him and her now but she is MY little girl and I have brought her up with very little support from his stupid bloody wife to be.  Not long until my divorce through, so party at mine in the near future!!!!

Thanks Divine. I am doing my best to sort out my life, but at this point it is rather not as easy and this will just comlicate things for me.

KinkyKev I agree you have to keep it decent for the sake of your daughter. I would speak to them in polite words what I think about it and how they dont keep it as planned, but I would not go into any harsh words in front of your daughter. I hope you had at least good time with her!

 I guess a number of people have already addressed KK's concerns but as someone who spent a year and a half fighting in court for joint custody of a young daughter I think the important thing to remember is who you care about - the child.

Ignore the aggro and remember all that matters is the child is happy, to me that is what being a parent is all about.

Now we are finally divorced my daughter loves having two houses and I make sure all my anger over some of the things her mother continues to do does not involve her, turn the other cheek (IMO).

Thank you everyone for your very kind words today, it has really helped a lot.  My daughter and i had an amazing time today, we spent majority of day with her cousins and grandfather and we all had a lovely time.

I just wish at times I could get rid of the hatred I have towards her mother for all of the hurt that she caused me.  Not going into details as far too personal a trauma however she wasn't even there for me when I confided in her what happened to me.  It was and is still so hard.  I am not normally an aggressive person, but I do at times wish she was dead and then I would have my little girl all to myself.  I know that probably makes me sound like an evil bastard but she has ruined things for me and wasn't there for me at the hardest part of my like, like I was for her.  She has never had an interest in her child also, which means I am closer to my little one which I wouldn't change for the whole world.

Plus she's a cheating bitch and made me out to be the one who was shagging behind her back when all I had was a revenge shag, if that makes sense.  God I'm off on one again.  Take care peeps.  And again, thanks very much for the kind words.

Life sucks... I frankly just found out next 3 years I will not be able to take holiday as the type of agreement does not entitle me to any, so I will have to work every single week for next 3 years part time.

And my parcel from LH is missing. I just want to cry and hug my knees and fall asleep and not wake up for another day or 2 so I get some rest.

No holiday entitlement for three years??? Firstly, are you sure that's legal?? and secondly, just because a contract states that you're not entitled to any, doesn't mean you can't get any. Plus there's always unpaid leave etc.

As for your parcel, surely when it does arrive, it'll be even more worth it??

SM: I may have to wait another 2 months for it to arrive, as I cannot tell LH its missing until then, considering in my experience sometimes things do turn up after a month or 2... which just sucks.

And frankly, its legal. The type of contract for part time job means I am not entitled to any holiday leave, no unpaid days either. If I want to leave for a week or 2 I have to ensure I get on average 20 hours per week on average or I break the contract. Means working double shifts in the remaining 2 weeks. Which is almost impossible for me as I am student and have to be at university sometimes.  So no real holiday for me, as I cannot afford to miss a single week

Laveila: Bummer!

I'm at uni too, and have been looking for part time work, but if I even get a 'thank you for applying', then I'm happy. Despite the fact I only have to be in uni one day a week, so many employers just see I'm a student (or am over 21) and don't even bother to respond. I've even filled out online forms and questionaires, but despite eight years experience in retail, they still say I'm not what they're looking for.

I've been a supervisor in WHSmith, but can't even get a job in zoo gift shop!!!

I know. For some you are underqualified, for others over... I got this one just by pure luck and frankly lot of people have to take jobs which are on agreements which dont give them sick leave, holiday and they have to pay health insurance themselves in this country. Which is pretty sad, but it is as it is. And considering our stupid goverment decided it will get more taxes no matter what they are raising taxes on food again this year and if they dont get the money they thing they wil get they will raise it again next year. Which just heavily sucks for full time student who only has as much money as she earns. Bleh.

What are you studying? lucky you you only have a day. I have also to work for uni and if i miss one week I have to take another persons shift, so... Bit stuck when it comes to holiday.

I'm studying film, but part time. The idea was that I'd study part time, and then get a part time job to help pay for tuition, rent etc. Just something simple like working in a shop or bar, but even that is too much to ask for.

Because I am a part time student and unemployed I can apply for certain benefits, which obviously helps (not completely), but I'd rather get out and work to earn my money, rather than have to resort to hand outs. Especially with prices going up here too. Bleh indeed.

I cannot apply to any benefits at all, not even students one, as my parents are earning too much and my permanent address is still with them, as I dont have another one and frankly cannot get one, as I would have to change my ID often I think in coming years.

What is annoying is that I needed only about 20-25 pounds a week, something you can earn in about 4-5 hours at minimal wage. With my current salary it takes me almost a whole day (10 hours work) to earn for a week worth of food here. And thats with just me cooking it all at home. Erhm.

I know. I hope you get something soon. It is hard to get a part time job, as employers are not willing to fit it round your university schedule, but you may get lucky. I would try even outside retail. My friend even went to call centre to get some sort of job

Thanks. Although I'm not still living with my parents, and as much as I'd rather not have to rely on them at 26, it's good to know they're there and won't let me starve.

 Sits back comfotable with the scottish Educational system, have you considered coming back here tto study?

I am 25 and I dont live with my parents and I have to survive with what I earn, but my permanent address is with them, as I simply cannot get my own, I change places too much and I would have to get a new official ID card every year which is seriously annoying, not to mention considering they want to raise the fee to 6 times current one too expensive to do. And you need official ID card with permanent address every time here you go to bank, or ask for employment etc. Without valid ID card you get nothing, driving licence in this sence means absolutely nothing here. Passport can be used, but...

But as I live with them in the official record (I have permanent address there) I dont have any right to claim certain student benefits, unfortunately. As officially my parents income is simply too high for me to get any, based on the fact I have my permanent address with them, regardless I dont get any money from them, only occassional food and I only spend there a weekend per month currently when I am in the town to meet friends.

I did my BA in Wales (doing MA now), which had a lot of benefits over the English way of doing things, but still wasnt as good as if you were Welsh at a Welsh uni. I'm guessing it's the same in Scotland? You get an even  better deal only if you're Scottish?

ShaftMaster wrote:

I did my BA in Wales (doing MA now), which had a lot of benefits over the English way of doing things, but still wasnt as good as if you were Welsh at a Welsh uni. I'm guessing it's the same in Scotland? You get an even  better deal only if you're Scottish?

 What no no no you have it all wrong we only mistreat and rip off the English its actually true we are technically not a sovereign state so there for not in europe there for take one oh those ya dirty tyrants yeah but you get the point if you are european you should get off I don't know too much about these thing's only that the English got all bitchy at us and we were all like well we wont charge when we have independance or somethin (please note not an acurate acount of events)

 Rant alert!

Money! Finances! Aaargh!

That is all.