Hi ToyLover, there's no one consensus on the "best" toy, it all depends on your own tastes and preferences really! The ones CurlyCoupleWife mentioned are a good place to start though :)
I just wanted to say that it doesn't matter how big the toy, nothing compares to the feeling of your partner! I have a couple of toys that are bigger than my partner's penis, and I'd still choose him over them any day, any time. Don't worry about liking a toy "too much"!!