Only had one lover?

Lesley are you my twin hehehhe..... we have some things in comon...... @ cuckoo we would have really been different people if it had took 50 men to get to him... I think my point was.. I dont think there is anything wrong with having more than one lover if thats what it takes to find the right one :S ... or maybe I was just talking about one huge orgy in a greek bath room somewhere and just see who had the biggest COCK :O... lol sorry rambleing now!!

Laynie, sweetheart, I envy you! My current boyfrind is my soul mate and I dearly wish I'd waited (although I've not exactly had many, fewer than 4 to be exact!) - I don't think you've missed out at all, my partner and I are growing together all the time and if you're with a man you love then you just can't beat it...

:) Ty millenium... I hope you and ur partner have a long happy lfe together :D

Laynie....I wish I was as slim as you !!! But I can relate to most of what you say. I'm guessing your about 27-30 years old and believe me you are far more daring than I was then or even now! At 40 something I find I want to experiment more now than I ever did before when I was content with "normal" sex.....nothing too kinky but after a lull in the bedroom in the first few months of this year the last few months have been buzzing......started with OA after reading the article for "free sex toys" ....never recieved a thing but this forum as been brilliant and at times I feel we know each other....a bit silly but we are saying things which we could'nt say to so called close friends !!

I have to admit I am a bit surprised on the responses here. I assume that the world is a bit more permiscuous than it is. I have had a few sexual patners - north of 15, but relatively few have been one night stands. Most were of the causual sex variety. of the 15 seven of those were committed relationships, the shortest being 4 months and the longest being in excess of 2 yrs. They were, by far the most rewarding. The others were fun, and quite frankly kept me from having more partners than I did. They were friendships of sorts. as an example, If I wasn't in a relationship, I'd call someone I had been intimate with in some way in the past. Maybe we had dated for a short time, and has sex during our brief 5 or 6 dates. If they were in a relationship, it was a chance to catch up, and then go away. If not, we may start by getting together to do something like going for a drink, or seeing a movie, or watching a video at home. Sometimes these evenings ended in foreplay and sometimes we had sex. Sometimes nothing happened. Sometimes we would see each other a few more time - but both parties knew it was going nowhere. We had tried to date and it hadn't worked out. But it was a good alternative to pass the time.

I was also shocked at the response, I too asumed I was alone in my one partner buble lol... but it seem there are loads of people the same and loads who have had only few partners... the thing is when I was at school there were people I know who were telling me they had done it with this guy and that guy and I felt like I was being rushed into growing up.... Im talking this was at the age of 13 yeah I know gross huh?
I told em I wasnt going to give myself away so easy and I got the mick too out of me for it... I stuck to my guns thank god.

I say well done Laynie for not being someone for a paedo to use up so young, or for some little boy who wasn't even a man and just doing it to score points! I have known many girls lost their virginity very young or had it taken and about all of them regretted it so much or felt dirty later in life when they had a more mature mentality.

My class was shocked when I was 18 at college and still a virgin - by the end of the term I was the only one in the class but I wasn't ashamed, I was proud.

I wish my patner was my first, as I was his.
Unfortunatly he is my 11th, but he doesnt blame me for searching for the big 'O'. He sees how much I enjoy having an orgasm with him and it makes him glad that he was the first man to give me one, because he knows there is no need for me to continue my search.

Reading some of the responses to this thread has also put my mind at ease with my partner, because I now know that he may or may not want to experience sex with other woman.

P.S. My partner was 26 when he lost his virginity to me...

That fantasic... at least he was at an age where he knew what he wanted and wasnt just haveing a quick shag with owt!!
@ Miss Kitty I felt proud also being a virgin... I had self control.. because I had had a boyfriend before but gave him the boot when he wanted more :S
And Just as long as we arent like the 40 year old virgin we should all be fine hehehe.

we were both virgins aswell and we didnt have sex until about 3-4 months into the relationship, OH was saying that if we had of had sex in the begginning it would have ruined our relationship and just been about sex, which i think would be true as im kinda sex mad i have a high sex drive, so i woulda prob jumped him whenever i felt like it at that age (16) as i was naive and lairy

i guess i'm going to upset this little applecart (sorry folks) seems the majority responding to this thread have had 1 or only a few lovers? i'll admit to triple figures and 4 children by 4 different men...and i'll also admit i am envious of all the above posters, saddest thing is i am now sort of back with the guy i was with 20+ years ago (wish me luck) whilst i cannot look back or at my children with any regrets...i do sometimes wonder...

Triple figures? :O

i had a crazy time from 17-19 then met my partner of 10 years who was a virgin i felt honoured to be the first we had a child 7 years in to that relationship life was great but then he thort he had mist out on experience with othere people and left me and his daughter he thort the grass was greener on the othere side i stayed single for a while and now have a the person i cant belive i waited so long for i love him so much and we have a son we have a fantastic sex life and any topic can be approached we have life experiences that we can share and learn by

yep but not saying how many lol

I've only ever had sex with my current partner, he has slept with other women before me but only his exs, no one night stands. I would love to have been his first but as I was a late starter I never expected to end up with another virgin. I love the fact that there was nobody before him as he knows I waited for him. He has said that he feels bad about being with other women before me but if neither of us had any experience I'm sure things would have been far more awkward and he already knows how to please me and he can 'teach' me. He is a very gentle and generous lover. It took me a while to lose my insecurities and inhibitions about sex but I'm getting there. My partner doesn't push me to do anything I'm not comfortable with but is happy to let me play and build up my sexual confidence.

I certainly don't think there is anything wrong with having multiple partners, I always wished I'd had the confidence to have sex with whoever I fancied before I met my partner but now I'm glad I didn't, he was worth waiting for.

Ye i wish i had waited 4 my partner he was a virgin when we met so i'm a bit gutted that i wasn't. Thing is the guy i lost my virginity 2 is now dead we were in a proper relationship not a 1night stand or anything and my other ex i was engaged to and it just turned out bad in the end he just changed and got really aggressive so i ended it but i am now happy with my partner we are soul mates and hope it stays this way 4 a very long time.

Aww Numptynicky... your post is lovely... although I disagree about if you were both virgins it would be more awkward..because you would just learn together..I do think though that people that are in love seem to be having the best sex on here too..I would put that down to people knowing their partners needs and other such.....
@ xxhunnixx Aww hun you have had quite a time of it heh? I wish you all the happyness in the world with your new partner :)

in my experience sex is just sex i have kept very slim over the years using this activity and done lots of things some people wouldnt even dream of but all of that meens nothing and to have some one you love so much and wont to spend the rest of your life with it brings on a whole new meening to sex you can close your eyes and feel how special your closness is in stead of a quicky off mr average to be in love makes all the differance x

Hi Laynie where are you smallfry
TB

me and the missus were both very promiscuous before we met each other. now we wish wed never had done any of it with anyone else. theres nothing like experiencing a "first" with someone. be that a first for anything.