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    Beginner's Guide to Bondage

    by Lovehoney

    If you're one of the many people who looks at bondage category of Lovehoney as if it's written in an alien language, you're not alone. There are so many tools and terms to get to grips with that even understanding the purpose of some of the equipment can take considerable effort, let alone using it. Here are the definitions of our bondage categories to provide you with an insight into what the tools we sell are used for.

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    Ball Gags

    Bondage Boutique Advanced Breathable Ball GagA ball gag is designed to muffle the voice of the wearer or prevent them from speaking. They do not usually impede breathing. Usually strapped around or over the head with a rubber ball that sits inside the wearers lips and teeth, a gag is used to instill a sense of submission.

    Because the wearer can't talk, the wearer has to become more creative with communication and their partner better at understanding their lover’s requirements during play.

    Other types of gag including bits, hooks, rings and ratchets can also be found under this category.

    Start with: Bondage Boutique Xtreme Leather Basic PVC Ball Gag


    Bedroom Bondage Kits

    Bondage Boutique Tie & Tease BundleAll-in-one solutions for bondage scenarios. Often marketed for beginners, bedroom bondage kits generally include a pair of ankle cuffs, a pair of wrist cuffs, a blindfold and some form of whip, flogger or paddle.

    Some other bondage kits include ball gags, ticklers, collars and leads, ropes, bondage tape, spreader bars and more elaborate restraints.

    Kits are a wonderful way of building up your collection of bondage gear, and tend to work out cheaper than buying all items separately.

    Start with: Bondage Boutique Tie & Tease Bundle


    Blindfolds

    Lovehoney Tease Me Soft Satin Blackout BlindfoldA blindfold prevents the wearer from seeing anything. Blindfolds can be styled in a classic sleep mask style or as a scarf that requires tying.

    By restricting eyesight, the wearer's other senses are sharpened. This can increase sensitivity to touch, taste, smell and sound. The blinfolded lover is likely to feel less self conscious about experimentation.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Soft Satin Blackout Blindfold


    Bondage Candles

    Bondage Boutique Advanced Bondage Candles (3 Pack)Bondage candles are specifically designed with a lower melting point than standard household candles, allowing you to experiment with wax play or temperature play safely. Some bondage candles are even good for massages, with the hot wax turning into a moisturising oil when rubbed into the skin.

    Bondage candles are great for psychological play as your lover will be expecting a hot burn and not a soothing massage when the candle wax is about to poured onto their naked skin.

    Start with: Bondage Boutique Bondage Candles 


    Bondage Hoods

    Bondage Boutique Extreme Spandex HoodSometimes confused with blindfolds, a bondage hood covers either half of the head and face or all of it. They come in many different guises, some without mouth, nose or eye holes and some with completely open faces.

    Bondage hoods are used to change the appearance and for sensory deprivation. There are some functional hoods which incorporate gags and restraints.

    Start with: Bondage Boutique Spandex Hood


    Bondage Rope & Tape

    Bondage Boutique Cotton Shibari Rope 10 MetreBondage rope is any length of rope sold with the express intention of being used to tie up a person. Bondage tape is a form of tape designed specifically to use on a person to bind them or to create clothing. It is self adhesive, offering a skin-safe alternative to other tapes.

    Bondage rope is especially designed for tying people up and should not be substituted with ropes found in DIY stores and similar, which is often harder on the skin and too inflexible to tie intricate knots.

    Start with: Bondage Boutique Cotton Shibari Rope 10m


    Chastity Belts & Devices

    Spartacus Leather Locking Chastity CageA Chastity Device refers to anything fitted to or over the genitalia to prohibit sexual function or access.

    Some of these are worn for a visual effect (such as in a roleplaying scenario) but many found in this category will permit long term wear by the user, allowing other bodily functions but preventing sexual contact with others and themselves.

    Read our Guide to Chastity Devices for more information.

    Start with: Spartacus Leather Locking Chastity Cage


    Clit Clamps

    Spartacus Beaded Clit ClampEither a decorative charm that can be hung over the clitoris or clitoral hood or a device that clips directly onto the clitoris resulting in a mixture of pain from the clamp and pleasure from the movement of the device.

    Clit clamps applied to cause pain can cause a numbing sensation to the clitoris to accentuate sexual frustration along with a slight pain that can be arousing. Clitoral clamps also cause enlargement of the clitoris which can be beneficial for assisting in clitoral contact during sex.

    Start with: Spartacus Beaded Clit Clamp


    Cock Straps & Cages

    Leather Studded Cock & Ball StrapOften decorative, but some of these function as cock rings – offering better stimulation to partners and a longer-lasting erection for the wearer. Others are used to stretch or temporarily deform the appearance of the penis and scrotum, sometimes with discomfort or mild pain.

    Start with: Leather Studded Cock & Ball Strap


    Collars & Leads

    Bettie Page Collar Me Bondage Collar and Lead SetWhen used together, a collar and leash form a bondage device that can be used to control the wearer by moving them using the lead. The collar when worn alone is often a symbol of ownership, but can also correct posture or be worn for decorative purposes.

    Some collars feature lockable buckles which prevent removal by the wearer to accentuate the feeling of helplessness or being owned. Many collars are fitted with a frontal O-ring to allow leads, harnesses and bondage equipment to be connected to them.

    Start with: Bettie Page Collar Me Bondage Collar and Lead Set


    Electro Sex Toys

    ElectraStim EM60-E Flick Single Output Stimulator and ElectraPads SetAny form of toy that uses electricity as a stimulus for erotic sensations or pain-inflicting purposes. Electro sex toys have many attachments, with everything from dildos, butt plugs and bullet vibrators to electrified gloves, penis bands and nipple clamps.

    The sensation of electro toys is akin to vibration with a deeper-penetrating feeling. The levels are variable, so you can start off very gently and work your way up to ensure you’re always comfortable with the levels you’re working with.

    Start with: ElectraStim EM60-E Flick Set


    Feather Ticklers

    Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather TicklerA feather tickler is made either entirely or partially from feathers used to tickle and tease the skin. The feeling of a feather running over the skin excites the nerve endings and causes you to get goosebumps, making you more sensitive to touch temporarily.

    Feather ticklers are often used during foreplay to enhance erotic sensation and cause a sense of anticipation for sexual contact which heightens mental arousal.

    Start with: Fifty Shades of Grey Tease Feather Tickler


    Floggers

    Lovehoney Tease Me Satin and Leather Flogger WhipA flogger has several surfaces which all hit the skin at roughly the same time. As floggers spread the force of the hit over a larger surface area, the pain felt is often less than is caused by a whip.

    Floggers are brilliant during foreplay - just tease your lover by running the fronds up and down their skin to set their heart pumping.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Satin and Leather Flogger 


    Handcuffs

    Lovehoney Tease Me Silver HandcuffsA form of wrist restraint which connects the two hands together. A single unit composite of two wrists cuffs and a chain, they are usually made from metal in the standard police style.

    Handcuffs are traditionally used to secure the hands behind the wearer's back but can also be used to secure the wrists around an object, fixture or fitting to prevent the wearer from moving from the position they are placed in.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Silver Handcuffs


    Masks

    Vinyl Cat MaskA decorative facial accessory designed to transform the appearance or conceal the true identity of the wearer. Commonly worn at fetish and swingers parties and events to avoid being recognised in person, in photos or on film. Masks are also used in roleplay between partners to create a new image.

    Start with: Vinyl Cat Mask


    Medical Fetish

    Fetish Fantasy Stainless Steel Wartenberg PinwheelA category incorporating anything considered to be medical in nature. Including but not restricted to adult incontinence, gynaecological equipment, dental ratchets, douches, syringes (without with needles), pinwheels, piercing clamps, latex gloves, proctoscopes, forceps, urethral sounds and cupping sets.

    Start with: Stainless Steel Wartenberg Pinwheel


    Nipple Clamps & Suckers

    Lovehoney BASICS 10-Piece Nipple Pump SetAn article that either clips onto, hangs off of or sucks onto a nipple to increase sensitivity or size, cause pain to the area or provide pleasurable sensations. They are usually adjustable to allow you to control the pressure exerted on the nipple.

    Vibrating nipple clamps follow the same principal but are teamed with vibrating bullets to enhance sensations further. Once the clamps are removed nipples appear swollen and feel more sensitive.

    Start with: Lovehoney BASICS 10-Piece Nipple Pump Set


    Sex Machines

    Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot SeatA machine (usually electrical) designed to simulate thrusting movements to allow the user to have penetrative sex as they would with a partner.

    These often have faster thrusting settings that can be more physically gratifying for the user than sex with a partner, and are popular for use in fantasies of ‘forced orgasm’ (often also involving bondage).

    Start with: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot Seat


    Spanking Paddles

    Lovehoney Tease Me Satin and Leather Spanking PaddleA flat device, usually with a handle, that is used in the same way as a hand is to spank another person or oneself. They come in varied textures to cause different sensations which either amplify or absorb force to make the impact harder or softer.

    Most paddles are made from leather, which is much softer against the skin than wood and provides an audible ‘thwack’ that accentuates the experience of being paddled or spanked for both partners. Spankers are often used as part of sensory play to accentuate touch by awakening the nerve endings and inducing an adrenaline rush in the spankee.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Satin and Leather Spanking Paddle


    Whips

    Lovehoney Tease Me Satin Heart Riding Crop WhipA whip has a singular surface with which one can hit another person to inflict pain. They come in a variety of different shapes, sizes and styles.

    Similar items include riding crops and canes.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Satin Heart Riding Crop Whip


    Wrist & Ankle Restraints

    Lovehoney Tease Me Satin Restraints Position Ties (4 Pack)An article to be worn around either around the wrists or ankles which will restrict movement or can be used in combination with something else to restrict movement.

    In this category you'll find a wide range of body restraints in all sort of combinations - for example neck-to-wrist, wrist-to-thigh, ankle-to-wrist.

    Start with: Lovehoney Tease Me Satin Restraints Position Ties


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