As sex is an activity that involves many different muscle groups, getting down and dirty can be both pleasurable and practical when it comes to helping control calories. After all, who’s going to complain about a little burn when you’re in the throes of passion?

Prostate milking refers to the centuries old practice of relieving the build-up of semen by prostate massage. You can still drive your man wild today, by stimulating his P-spot, more commonly known as the prostate gland, and considered to be the male equivalent of the female G-Spot.

Massage is not only thought to be the best method of seduction, it’s a comforting and bonding experience in its own right - whether or not it leads on to more intimate activities. It’s not difficult to give a soothing and sensual massage even if you’re inexperienced. Apply a fragrant oil or lotion, warming it in your hands first, rather than dripping it straight onto the body. Be guided by your partner as to what feels good for them. And for safety, don’t work directly on the spine or dig into muscles too deeply - use a gentle or medium pressure.

The trouble with this is that the longer it goes on, the more pressure we can put on ourselves (and if we don’t, others will, as you describe!) And pressure is one thing the female body does not respond well to.

Sex might simply not be as high a priority for you as it is for your partner, but I think it’s great that you want to initiate things - it’ll be a surprise and a treat for him too.

So pillows. Yes, you heard me. If you haven’t already discovered them, pillows are your new best friend.

Yes - if they’re not properly cleaned. Non-porous toys, made from stainless steel, glass, or medical grade silicone, are the easiest to sterilize.

As yours has started fairly recently, I think it’s likely to be more psychological than physical - but please don’t worry as it’s a common problem - and it can be got over.

It’s not a good idea to use baby oil as a lubricant, as it can disturb the delicate pH balance in the vagina, leading to yeast infections like thrush.

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