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    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear McBirdie,

    A problem here. My boyfriend and I have sex once a week (rarely twice). Well, although he is very nice to me, it's just not enough. I get sexually frustrated on day 3 and cannot stop but pick little fights about things that bother me a little. Getting my frustration out this way seems to help in a sick way.

    I tried all the hot games with him. It does not work. He is just comfortable the way things are. And, yes, he is aware I want more sex. He says: "We are working on it. But my little fights kill his mood.

    The thing is if we had more sex I would not fight EVER. What should I do?

    Thank you,


    Spartacus Heavy Metal Dual Cock Rings

    Due to a bit of a postal snafu (thanks for the great service, Royal Mail!), I ended up getting two packages from Lovehoney on Thursday morning. It was nearly more decadence than one house can handle at a time. Enough time had passed from my making the orders to getting them that I had pretty much forgotten what I had chosen - enough, in fact, that I couldn't completely remember why I had chosen everything in the boxes.

    Which is why I currently have toys that I'm not completely sure what to do with.  I wanted to take a look at more advanced cock rings, like a double-ring model (I've always tended towards simple vibrating cock rings, since I haven't yet needed to use them for stamina purposes) - I'm supposing this is why I have the Spartacus Heavy Metal Dual Cock Rings hanging out by my bed. 

    After a question from a man wanting to know what he could do now that his long-term girlfriend is gone, it spurred some discussion on how singledom can actually help you make your sex life even better. Last week (and then earlier this week for a more practical take) I looked at how things were for women. But I believe in equality in pleasure, so now let's look at men.

    Ask Birdie...

    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear McBirdie,

    I have have lately been in situations where additional lubrication would have increased the enjoyment of sex. How do I introduce lubes and other sexual aids to relatively new relationships?

    Also do you have a recommendation for an all purpose lube?

    Kind regards,


    As I talked about on Friday, being alone doesn't have to mean the end of your sex life.  On the contrary, for women on their own, it can be a time when they finally nail down their elusive orgasm, learn what works for them, or increase their sexual responsiveness. 

    Whether you want to have your first orgasm, start having regular orgasms, just enjoy touching your own body, or hunt down that sneaky g-spot orgasm, there are many things that you can do alone so much better than you can with a partner...

    Here then are 5 ideas and tips for enjoying your solo flight:

    As I promised last Friday, I am going to be considering some options and benefits that are out there sexually for women on their own (and no, that does not include going to the local and picking up some random - you can do that without my say so, peeps).

    I think too often we get this idea in our heads that relationships are the goal that we are all trying to achieve. Especially as women, we are told from the time we are knee high that we need to get a husband, settle down in a cozy little house, raise some nubbins, and have a wonderful life. But for all that tradition, things are changing for us--more and more of us are waiting to get married and questioning why we want to always be in a relationship. And rightfully so - unlike men, we don't really get any health or social benefits automatically with a steady relationship.

    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear McBirdie,

    About Clone a Willy kits...

    Do you know if there are any companies who will sell just the latex for the mould? I am not your average size and the last kit i bought we only got half a willy from as there was too much mould (Which ended up all over the kitchen floor) And not enough rubber.

    Need More

    Last week, I responded to a question about what a guy could do once his relationship had ended and he wanted to still enjoy a multi-faceted sex life.

    It got me to thinking about how many people out there are just out of a relationship, or haven't been in a relationship, or are still in the process of looking for the next good one. I have tended to focus in this blog on products and ideas for people to enjoy within a coupled relationship because I think it is important to start to ease up on the perception that sex toys are only for people who "have no other option".

    I Rub My Pirate Duckie

    If you don't keep your eye on the What's New page over here, you might just miss some of the coolest products. I was just doing a quick look through to see if there was anything new that I justhadtohaveimmediatelyseriouslyrightnow - and look what I found. An absolutely adorable little vibrating duckie dressed up in pirate finery.

    I already love my I Rub My Penguin - seriously, one of the best presents I've ever gotten - and I am on very friendly terms with my I Rub My Fishie (though you'll have to just be jealous of the fact that I own the now defunct travel-size), so I know that this line is a winner. There aren't too many vibrators that I think make better gifts - especially if you're giving it as a first sex toy, or to someone you're not quite sure of the reception with - these little guys are incredibly well-made, classy, and just so cute no one could be offended.

    And he comes in his own little Treasure Chest. I can't be the only one who went "squee!" when I saw that...

    Durex Play Charm Vibrator Half Price Has the world gone mad? No! We're just feeling particularly generous! For a limited period, you can buy the Durex Play Charm Vibrator for half price, saving you a massive £25!

    Play Charm is a fab vibrator from a name that you can trust. Smartly packaged it makes a perfect present. But be quick, this low low price won't last for ever!

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