• After a question from a man wanting to know what he could do now that his long-term girlfriend is gone, it spurred some discussion on how singledom can actually help you make your sex life even better. Last week (and then earlier this week for a more practical take) I looked at how things were for women. But I believe in equality in pleasure, so now let's look at men.

    Ask Birdie...

    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear McBirdie,

    I have have lately been in situations where additional lubrication would have increased the enjoyment of sex. How do I introduce lubes and other sexual aids to relatively new relationships?

    Also do you have a recommendation for an all purpose lube?

    Kind regards,

    Confusesed
     

    As I talked about on Friday, being alone doesn't have to mean the end of your sex life.  On the contrary, for women on their own, it can be a time when they finally nail down their elusive orgasm, learn what works for them, or increase their sexual responsiveness. 

    Whether you want to have your first orgasm, start having regular orgasms, just enjoy touching your own body, or hunt down that sneaky g-spot orgasm, there are many things that you can do alone so much better than you can with a partner...


    Here then are 5 ideas and tips for enjoying your solo flight:

    As I promised last Friday, I am going to be considering some options and benefits that are out there sexually for women on their own (and no, that does not include going to the local and picking up some random - you can do that without my say so, peeps).

    I think too often we get this idea in our heads that relationships are the goal that we are all trying to achieve. Especially as women, we are told from the time we are knee high that we need to get a husband, settle down in a cozy little house, raise some nubbins, and have a wonderful life. But for all that tradition, things are changing for us--more and more of us are waiting to get married and questioning why we want to always be in a relationship. And rightfully so - unlike men, we don't really get any health or social benefits automatically with a steady relationship.

    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear McBirdie,

    About Clone a Willy kits...

    Do you know if there are any companies who will sell just the latex for the mould? I am not your average size and the last kit i bought we only got half a willy from as there was too much mould (Which ended up all over the kitchen floor) And not enough rubber.

    Need More

    Last week, I responded to a question about what a guy could do once his relationship had ended and he wanted to still enjoy a multi-faceted sex life.

    It got me to thinking about how many people out there are just out of a relationship, or haven't been in a relationship, or are still in the process of looking for the next good one. I have tended to focus in this blog on products and ideas for people to enjoy within a coupled relationship because I think it is important to start to ease up on the perception that sex toys are only for people who "have no other option".

    I Rub My Pirate Duckie

    If you don't keep your eye on the What's New page over here, you might just miss some of the coolest products. I was just doing a quick look through to see if there was anything new that I justhadtohaveimmediatelyseriouslyrightnow - and look what I found. An absolutely adorable little vibrating duckie dressed up in pirate finery.

    I already love my I Rub My Penguin - seriously, one of the best presents I've ever gotten - and I am on very friendly terms with my I Rub My Fishie (though you'll have to just be jealous of the fact that I own the now defunct travel-size), so I know that this line is a winner. There aren't too many vibrators that I think make better gifts - especially if you're giving it as a first sex toy, or to someone you're not quite sure of the reception with - these little guys are incredibly well-made, classy, and just so cute no one could be offended.

    And he comes in his own little Treasure Chest. I can't be the only one who went "squee!" when I saw that...

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    Ask Birdie...

    Now, all things considered, I don't get that excited about condoms. I mean, sure, like most girls, I do love a ribbed condom every now and again. And glow in the dark ones are fun. But if you're in a relationship where you don't need to use them, you don't tend to think about them very often. Maybe once in awhile for a change, but not too much.

    So you can imagine how interesting reviews would have to be to get me to think very hard about putting a box of condoms into my next order. But honestly, I love the confused pleasure inherent in the reviews for the Trojan Twisted Pleasures Condom:

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