I spent 10 years working as a high-class escort, and in 2009 my autobiography The Girlfriend Experience was published documenting my sexcapades. I’m currently working on a sex tips book and a book titled Why Husbands Stray.
My sex experience is literally hands on, and I learnt a lot about sex and what men want during my time as an escort, and it’s probably not what you think!
Guest post by sexpert Rebecca Dakin
I’ve written five sex education DVDs for the Lovers’ Guide, had 25 books about sex published internationally and founded the UK’s original erotica site for women, Cliterati.
As you might expect, I get asked a lot of questions about sex. A lot.
And by far the most common answer is, “communicate.” However, the word alone does not suffice.
Knowing how to communicate is far more complex than simply opening your mouth and letting words come out.
Guest post by Emily Dubberley
What did you get up to over the weekend? If you happened to be reading The People on Sunday, no doubt you will have spotted us featured in a double spread article by Tracey Cox, titled SEX TIPS: How To Keep Your Relationship Alive.
Alongside the colourful Lovehoney logo (standing out deliciously in the centre of the spread!) the piece featured a 24 top tips for keeping the spark in your love life, as well as scrummy picture of Tracey, erotic novel recommendations and how men are using Fifty Shades of Grey to get women into bed. (Hmmm... are they? Discuss.)
In keeping with Lovehoney’s mission for sexual happiness and wonderfully fulfilled sex lives, Tracey dished out 24 top tips to make sure your relationship doesn’t fall flat, including making time for a dirty weekend once every six weeks, and keeping your nether regions fit and healthy by investing in kegel balls for both pleasure and toning.
I bought a set of jiggle balls but they feel too big - are they?
The larger and lighter your jiggle balls, the easier they are to use. Not all women will need to start with the larger sized balls, and that may be the case with you.
When jiggle balls are too big, they will feel uncomfortable and you’ll feel like you want to the remove them as soon as possible. If the balls feel too big then you might be ready to move onto a smaller and heavier set for a bigger challenge (and more thrills!).
A progressive kegel ball set like the Lelo Luna Pleasure Beads (which have different weighted balls you can swap in and out) or Je Joue Ami Kegel Exercisers (which have three different sets of jiggle balls and instructions on how to use them) will provide you with balls of different sizes and weights to find the perfect match for your body without needing to buy multiple sets.
Lelo have also recently released the Lelo Luna Mini Pleasure Bead System, which is specially designed for women under 30 or those who have not yet had children.
If it’s power you’re after, it’s a Magic Wand Vibrator you need. Originally designed as back and shoulder massagers, these mains-powered sex toys can make you go from zero to orgasm in under 60 seconds.
You might have seen them on mainstream TV or films (or even in a porn film) and the Hitachi Magic Wand is a bit of a legend when it comes to sex toys. Unfortunately, you can no longer buy a Hitachi in the EU because of voltage and safety issues.
So, if you want experience the power of a wand, try one of our UK-safe magic wands. The Lovehoney Magic Wand Vibrator (£39.99) or the Lovehoney Deluxe Magic Wand Vibrator (£49.99) are both absolutely brilliant - just plug them in at the wall and you’re ready to go.
Magic wand vibes work brilliantly as sex toys, but don’t forget they’re also great for using as they were originally intended - as massagers!
Work on those aches and knots in your muscles, relax and then let the wand work its magic between your legs.
As sex is an activity that involves many different muscle groups, getting down and dirty can be both pleasurable and practical when it comes to helping control calories. After all, who’s going to complain about a little burn when you’re in the throes of passion?
I bought the silver balls after reading Fifty Shades of Grey, but I can’t feel anything.
Am I doing something wrong?
If you want the same orgasmic sensation that Ana experienced, you need to check that you’ve bought a set which contain the free-roaming weights (like the Oriental Ben Wa Balls). Some kegel exercisers are solid, meaning they don’t provide much in the way of sensation unless you’re really moving around. We always state in product descriptions if the balls are solid or weighted, so double check in our Ben Wa balls category.
You could always try a pair of vibrating ben wa balls like the Orgasm Gold Multispeed Vibrating Love Balls (£16.99, pictured left) to really kick up the stimulation a notch.
Prostate milking refers to the centuries old practice of relieving the build-up of semen by prostate massage. You can still drive your man wild today, by stimulating his P-spot, more commonly known as the prostate gland, and considered to be the male equivalent of the female G-Spot.
After weeks of typical British summer weather (*ahem*) we finally have some sunshine.
Rather than pouncing on our partners though, this humid weather leavers a lot of us feeling sticky and wanting our own space. Not so good for sexual happiness.
If you find yourself melting in the heat, here are six ways to stay cool in the bedroom while still getting hot, hot, hot.
Massage is not only thought to be the best method of seduction, it’s a comforting and bonding experience in its own right - whether or not it leads on to more intimate activities. It’s not difficult to give a soothing and sensual massage even if you’re inexperienced. Apply a fragrant oil or lotion, warming it in your hands first, rather than dripping it straight onto the body. Be guided by your partner as to what feels good for them. And for safety, don’t work directly on the spine or dig into muscles too deeply - use a gentle or medium pressure.