The female orgasm and penetrative sex can be an elusive combination. According to randomly harvested statistics, approximately 70% of women are unable to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. When reading through the spools of 'advice' on the subject, I find it quite alarming how little it is mentioned that this is NOT a big deal.
A lot of Agony Aunts have reams of advice on 'feeling more comfortable with your partner' and 'learning to relax' amongst other issues, but this just isn't applicable to a lot of women. We are comfortable with our partners. Some of us have squeezed out a sprog in front of the other half. Some of us have a sexual repertoire containing more tawdry acts than you'd find in a rockstar's memoir. Some of us, well, we just live to 'smack that'. Doesn't mean we get to orgasm through penetration alone (and no guys, it does not mean that you're doing it wrong).
Most women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm and unfortunately it's an anatomical probability that no matter which shapes and angles you pull, the alignment for clitoral contact just isn't always going to be there. If you can't arrange yourselves so that your partner is hitting your clit, you just need a little help from a friend.
If you want a quick and easy solution, you might want to reach for a cock ring. They come in a range of shapes, sizes, textures and styles and every one is designed to do different things. Traditionally, cock rings have been considered a male erectile enhancement aid and there are plenty of cock rings out there (and indeed on our site) designed for that very function, but there is also a bounty of other rings out there designed specifically to get you off during penetrative sex.
This is not a great idea. I’m not standing in moral judgment here - I applaud anyone having broad horizons, but not when it compromises safety.
If you’d like to swallow make sure you check out your new guy’s sexual history first, and then familiarise yourself with how he tastes and feels.
Our bodies may not always respond as quickly as they used to, but the freedom that retirement offers leaves more time to play...
Always make sure you get enough foreplay so you’re fully primed and ready - and top up your natural moisture with masses of lube too.
You may have heard the word 'Kegel' banded about over the years and maybe noticed some of our Kegel exercisers and wondered, “what do these mystical tools do?"
In 1948 Dr Arnold Kegel wrote about the sexual health benefits of toning the pelvic floor – A group of muscles that sits in the hollow of the pelvis surrounding the groin. Championed by midwives, doctors, and everyone else who takes the time to do them, the practice of exercises that contract the PC muscles are beneficial to sexual sensations in both men and women.
Just like other muscles, the pelvic floor can be pumped, primed and buffed and it's a sexercise routine worth getting into. By undertaking Kegel exercises every day you will create a more powerful sensation during arousal, a tighter vaginal canal for the girls and bigger, better, longer orgasms for all. You'll also gain some boring health-related benefits such as improved continence and the lesser likelihood of having vaginal complications post-pregnancy – but we're mainly in it for the sex.
A woman's handbag is a sacred place. A Pandora's box filled with secrets, surprises and the tools of alchemy. So it's surprising that we don't always take into account our sexual health and gratification when packing our weapons of choice.
For all of the products labelled as a 'handbag vibrator' and the reels of erotica in which a dominant woman pulls an arsenal of sex toys from her very small, but clearly well planned-out clutch bag, I still think I'm alone amongst my girlfriends in carrying a petite mini vibe alongside my make-up. It's really time that changed.
Here's my hand-picked selection of the best vibrators for your handbag...
Lubricants fall into three basic types: water-based, silicone-based and oil-based - and they all improve your sex life in different ways.
Being pregnant may not make her feel very sexy - some women do, some don’t - but I wonder whether you’re making her feel special?
A man’s sexual performance is always going to be a sensitive subject, and very much tied up with his ego, but that doesn’t mean it’s off limits for discussion.