• Six Bondage & BDSM Myths DebunkedRecently a customer posted a thread in the Lovehoney Forum about female dominance. Her partner was asking her to be more dominant in bed and she wanted to know how to go about this without hurting him. It raised a little alarm in my mind. Do people really equate dominance with inflicting pain? Living in my own little bubble I presumed that the world of dominance had much more understanding.

    Negative images of bondage often begin with the idea that anyone into such stuff must be a ‘pervert’. But there is nothing shameful or wrong about having a taste for bondage, and accepting this is the first step to a kinkier sex life. The BDSM world is often misrepresented by the general media, giving us a distorted view on what it means to engage in 'alt. sex'. The myths surrounding BDSM are almost exclusively spawned from the extreme depictions that are commonly circulated and have gone some way to giving the scene its reputation as a seedy sexual underworld.

    Foreplay is out of the question - my wife only wants penetration. Please help!

    You don’t say whether it’s a new problem. If she’s always been like this, it may be because of some misplaced ideas about sex.

    ED is affecting my sex life and it is driving me crazy. Is a strap-on the answer?

    A strap-on would probably be a very good idea - but make sure you order one that’s hollow.

    I'm 50 and I struggle to orgasm with toys and I've never had one with a man. Any advice?

    An orgasm is actually a reflex reaction - and we can learn how to stimulate ourselves sufficiently so that one is naturally triggered.

    I've got a butt plug and I'm struggling with the insertion. How do I get past the anus resistance?

    You don’t mention the size of the butt plug. If you’re using one for the first time, then I suggest something small and slim.

    My wife says she has a low sex drive but we bought a vibe and now she uses it on her own Help!

    This is a bit of a ‘Moral Maze’ dilemma - there’s no easy way round it. I wonder how you’ve found out - and if you’re 100% sure?

    My girlfriend has a low libido but mine is high. Are there drugs available that increase libidos?

    You’ll be pleased to hear that help is on the way for your girlfriend... but unfortunately it’ll probably be another 18 months before ‘Flibanserin’ is with us.

    Guys, have a shave before going 'down south' and earn Brownie points!

    I’m all for a sexy two-day growth, but it hurts like hell when it’s in direct contact with the delicate female vulva (the words sand and paper spring to mind).

    I'm sexually active at 82 but I don't climax. Is it still safe for me to have sex at my age?

    Assuming you use common sense in not over exerting yourself, there’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t be doing it - and yes, it is quite safe!

    My husband I want to conceive but he seems to be getting more interested in porn. Help!

    It would be unusual for a couple, however much they still found each other attractive, to still want sex every day after 16 years together.

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