Recently a customer posted a thread in the Lovehoney Forum about female dominance. Her partner was asking her to be more dominant in bed and she wanted to know how to go about this without hurting him. It raised a little alarm in my mind. Do people really equate dominance with inflicting pain? Living in my own little bubble I presumed that the world of dominance had much more understanding.
Negative images of bondage often begin with the idea that anyone into such stuff must be a ‘pervert’. But there is nothing shameful or wrong about having a taste for bondage, and accepting this is the first step to a kinkier sex life. The BDSM world is often misrepresented by the general media, giving us a distorted view on what it means to engage in 'alt. sex'. The myths surrounding BDSM are almost exclusively spawned from the extreme depictions that are commonly circulated and have gone some way to giving the scene its reputation as a seedy sexual underworld.
You don’t say whether it’s a new problem. If she’s always been like this, it may be because of some misplaced ideas about sex.
A strap-on would probably be a very good idea - but make sure you order one that’s hollow.
An orgasm is actually a reflex reaction - and we can learn how to stimulate ourselves sufficiently so that one is naturally triggered.
You don’t mention the size of the butt plug. If you’re using one for the first time, then I suggest something small and slim.
This is a bit of a ‘Moral Maze’ dilemma - there’s no easy way round it. I wonder how you’ve found out - and if you’re 100% sure?
You’ll be pleased to hear that help is on the way for your girlfriend... but unfortunately it’ll probably be another 18 months before ‘Flibanserin’ is with us.
I’m all for a sexy two-day growth, but it hurts like hell when it’s in direct contact with the delicate female vulva (the words sand and paper spring to mind).
Assuming you use common sense in not over exerting yourself, there’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t be doing it - and yes, it is quite safe!
It would be unusual for a couple, however much they still found each other attractive, to still want sex every day after 16 years together.