• Over in the Orgasm Army forum on how far you would let your man go on his stag night, happycamper led us to an article in the Guardianabout a new women-only strip club opening up in Birmingham.

    The article, of course, is chock full of discussion about whether or not this is a business that can possibly work because women tend to go out to such a place only in groups, as a "girls' night out" type of fun, rather than see it as an erotic thing - which is all really interesting, but what I liked was this quote from John Lenkiewicz, director of the London-based Institute of Sexuality and Human Relations, and a psycho-sexual therapist, who finds it impossible to think that women might get turned on by watching half-naked men gyrate. He says:

    "They would go for a laugh rather than for sexual gratification. Women are interested in attention, protection and humour rather than physical attributes."

    Even for therapists and psychologists who have been dealing with relationship problems for years and years, there are a few problems that keep cropping up that manage to stump them or leave them floundering for a good solution. At least so says the Metro in their article "Relationship Experts Open Up".

    What trips them up the most?

    Jeremy Clarkson Enjoys the Erotic Car Seat Vibrator on Top Gear Truly, it's a dream come true. This evening on Top Gear on BBC 2, Lovehoney's humble Erotic Car Seat Seduction Massager had the honour of gently massaging the buttocks of politically incorrect car-mad motormouth Jeremy Clarkson. In case you missed it, the programme's repeated again on Wednesday on BBC 2 at 7 o'clock. Or you can see it on the BBC iPlayer for 30 days.

    Either way, we'll try to bring you some pictures of Mr C having his rear-end electronically fondled very soon.

    Hot Sex

    McBirdie says: Shut your yapper, Sexpert.

    According to an article in The Sun, psychologist Dr. Sandra Pertot has come out with the new theory that not everyone is capable of having hot sex. She says that there are as many different sexual personality types as there are personality types and therefore, some of us just won't be able to get the job done.

    "We accept there are so many different personality types, why don't we accept that there are so many differences in sex? Just like some people will never be able to become a Hollywood actor, some people won't be able to have hot sex - so why do sex therapists say they can?

    If you type in 'great sex' to Google, you will find hundreds of books promising you lusty sex. From day one of my career, I had couples coming to me saying they were upset they were not having passionate sex.

    The implication is, if you follow the programme in these books, you will have hot sex."

    Well. How nice.

    Over in another forum, we got to talking about Durex Tingle lube - one of my all-time favourites. But I was surprised when someone said that as the lube was silicone, that you had to be careful with it when using it with silicone toys.

    I was surprised by this - I've always known Tingle to be a water-based lube (we're checking on that at the moment), so considered it completely safe. Clearly, in this situation, there is only one thing to do...

    An Experiment.

    Ask Birdie...

    Oh, Sex Toys. So tempting, but how do you know what to buy? What works? What doesn't? What is even OUT THERE to try? You have questions, I have answers (most of the time...)

    Dear Birdie,

    So much of what you see about 'sex' and 'sexiness' seems to focus on the raw physicality of the act and tarting it up at all hours and on all occasions. I can appreciate that these elements do have their place at times but surely there are some more inspirational approaches out there to mingle in my headspace?

    This Aussie Needs More

    A lot of people didn't think we were serious when we said we were going to collect sex toys for recycling as part of our Rabbit Amnesty scheme.

    But we were and here's the proof! 

    How Your Sex Toys are Recycled

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    When it comes to melding technology and sex, there aren't many people more in the know than Kyle Machulis of sex-tech site Slashdong. Kyle has several reports from the recent Arse Electronika "conference about pr0nnovation", including this clip where he says really nice things about iBuzz Two (after demonstrating a moaning femmebot).

    You can see more of Kyle's Arse Electronika photos on Flickr.

    Durex Play Sensations Personal Lubricant Sachets<br />

    After my sleepless night last night pondering "America's Favorite" lube, I've had lubes on the brain all day. Which is not un-distracting at work, though it does make for some amusing conversations with your officemates when you ponder which lube would best make for coffee mug sliding races on the desk. (We thought it would be a heavy silicone based lube, if you were curious - though you should feel free to try it out for yourselves)

    While I may still not know what "America's Favorite" is, or even how that is defined, I do know some good lubes that serve their own purposes. It is always a sound idea to match the lube to the job, so I present to you:

    Five Lubes for Five Jobs

    It's the second of our videos from the Venus Sex Show, in which my johnson gets a treat from a masturbation machine.

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