Whether you're a fan or not, there's no getting away form the fact that Fifty Shades of Grey, now officially the bestselling British book of all time, has shone the spotlight on the BDSM novel.
Lovehoney has long been in on the secret that bondage-themed erotica is some of the most popular, and Xcite authors produce some of the kinkiest.
The latest novel from Xcite is The Perfect Submissive, and we've snagged an interview with author Kay Jaybee.
Read on as Kay Jaybee talks us through what goes into writing erotica, her inspiration and (in the words of Christian Grey) her 'hard limits' when it comes to being a BDSM author.
In this week's Toy with me Tuesday, we used the Kama Sutra Playing Cards to give a whole new spin on strip poker. Can you name the winning hand?
I bought a set of jiggle balls but they feel too big - are they?
The larger and lighter your jiggle balls, the easier they are to use. Not all women will need to start with the larger sized balls, and that may be the case with you.
When jiggle balls are too big, they will feel uncomfortable and you’ll feel like you want to the remove them as soon as possible. If the balls feel too big then you might be ready to move onto a smaller and heavier set for a bigger challenge (and more thrills!).
A progressive kegel ball set like the Lelo Luna Pleasure Beads (which have different weighted balls you can swap in and out) or Je Joue Ami Kegel Exercisers (which have three different sets of jiggle balls and instructions on how to use them) will provide you with balls of different sizes and weights to find the perfect match for your body without needing to buy multiple sets.
Lelo have also recently released the Lelo Luna Mini Pleasure Bead System, which is specially designed for women under 30 or those who have not yet had children.
If it’s power you’re after, it’s a Magic Wand Vibrator you need. Originally designed as back and shoulder massagers, these mains-powered sex toys can make you go from zero to orgasm in under 60 seconds.
You might have seen them on mainstream TV or films (or even in a porn film) and the Hitachi Magic Wand is a bit of a legend when it comes to sex toys. Unfortunately, you can no longer buy a Hitachi in the EU because of voltage and safety issues.
So, if you want experience the power of a wand, try one of our UK-safe magic wands. The Lovehoney Magic Wand Vibrator (£39.99) or the Lovehoney Deluxe Magic Wand Vibrator (£49.99) are both absolutely brilliant - just plug them in at the wall and you’re ready to go.
Magic wand vibes work brilliantly as sex toys, but don’t forget they’re also great for using as they were originally intended - as massagers!
Work on those aches and knots in your muscles, relax and then let the wand work its magic between your legs.
Spanking is a practice that teeters on the edge of vanilla and BDSM. You don’t have to be into the bells and whistles of fetish fun in order to enjoy the odd slap on the behind during sex, and there’s a lot of fun to be had with the bare palm/buttock combo in the boudoir.
If you do enjoy the odd botty spank then you might consider trying a spanking paddle. These simple bat-like toys offer a much needed extension to the hand when it comes to face-to-face positions, allowing you to try spanking in new ways.
If you’re a little sheepish about making the move from palm to paddle, the Love to Love spanking range may well be your ticket to paddlesville. The Love to Love Spanking Paddle, ‘Spank Me Baby’ Spanking Powder and ‘Girls Don’t Cry’ After Spanking Cream turn paddle play into a whole new bat game.
As sex is an activity that involves many different muscle groups, getting down and dirty can be both pleasurable and practical when it comes to helping control calories. After all, who’s going to complain about a little burn when you’re in the throes of passion?
I bought the silver balls after reading Fifty Shades of Grey, but I can’t feel anything.
Am I doing something wrong?
If you want the same orgasmic sensation that Ana experienced, you need to check that you’ve bought a set which contain the free-roaming weights (like the Oriental Ben Wa Balls). Some kegel exercisers are solid, meaning they don’t provide much in the way of sensation unless you’re really moving around. We always state in product descriptions if the balls are solid or weighted, so double check in our Ben Wa balls category.
You could always try a pair of vibrating ben wa balls like the Orgasm Gold Multispeed Vibrating Love Balls (£10.00, pictured left) to really kick up the stimulation a notch.
Write a sex toy review for Lovehoney and you could be in with a chance to win a whopping £100 to spend on whatever you like!
Each month we also choose a selection of highly commended reviews and reward them each with a whopping 2,000 Lovehoney Oh! Points to spend as they wish, or perhaps save up to spend on a luxury sex toy.
Review of the Month
Our winning review this month comes from Kitty Buzz who first reviewed the Leaf Life and the Groovy Chick, neither of which hit the spot for her, before finding and reviewing 'the one'.
"If I was only allowed to use one toy for the rest of my life, the G-Spot Smoothie would be the one I would choose... Why are you still reading this review? Go buy one!"
Read the full review by Kitty Buzz.
Our runners up this month cover bondage, lingerie, male sex toys, vibrators and that sexy book!