As children, we are taught that we cannot get our own way by using physical force. I think there is something of this lesson that can be put to practice when taking your first steps into a dominant role. Placing someone into physical bondage while you remain free does not necessarily place you in command. If you take all of the power but have no idea what to do with it, you are in pretty much the same boat as your captive. It is my firm belief that couples can gain much more from power play by leaving out the equipment at first and focusing entirely on one another.
Becoming accustomed to a role as a dominant lover takes time, even if you're used to leading sex. Although your previous dominance probably hasn't gone unnoticed, it has been unspoken and hasn't been the focus of your or your lover's attention. All lights are on you and what you're going to do next.
Ecksvie is a bi-curious female, going steady with a boyfriend (although looking for a girlfriend as well!)
Sex toys are important to me because they’re so much more than a quick and easy way to get off! They’re a great way of exploring your partner and discovering what works for you and reaching places that fingers and… erm… other appendages can’t reach! Sex toys give you so many options to pleasure your partner, as well as making it so much easier to pleasure yourself.
I often hear talk from those I like to call the “unenlightened” who believe that if you have a partner you don’t need sex toys, but nothing could be further from the truth. My sex life has improved several times over since I started using toys, and my boyfriend uses them on me more than I use them myself! Having a fulfilling sex life features on the priority list of many couples, so why is it acceptable to pleasure yourself or your partner in one way but not in another? There’s only so far you can go with bodies alone, and there’s no reason to restrict yourself in that way.
With their bloodlust and animal passions, vampires and werewolves are two smoulderingly sexy supernatural species. But which is the hottest - vampire or werewolf? We decided that this Halloween we should let you decide...
From Monday 11th October, you can vote for the sexiest vampire on the poll (it's up on the right -->)
From Monday 18th October, you can vote for the sexiest werewolf on the poll.
And in the ultimate showdown, we'll pit the winning sexiest vampire against the sexiest werewolf in the week leading up to Halloween.
Who will be your supernatural sex champion? You decide!
Bullets tend to be the quietest vibrators or why not try a bigger but silent vibrator?
The countdown is on for the season to be spooked and Lovehoney is fully prepared to let you dazzle, cast spells and seduce this Halloween in our fantastic range of sexy costumes and accessories.
Will you be tricking or treating this Halloween? There will certainly be a lot of treating once you have checked out our new range of wickedly sexy witch costumes, bone-shaking skeleton outfits and devilishly naughty devil ensembles.
Oh yes, in true Lovehoney style, we have really gone to a town called Spooksville this year and this is what we have got to show for it:
Eerily Fantastic Costumes
Will you be casting spells when wearing this delectable Dreamgirl Hocus Pocus Witch Costume? This sexy witch outfit allows you to wear the dress in 6 different ways - from halter to strapless, each look is uniquely sexy and perfectly customisable to your spooky desires.
Perhaps you'll be rattling a few bones in this Fever Skeleton Strapless Tutu Dress? By donning this sexy tube dress with a bouncy tutu skirt, you are sure to have knees knocking, bones shaking and teeth chattering with lust!
Or bewitching everyone by switching between a devil and angel in this Dreamgirl Reversible Angel/Devil Costume? This 8-piece reversible costume lets you choose whether you want to be naughty or nice and comes with a whole host of accessories including devil horns, halo, name badge and diamante wand!
Accessories are key to adding that extra touch of spooky glamour and sex appeal to a Halloween costume, whether it's a pair of Music Legs Spiderweb Suspender Stockings, Glittery Devil Horn Hair Clips or Mini Top Hat with Netting - there will be something for every outfit!
So you have got the look and have accessorised it to perfection - but there is just one thing missing! Why not treat yourself to a little Death by Orgasm with Lovehoney's gothic-inspired range of sex toys?
Let them crawl out of their coffins and treat you to a range of hauntingly pleasurable vibrations - whether it is the bullet vibrators or vibrating cock rings you decide to unleash. Click Here to view the full range.
Sexy Halloween Costumes, Toys and Gifts
To view our full range of hauntingly sexy costumes, spine-chillingly pleasurable toys and spookily fantastic accessories for Halloween 2010, Click Here
It's back to basics this week, with trusty lubes and bullet vibrators proving their worth and getting some great sex toy reviews. A chance this week to step back from all-singing, all-dancing contraptions and take stock of some bedroom staples.
This week's sex toy review round up
First up this week is LokiDay, who joined the ranks of "smug post-coital reviewer" of Maximus Anal Lubricant 250ml. The trusty lube had terrific staying power, outlasting the relationship and finding a place in LokiDay's heart. "When the friend-with-benefits turned out to be a friend-with-boundary-issues I ditched the bloke and kept the lube. Never had a regret." Read the review.
Another happy customer, Albeit needs look no further after having bought the Tracey Cox Supersex Love Lube 100ml. Educating us all, Albeit lets us know that there is a technical term for the sticky residue that lesser lubes leave: "glop". Read the review.
New uni student DeQuincey243 must have shocked the postman as she grabbed her package containing the Ammunition RO-80mm Bullet Vibrator out of his hands. Afterwards, we reckon she may have left her housemates wondering what the thumping was as, "it brought me to my knees - I fell off the bed!" Read the review.
AbsintheFaerieis a self-proclaimed sex toy expert, "chances are I'd been there and wet the sheets." But she found the Mini One-Touch Wireless Bullet Vibratora great toy for, "people who have drawers upon drawers of complicated devices and perhaps want to get back to basics."Read the review.
And now for something different with Mayme's review of the G World Gorgeous Criss Cross Ribbon Body Set. Prepare yourselves, this one is certainly pant-stirring, "He sucked, rubbed, licked and nibbled me into a frenzy through the fabric... In the end I was begging him to rip it off!" Read the review.
Whether you've been trying toys with bells and whistles or have gone back to basics, let everyone know about it and add a new review.
Ammunition RO-100mm Soft Tip Bullet Vibrator
This bullet is packed with explosive results! With 3 vibration speeds, this sleek and powerful soft-tipped bullet vibrator is poised and ready to target your pleasure-spots with precision for devastatingly orgasmic effects, as Lovehoney's resident sex toy Annabelle Knight explains.
Find out more: Ammunition RO-100mm Soft Tip Bullet Vibrator
Halloween Special 2010 - the countdown is on and Lovehoney has brand new costumes and sex toys to help you celebrate all things pleasurable and spooky!
Death By Orgasm Fang Banger Vibrating Cock Ring
It's the best way to enjoy sex with another being - alive or undead! If your sexual desires are as strong as your blood-lust, slide this rich red cock ring over his stiff love stake and the vibrating fangs will make you scream... with pleasure! Annabelle Knight reveals how this supernatural accessory is more than just a set of fangs. Prepare for a super-supernatural encounter with this vampire!
Find out more: Death By Orgasm Fang Banger Vibrating Vampire Cock Ring
Fever Skeleton Strapless Tutu Dress
This is one skeleton you'd love to find in your closet. This sexy tube dress with a bouncy tutu skirt is sure to have knees knocking, bones shaking and teeth chattering with lust. Modelled by Lovehoney's Lucy Reeves, it's time to shake, rattle and roll your way into the Halloween spirit!
Find out more: Fever Skeleton Strapless Tutu Dress
A thread was started on the Lovehoney Forumasking what people thought about to help them orgasm, and we thought we'd throw the question open on the blog's poll (on the right hand side of the blog). Who do you fantasise about most to help you climax?
We had 300 responses and the results are as follows:
Real-life partner (past or present) 45.61%, Real-life person (not your partner) 31.76%, Nameless faceless stranger 19.26%, Specific porn star 3.38%.
So it seems that real people are the fantasy for the majority of people who voted in the poll. Is this the same for you, or do you like to fantasise about completely made up people?