• Are Men More Likely To Have Sex With a Stranger? Plus, Win a Satin Blackout Blindfold!

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    by Nicole on 29 September 2013 77 comments  |  Add a comment

    Win! Tease Me Soft Satin Blackout BlindfoldSex with a stranger is the subject of many sexy daydreams, erotic novels and porn movies, but does it ever happen in real life?

    Have you ever had anonymous sex with someone you didn't know? Would you?

    With anonymous sex being a top fantasy for many (source), strangers roleplay is a safe way to explore that desire.

    Many couples find adding a touch of anonymity to their play increases passion, which could explain why blindfolds are such a desired bedroom accessory.

    To help you get started, we're giving you the chance to win a Lovehoney Tease Me Soft Satin Blackout Blindfold (£16.99)! Leave a comment below before October 4th to be automatically entered.

    Read on to find out whether men or women are more likely to bed a stranger, and more...



    • A famous study shows what happens when strangers were approached on the street and offered sex. While 75% of males agreed to have sex with the female participant who propositioned them, the results were very different for women. In fact, none of the females approached agreed to have sex with the male participant. Would you accept a unsolicited offer of sex? [If A Guy Asked 100 Women On The Street For Sex, How Many Would Say Yes? - lehmiller.com]
    • One Night Only Erotic Encounters edited by Violet BlueIf you're looking for erotic fiction based around sex with strangers, check out One Night Only Erotic Encounters (right, £8.00) edited by Violet Blue and Thrill Seeker by Kristina Lloyd (£5.00). One of the erotic short story compilations written by Lovehoney customers, The Intimate Stranger, also features incredibly steamy stories with characters who don't know each other (the clue is in the name!)
    1. Our Video of the Week this Sunday is in fact two videos, made to be watched together. Find out what happens when a man asks women for sex on the street, and then compare it to what happens when a woman does the same thing.

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    Comments (77)

    • Nathaniel: September 29, 2013 09:26
      I never liked anonymous sex with strangers. I always felt like they never knew what to do or how to do it. I'd rather have someone who knew what I liked.
    • oldtakeover.: September 29, 2013 09:28
      Yes, because I blame it on male hormones.
      I won't do it myself because I think a lot of my wife and respect her and of cause we still have great sex after 40 years.
    • OldTimeLover: September 29, 2013 09:33
      Typo. oldtakeover should be OldTimeLover.
    • Jen: September 29, 2013 10:12
      I couldn't do it. I could only have sex with someone I know and trust. Sex is intimate, and without love and trust, i think it wouldn't be right.
    • Don_Don: September 29, 2013 11:14
      Never tried one but would really like to...
    • Stevie: September 29, 2013 11:21
      Oh would be so much fun to blindfold my partner with that lovely Lovehoney luxury Blindfold! =D
    • xmorningxgloryx: September 29, 2013 12:08
      Lol them videos are hilarious!
    • Tasha: September 29, 2013 12:20
      I'd love this, at the moment we're using a tie :x
    • lillithlibby: September 29, 2013 12:31
      Wooo :-):-):-) great blog :-):-) blindfolds are fun it hightens the sensations and suspense of what's going on around you great fun for temperature play :-):-)
    • Dowster1: September 29, 2013 12:54
      50/50 split
    • Miss wilco: September 29, 2013 13:05
      I think a lot would.. Love the blindfold! ;)
    • PS: September 29, 2013 13:34
      Yes
    • Mr P: September 29, 2013 13:37
      No its better with someone you know (wife/girlfriend) they know where the right spots to touch are
    • Lou22: September 29, 2013 13:39
      The thought of sex with a stranger doesn't appeal to me at all even as a fantasy.
      Love being blindfolded though, would love to try this as we need a new one :-)
    • wildflower: September 29, 2013 13:40
      Great as a fantasy but not in real life. Love the idea of being blindfolded though!
    • Imogen: September 29, 2013 14:14
      I've never really been interested in the idea of sex with a stranger, but love the idea of being blindfolded!
    • AnnaW: September 29, 2013 14:19
      I don't think I'd be interested in actually having sex with a stranger, though roleplay could be fun. I love BDSM though, so I'm sure the blindfold would get used for other things ;)
    • sinead: September 29, 2013 14:32
      I think the difference is the majority of men go looking for the one nighter with strangers where-as for most woman it happens completely impulsively! Of course there are exceptions!!
    • tre: September 29, 2013 14:53
      oh yes please
    • Eloise: September 29, 2013 15:21
      Ooo so pretty :)
    • mrs average: September 29, 2013 15:28
      I think it just goes to show that men are more likely to want a quick fix for sex where as women are looking for a meaningful relationship.
      Also the woman looks way hotter that the man. I think with the right man and the right approach more of the women might say yes.
    • Candied Citrus: September 29, 2013 15:30
      Those links made for some interesting reading.

      I must say it's not a secret fantasy of mine or, if it is, it's even a secret to myself! I personally don't think I could have sex without any emotional intimacy.

    • gem: September 29, 2013 16:33
      Just couldn't do it neither could my OH. Interesting blog though.
    • fizzy: September 29, 2013 16:35
      the blindfold looks lovely i bet it feels lovely and soft!
    • Andrew: September 29, 2013 17:09
      we would have so much fun with that blindfold. it would be great to have something new to spice up our sex life.
    • Ravyre: September 29, 2013 17:12
      Like most people replying, I don't think I could outside of a relationship. Saying that though, there seems to be plenty from Jeremy Kyle who are happy to jump in bed/shed/bus stop with anything that has a pulse. Ahah. :P
    • Dean: September 29, 2013 17:46
      Sex with strangers can never match sex with someone you love.
    • Kimberley king: September 29, 2013 17:47
      Men are deffinately more likely to have se with a stranger as I think women are more conscious about sti's wouldn't mind winning this blind fold to add to our very small bondage collection me and the other half have just started to bring bondage into our bedroom antics an would much like to have this prize please !!!!!! Xx
    • Rachel: September 29, 2013 18:23
      I think quite a lot of women would be willing to have sex with a stranger, I just think that men are more comfortable with expressing their sexual interests etc
    • Blonde vixen 13: September 29, 2013 19:53
      Sometimes when my partner blindfolds me
      I pretend I'm having sex with Gerard butler!
    • rag doll: September 29, 2013 20:13
      I have one night stands before and whilst fun in the short term, they don't make the best first sexual explorations. personally i think they take a lot of mental exercise as its difficult to not become emotionally arched. however, having sex with a third party can be a great experience! it can really help you learn what you like without the pressure of pleasing your partner or their experience or preferences limiting you. a change of dynamic is also great fun weather it is in the form of role-ply or a third party.

    • jj: September 29, 2013 20:34
      Everyone was a stranger once :)
    • Caroline: September 29, 2013 20:36
      It seems like a good idea at the time but usually it's very disappointing sex !
    • Amber: September 29, 2013 20:41
      No I wouldn't. I'd be too worried about STD's.
    • victoria newman: September 29, 2013 21:16
      i kind of have, i say kind of because the first time i had sex with my OH all i knew was his name and that he drove a mini! been together 3 and half years now :-) I would definitely not do it now though xx
    • jess: September 29, 2013 22:08
      I've usualy had the worse sex with strangers.. There has to be a connection for me
    • delilahxx: September 29, 2013 22:09
      Gorgeous :D
    • rebecca: September 29, 2013 22:17
      probs not as iv got a partner but for the sake of the question i will add what if i wasnt with sarah

      depends how kinky they are

      but then again if i new that they probs wouldnt be a stranger unless i watched how they liked it first

      so its a might lol

      dont u feel like i answered that well not :P x

    • Emma Clarke: September 29, 2013 22:37
      Sex with a stranger is exciting but sex with my husband can be just the same when we use our bondage stuff. We are just missing a blindfold so this would be great prize to win and use
    • Laura: September 29, 2013 23:55
      I have had sex with a stranger..he's now my OH and has been for 2 years :) wouldn't do it again though!
    • Kellymichelle: September 30, 2013 00:14
      I have had sex with strangers but I wouldn't have sex with a man that approached me in the middle of the street. I'd assume it was a wind up!
    • Toy Addict: September 30, 2013 09:35
      10,000 different men... that's a lot of potential STDs.
    • bob: September 30, 2013 11:31
      fun videos
    • Jess: September 30, 2013 13:29
      Yes please!
    • Paul: September 30, 2013 15:58
      Have done in the past during my single years and subsequently after separating and it was a thrill, however it doesnt have the same intimacy or scope to experiment. But me and the OH are branching out and experimenting more and more. Bit of light bondage and into to toys is an eye opener!!
    • Trix: September 30, 2013 17:48
      I think the uncertainty of sex with a stranger would be too nerve-racking for me. But the sensory deprivation of a blindfold might be fun with someone I love and trust!
    • LetsTryThis: September 30, 2013 18:01
      It would depend on the definition of 'stranger'. ;o) But for me a blindfold isn't about anonymity, it's about the tease of not knowing what is coming and when!
    • Sand: September 30, 2013 18:59
      I'm not bold enough to have anonymous sex with a stranger.
    • JayJay: September 30, 2013 23:38
      Nah, I couldn't do it. Sex has to be meaningful to me.
    • Ness: October 01, 2013 08:31
      I must admit that I have been able to have more casual encounters more often when compared to male friends. It's rare for me to agree to a guy.

      When younger my best friend often have casual encounters which we started by the man, but the thing is, often they were both drunk.

      Generally when asked by men now, many are drunk. Drunk casual encounters aren't fun at all.

      I do love this experiment. It reminded me of a few experiments I did during my psychology cause. Although I must admit not all the responses were positive and a few complained and made a public scene.

      I'd love to write more about my casual encounters with strangers.... but it's just finding the right mag. I know so many who think it's so daring and things, but generally they are often a lot nicer than some other sexual encounters.

      Anyway, another great post =)

    • PAD: October 01, 2013 10:05
      Sorry, I don't get it. but hey we're all different.
    • K: October 01, 2013 10:23
      Well liking the whole idea about it
    • Cornish89: October 01, 2013 15:30
      Those videos are hilarious! Would love to win the blindfold! X
    • dizzygirl: October 01, 2013 16:35
      I want to try being blindfolded.
    • Krissy Novacaine: October 01, 2013 21:45
      Sensation deprivation is so much fun!
    • Chris: October 01, 2013 22:34
      I think the fantasy is great but the reality wouldn't be.
    • kev: October 02, 2013 17:11
      Seex with a stranger no too much respect for my marriage.
      It can work in role play but sex should be intimate thing.
      Sensory deprivation can make sex more fun as all sensations are amplified!
    • Stuart P: October 02, 2013 18:05
      The wife would really enjoy this ;-)
    • Charlotte: October 02, 2013 23:50
      I think people need to worry more about STIs to ask a stranger for sex, but then again who am i to judge. I've had a one night stand before..

      although a little bit of role-play with my boyfriend could be interesting :)

    • Heaven: October 03, 2013 01:02
      I love the color on this blindfold it is too cute. You always have the best giveaways.
    • LP: October 03, 2013 03:13
      Well, now, I would have to say no since I am married... BUT hypothetically, if I were single and just happened to walk by a straight Matt Bomer lookalike (think White Collar, wearing a nice hat and sexy tailored suit NOT Magic Mike) I would have no problem asking him if he was free for the next (hopefully longer than) 20 minutes. ;)


    • Sassy: October 03, 2013 14:04
      I can't say I'm surprised by the findings .....its far easier for us women to pick up! I'm waaaay to self conscious for sex with a stranger although I can see why the idea appeals to some.
      Marvellous prize .....never used a blindfold but can imagine how alive & alert it must make all the other senses. So erotic ;)
    • MKelly: October 03, 2013 14:10
      "If a man asked 100 woman on the street to have sex with him, how many would say yes?"
      Depends on how attractive he was I'd think...
    • MrsMcX: October 03, 2013 17:33
      It's not my thing at all. I would much rather have meaningful sex than just a one night stand with someone I didn't know.

      But with regards to others comments about men being more likely, I think that's a bit sexist. There's plenty of women that would have sex with a stranger. Presuming for a second we're talking about a straight male, the stranger he is having sex with is a women, and therefore just as likely.

    • Naughty Miss K: October 03, 2013 18:35
      I disagree with men being more likely to have sex with strangers, I think people are becoming a lot more liberal with sex on a whole (or just getting found out more than they used to!)

      Personally, it's not something I've experienced (yet). It's always been someone I've known before hand, so can't comment on the quality of sex with strangers, although I imagine it varies so much stranger to stranger.

    • Foxy c: October 03, 2013 20:29
      21st century sex. Men aren't necessarily more likely to have sex with a stranger but through open conversations with many male friends they would definitely take the opportunity if it arose. As long as it was consensual and safe... its another on the bucket list. Vanilla sex isn't always enough. And in this day and age sex isnt just for 'love'. Its exploring, its about new experiences and always being open minded. Stranger sex, safely... theyd try anything once!
    • nonoisaidso: October 03, 2013 20:40
      Hell no. Way to dangerous.
    • Rachael: October 03, 2013 21:20
      Much better with someone who knows what turns you on.
    • Andy: October 03, 2013 21:32
      Aids.
    • Kinky&Curvy: October 03, 2013 21:36
      The only advantage of sex with a stranger is if they were really bad in bed and so you wouldn't have to see them again (thankfully) OR they could've been really good and you'll always have that one night that rocked your life haha :P
      Personally though, it isn't my thing, I prefer to know someone for a while before I sleep with them xx
    • Big Bike Guy: October 03, 2013 21:49
      Only ever had sex with a stranger once. Great sex & she was a lovely girl, just got chatting in a bar...
    • rness: October 03, 2013 23:16
      I think that if it was guaranteed that no one would know, then it would be a 50 50 split.
    • Han Solo: October 03, 2013 23:31
      It's not the 1930's anymore. If you want sex then have sex.
    • Dave: October 04, 2013 16:03
      My wife loves being blindfolded! This would be an excellent and exciting prize
    • gareth: October 04, 2013 17:14
      I think either one is likely to

      All depends if your willing to take that chance

      Weityer your open to descus it

      Or weather you ruin your relationship by overstepping the boundaries

      It all depends on your relationship and so many factors

    • MissTig: October 23, 2013 18:11
      We would make great use of this :)
    • leah: April 13, 2014 20:56
      Yeah ive had sex with strangers in the past when i was young and single it wasnt people who approached me on the street though more like clubs :-/
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