The Key To Happiness Is THINKING We Have More Sex Than Other People
A new study has shown that when it comes to sex, we're happy when we we're keeping up with the Joneses and even happier if we think we're having MORE SEX than our peers.
Tim Wadsworth, associate professor of sociology at the University of Colorado Boulder says, "Having more sex makes us happy, but thinking that we are having more sex than other people makes us even happier."
The results of Wadsworth's study of how sexual frequency corresponds with happiness noted:
- Respondents who reported having sex at least two to three times a month were 33 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness than those who reported having no sex during the previous 12 months.
- Those reporting a once-weekly frequency were 44 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness.
- Those reporting having sex two to three times a week are 55 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness.
- If members of a peer group are having sex two to three times a month but believe their peers are on a once-weekly schedule, their probability of reporting a higher level of happiness falls by about 14 percent
So while matching our peers (and bettering them) makes us feel happier, it would appear to be a dicey game. The fact we're social creatures and engage in social comparison often leaves us feeling lacking. As Wadsworth says, “We’re usually not looking down and therefore thinking of ourselves as better off, but we’re usually looking up and therefore feeling insufficient and inadequate.”
What do you think? Is it quality over quantity? Do you feel happier if you think you're having a better sex life than your friends? Are you one of the rare few who don't let comparisons with other people influence your happiness?
"Sex and the Pursuit of Happiness: How Other People's Sex Lives are Related to Our Sense of Well-Being", was published in the February edition of Social Indicators Research. The survey included questions about sexual frequency since 1989. Wadsworth’s sample included 15,386 people who were surveyed between 1993 and 2006. Read more about Wadsworth’s study soon in Colorado Arts & Sciences Magazine. Read the original press release at University of Colorado Boulder.