• I'm unfit and find some sex positions a challenge - can you suggest some easy ones?

    I'm unfit and find some sex positions a challenge - can you suggest some easy ones?

    So pillows. Yes, you heard me. If you haven’t already discovered them, pillows are your new best friend.


    julie-peasgoodI'm an overweight man, and even though im trying to lose weight, its a slow process. The girl I'm seeing doesnt care about the weight and loves me regardless, but I'm so unfit than I struggle to pleasure her through any means other than oral sex that I'm worried that she'll get bored. Any suggestions other than letting her do all the work?

    Julie Answers...First of all, well done on your efforts to lose weight - effective and long term weight loss should be a slow process as it’s usually lifestyle changes that will provide effective results, rather than quick-fix fad diets.

    As you say, your girlfriend loves you regardless so don’t be too hard on yourself. She wouldn’t be with you if she wasn’t happy and satisfied, but I can understand you don’t feel easy about her doing all the work.

    So pillows. Yes, you heard me. If you haven’t already discovered them, pillows are your new best friend. They can be used to cushion sensitive areas for you and to raise your girlfriend up. Here are a few unfit-friendly sexual positions and pillow related tips I hope you can try and enjoy.

    Missionary Position: Place pillows under your girlfriends bottom to raise her hips to a comfortable level for penetration. For low knee impact but high penetration impact, enter your girlfriend from a kneeling position.

    Doggy Style: Doggy style is fantastic for people of all shapes and sizes. Vaginal penetration is deep, you can enjoy the view, it’s a great posture for G-spot stimulation and it leaves your girlfriend’s hands free to pleasure herself. Again, you can place pillows under her knees to raise her up a little if required. If you find your stomach is a little large for comfort, you can try entering your girlfriend from a standing position, with her on her hands and knees at the edge of the bed. This provides an even lower impact on your knees and offers you a stronger, steadier foundation for control.

    Spooning: This is a relaxing, comfortable classic and a favourite for many. Your girlfriend lies on her side and you lie on your side behind her – echoing her position and holding her close. Both couples can move gently and in unison with virtual no strain on the joints. To help you along your way you can also hold her top leg and use it as an anchor for penetration and control.

    Oral Sex: Many women have some of their best orgasms from oral sex. In fact, many woman can only orgasm from oral stimulation. Please don’t worry that you’re letting your girlfriend down by only offering oral sex - I suspect she’s far from unhappy about it!


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